My husband & I spilt April 2006. He found another woman straight away, moved in and she got pregnant aparently as an accident but wouldnt get rid of it. He has nagged since July for me to have him back to try again but at the time I was hurting and couldnt do it. Since October I have changed my mind as we have a child and thought I could try to see if we can work even with all this extra heart ache. But now he is not so sure and seems to like to spend time with me and then go back off to her. I love him and he tells me he is in love with me and that he only cares for this other woman. Is he just having a laugh? Should I tell him to get lost and get my life back on track? Im so confused and and very hurt I dont know what to do. Can someone give me some advise please????
2006-12-30 03:33:52 · 7 answers · asked by Strawb75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Personally, I think you need to forget about him and move on with your life. It seems to me that he is wanting to have his cake and eat it too. Think of it like this, when you were not interested in taking him back he wanted you back. In other words he is the kind of man that wants what he cannot have, like some sort of a challenge. Once you softened towards him and decided you would like to give it another try, then he starts playing mind games. Spending time with you and then going back to the other woman. His behavior is unlikely to change and this will just continue indefinitely. Let the other woman put up with his shenanigans and you move along in your life. You say you love him, but in time your feelings for him are likely to change again. Especially if you meet another man who will treat you in a way that you should be treated. Your ex sounds like he cannot be trusted and has issues that will only bring you more heartache. Good luck to you!
2006-12-30 03:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to get your life back on track. He is trying to "have his cake and eat it too". He can't seem to make up his mind. What happens if you take him back, he is content for a while and then gets bored again? The cycle will start all over. You don't need the aggravation of that. Move on and enjoy your life!
2006-12-30 12:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you are having to go through all this pain. He is using you both and as a result I urge you to move on with your life. You don't need or deserve to be treated so disrespectfully. He is devaluing you and playing a game where he controls everyone.
Perhaps you can check out Parents without Partners for support and guidance. You are worth more!
2006-12-30 11:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by D N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to move on. Set your life up in a way that feels comfortable and good to you. Arrange your life in a way that you feel happy, stress free and cozy in your own home. You can choose what you let into your head, heart, home and internal environment. Wouldn't it be nice to eventually wake up in the mornings looking forward to the day and not be dragged down into turmoil, sadness and heartache? Good luck to you!
2006-12-30 11:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by lifeisagift 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys got the best of both worlds and more pu$$y than he knows what to do with. Close your legs and tell him goodbye forever.
2006-12-30 11:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's going back to that other girl then i would leave him but it's what u feel in ur heart. hope things work out for the best!
2006-12-30 11:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by *NYC_gurly* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when in Rome do as the Romans do. If he is playing you off against her you need to start seeing other people also. That might make him "sh** or get off the pot," so to speak.
2006-12-30 11:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋