2006-12-30 03:21:20 · 19 answers · asked by Protector 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sometimes we never completely heal, whenever we feel stressed, it comes back and revisits us in our thoughts. it is different for everyone, just depends on how badly u were hurt, but it never helps us to keep bringing it up and playing the victim all of the time. we never forget it, but the pain does diminish in a few years, depending on if we find a new love, create a new life, get some spiritual help, and stop blaming ourselves for the divorce. we have to admit it happened, stop denying it, and stop expecting that person to ever be sorry or come back. all begins with forgiving ourselves, and realizing we weren't to blame, that the other person made their choice, without asking us. best thing is to move on with a new person and a new life, and learn from your mistakes and quit being angry at yourself for marrying that person, as how could u have known anyway?
2006-12-30 03:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 05:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will depend on you. How long will you choose to be angry and bitter? When will you choose to forgive? You may never forget it, but you can choose to let go of it and move on. Eventually the pain will stop. The scar may remain, but life will go on. There really are good people who will not do these things to you. Use what you have learned in this relationship, so you don't get into another like it. Remember though, No one is perfect, however if someone loves you they will be honest with you. Remember too, the longer you hold on to the anger and hurt, the worse it will get. Try to let it go and find someone who really loves you. God bless, and I wish you the best.
2006-12-30 03:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by kat62961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some will say that time heals all pain. The truth is that the healing process takes as long as it takes you to decide to get on with your life. If you allow the past to linger, you'll never get over it.
2006-12-30 03:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMPLETELY???? I don't think you ever do, completely. I think after a few years, you learn to deal with it, and are able to function. My ex has been gone for 12 years, and I'd be lying if I said I was healed "completely". There's still times it hurts.
2006-12-30 03:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About 6-7 good pokes with someone new should do it, or if you're reall hust then it might take a dozen or so. This point is to move on and quit thinking about the past.
2006-12-30 03:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It starts by doing an investigation before you decide to commit yourself. Learn from this one in order to teach in the next ! Inform yourself of the dangers of commitment. There is absolutely no guarantee that any relationship will last forever. If you fail to plan you plan to fail !!!!!!
2006-12-30 03:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, given the information you just posted--you can move on rather quickly if you want to--if none that is true.
You have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself--be yourself and go have some fun with friends and ignore the crap!
2006-12-30 03:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the length of your marriage, your age, and other issues.
It took me two years to get over the worst of it, but about 7 years to actually feel no pain or resentment.
2006-12-30 03:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely never!!!!
Just use you feelings in positive ways... learn from them, allow them to make you a better person. Always continue growing to be the best person you can be. but do not expect that the feeling of being deeply betrayed, unwanted, and disrespected will ever truly diminish. NOBODY should ever have to be treated that way, but it happens, and no one expects you to ever "be quite the same". like i said before, just learn from your past.
2006-12-30 03:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋