Everytime I get a close girlfriend he seems to take over the whole friendship. He goes by their house without telling me, he calls them and they call him while at work and then my friend dosen't even tell me she talked to my husband at all. I find out other ways. This has happened with 3 friends already. He says he is not cheating he just enjoys attention from other women he actually admited it in counseling. He says it's all innocent.
2006-12-30 03:57:44 · 22 answers · asked by meka30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly he may have some insecurities and the attention from the other women help to ease them. It has nothing to do with you and I am sure that you are wonderful! As long as he is not doing anything with them or trying to do anything with them, I would not worry too much, just tell him to at least be upfront about it, but if it bothers you that much, there is no reason that you should have to deal with something that is hurting you and he should respect that. My husband talks to my girl friends all the time, I know that he would never do anything but at the same time I like to know what is said and when he is talking to them and when he wants to visit. But being sneaky or hididng it is just going to cause problems between the two of you and he needs to know that.
2006-12-30 04:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, THOSE ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS IF THEY ARE ACTING LIKE THAT TOWARD YOUR HUSBAND! If your going to counseling thats a good start. Stick with it and get some new friends! If your husband keeps this behavior up then you need to question your marriage.
2006-12-30 04:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by sariabeauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there's more to this. I think all men enjoy attention from other women but most of us don't take it to the extreme that your husband has. Attention from someone else makes us feel good and that we are still desirable and attractive. For me it stops there. I would never go to my wife's friends house without her....that's a bit wierd and going too far with it. I don't know that I would like my friends allowing this to go on either. Stay in counseling.
2006-12-30 04:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
need attention from other females to the point where he is moving in on your friends is not innocent. he needs counseling of his own. it's a problem.
2006-12-30 04:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said your (so called) friend doesn't tell you her & your husband spoke, so you can't trust her. He admitted this in couseling?,..What did the counselor say to that? This just doesn't sound good at all. It apperars you have allready expressed your feelings, and he's not listening. So maybe he will listen when he gets served divorce papers. Whitch is what I would do.
2006-12-30 04:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ewww, he doesn't sound like husband material. I would go crazy trying to figure out ways to trust him. How could he be so eager for attention that he would stoop as low as talking to your girlfriends? Maybe you could try giving him more attention from you. What did your counselor suggest?
2006-12-30 04:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong he should not go over your friends house unless you know that he is going over there. Sounds to me he is trying to get with your friends. I would be really upset if my husband did that to me. I think you need to find new friends and possibly a new husband. They both are sneaky and not telling you anything. It is OK if he likes attention from other women if it is innocent attention but he is going out to their homes and trying to get more then just attention he is wanting some physical contact with these what you call friends of yours. If my friends husband came over my house without my friend I would tell her what he did. He is not innocent at all.
2006-12-30 08:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all like attention from other females but he is taking it to far...he is probably cheating at this point.
2006-12-30 04:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's all innocent, why the secrecy? As a married man he should have enough respect for you not to go to the home of another woman without you being present, especially a Friend of yours. Watch you back girl, you are being lied to. Not only by your husband who is acting slicker than cat mess by trying to convince you of his innocence by bringing this up in counseling, but by your so called girlfriends who are seducing and sleeping with your husband. If it were all innocent, there would be no secrecy or secret phone calls and your so called friends would still be talking to you rather than to your husband, oh and everything would be out in the open.
2006-12-30 04:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy the company of woman as I grew up with 3 older sisters its always been easy to talk with woman. However I do go out of my way to distance myself from my wifes female friends to keep her from thinking I am having an affair.
2006-12-30 04:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋