sometimes i dont wanna go out anymore
but i love making plans and arranging to do things
2006-12-30 03:46:39 · 11 answers · asked by limpit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i do that too, its anxiety, building up, then when the time comes the rush is over
2006-12-30 03:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by rhino_man420 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Could be several things.
Write those things down that frustrate you, the feelings associated with them and get as clear as you can about why you get frustrated. You very possibly are indulging in things that now need to be cast overboard, thrown completely away...
There is a greater knowingness within all of us, you are no different, one that nudges you to realize something is amiss and you evidently are not abiding it or listening intently to it... It keeps nudging you loudly enough. But are you listening ? 'See?
So what that you make plans; those are but echoes of a past 'comfort,'... a behavior and pattern running on automatic: you have not updated yourself on yourself... See?
Whatever that is or was that inspired you to go out -- well, you have outgrown those things now. Bear in mind that you need not be a woman of ninety years of age to outgrow something.
You did outgrow your clothing when you were six years of age, yes? In this same regard, on your inner world, you have outgrown that which exists on the outer, see?, and are still trying to fit into interests and activities that no longer fit you...
However long those inner arms and legs are, you have to know that they are too long for the suit of inner clothing that you now wear. You have evolved well past that point.
Yet those around you may still be there -- or -- those closest to you do not know that you have outgrown the past -- but -- you have not articulated this to them so that they know, who possibly would enjoy knowing this and helping you to arrive at your new plateau... You see?
That's why you are good to write this down and let your inner self know that you know ! Steadily or immediately, things will begin to change... that is, it will not be the matter of ' if ' but rather 'when' things change...
Meanwhile, those things you love to do such as planning and arranging will begin to re-fashion that same love and talent and update it to the wants of the new you.
In time, that too you will outgrow... And on and on and on goes the growth and evolution. So, just set-to and watch and enjoy it.
In this country, the high idea and the true spark of adventure has all but died out of people. They have grown frustrated or bored or frightened because their want of the new and refreshing has not been answered by themselves or others, or simply are not adventures and creativities that have substance and meaning any longer, aside from what television and the cookie-cutter entertainment circuit shows you is supposed to be what you are to dream for.
You are completely healthy of both Heart and Mind from what I gather -- but you need only listen to yourself and go now and do and feel and think something different; and above all, be the unique woman that you are...
Phooey to the popular thought and what your "friends" say or do.
2006-12-30 12:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the planning, plan the getting ready stage. Start by having a bath/shower, then have a drink, do your hair, makeup, choose an outfit. Don't rush getting ready, so you don't have waiting around time, if anything be a little late.
2006-12-30 11:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems pretty normal. You might just be doing too much. Do you enjoy the things once they start? If it's just the waiting that gets to you, try starting to get ready a little later...so you can be "fashionably late" and other people can get frustrated waiting on you.
2006-12-30 11:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a student.....get a job and then you'll be too tired to want to go out in the first place.
2006-12-30 11:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by rusco21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its because you want to see your plans come to life.
you must get some satisfaction from that kinda thing even if you dont realise it.
2006-12-30 11:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do that all the time usually down to outfit and nor finding what i want hunni
2006-12-30 11:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get frustrated.
2006-12-30 11:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you turning into a jew, jews don't go out because don't want to spend money.
2006-12-30 11:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called anxiety disorder, consult a psychiatrist..!! u need one.!!
2006-12-30 11:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by friendsseason9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋