after my last day of work for this year, even though i have the flu, i tried to clean up the clutter, so that we would have a decent
and nice new years eve. ( I have to go to work right away starting new years day. )So I figured a nice eve would cheer things up. I was so wrong.Just as soon as she walked in the room, my mother says to give her my wallet. She took the 3 hundred dollars out of it that i had left over to pay my debt, and said,
this is mine for all the cleaning i did.
The house is always in a complete mess. she never cleans.
I am the only working one in the house and she takes all the pay that i earn, and the 3 hundred dollars was from part time jobs that i do on the side to pay my personal stuff. I really am at the end.
I dont want to live anymore. i just want to thank all who tried to help me before. I am just really tired.
The new year I see is only another year of pain.
This is not a question I know.. Sorry just have to let it out somewhere..
2006-12-30 02:56:04 · 6 answers · asked by blue cat 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
everybody says to talk to your parents if you are depressed... i cant..
2006-12-30 03:02:19 · update #1
thankyou all very much for your supportive messages.. Today, my mother acts as if nothing ever happened. She still doesn't realize the pain I am going through.
I dont know where to get the money to make my payments, as she really cleaned me out. The stress will never go away if I
keep on this way. I felt bad for her ever since my father passed away, and have been taking care of her expenses ever since. (Even though I know she must have gotten, at least a little from his life insurance) she should be able to fend for herself. I still decided I will help out for basic things..
I will try to make it a happy new years eve. Next year I will start my new life. Sorry to have worried you..
I really needed someone to talk to.
thankyou again..
2006-12-30 16:03:11 · update #2
Run, do Not walk, right out of that house and go to a private place (a library?) and think of a way you can separate yourself from your mother. Don't dredge up bad things she has told you about yourself to make you agree with her so you don't have to get away from her. The woman doesn't sound like she is on your side! She certainly is NOT worth quitting over!! Here's a cliche:
Suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary situation. No turning back when you're dead. Get away from her so you can heal and live your life. She might be sorry if you hurt yourself, but is that cemetery scene that YOU won't really be able to SEE, worth what might be an afterlife? What happens after we die doesn't depend on what we decide it should be. It is what it is, so let's be careful there. Now......How you are going to live away from your mother and what you want to do with yourself to use your survival skills (you might not even know you have yet) are the questions that are paramount for you. There's room in this world for you Honey. My heart aches for you this morning and I am going to do something about it. Gotta go do that right now. Remember: You deserve better and you can do it by yourself.
There are people waiting to love you in your future.
2006-12-30 03:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents can suck. My dad was chronically depressed and my step-mother was bipolar. If it makes you feel any better about your holiday...I had surgery the day after Christmas and learned that I have cancer again (I'm 25 years old, my second relapse this year)
The only thing I can really say is that, giving up is the easy way out. You can't change your mother so don't try. Focus on you and what you want to get out of life. Set up a bank account and keep your money there, or find a place to hide some/most of it. The only way to pull through the hard times is to dig down inside and find that strength that's there. Most people don't realize that they have it until they're forced to actually look for it.
Some of the strongest and most successful people are that way because of things that they've had to work through.
2006-12-30 11:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so outrageous, so cruel, so sad... How can a mother behave so utterly disrespectfully of her child?!!? You don't owe her one cent, you know that, don't you? You wouldn't owe her a cent even if she had cleaned during every second of her life. She could ask you for money, but it's YOUR money, how can she just take it? It sounds very much like you must protect yourself from your mother best you can.
Your story reminds me of the beginning of the Cinderella story. I wish and I believe that you will also have the happy ending you deserve. To be loved.
Maybe what you are going through now is somehow leading up to that happy ending. Healing happens where there was a wound. Pain transforms into peace. I understand so well that you are tired. It makes me very hopeful for you, because in my own life, the good changes always happened after I had reached the dead ends. When you absolutely can't take another year of only pain, you won't have another year like that. Something moves inside and outside.
I pray for you, I send you my best wishes from my heart.
Always remember you are a wonderful gift. Trashing that, in any way, would be sad beyond words.
All the best to YOU.
And a HAPPY new year, of course!
....
Good to hear from you again (I mean your additional details). All the best to you for your new life! I'm sooooo happy you say tomorrow is the start of your new life.
Your mother will be able to take care of herself, and it will be the best thing for her in the long run.
May you be blessed.
Happy happy happy happy new year/life!
2006-12-30 18:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you describe it, you really have a problem. Sorry to say, but , if your mother treats you this way with your money, hide it from her. It is your effort, you time, your job that gets paid, so this money belongs to you, she does not have the right to take it this way from you. She could ask you, but not take your wallet.! So, I don't like to say it, but, hide your money. As for the cleaning, think that you are doing it first of all for yourself. Because YOU want a nice tidy home, it is YOUR place that you are trying to decorate and make cozy. If she says it is your duty, well ... this is what she thinks, let her. Do not feel miserable. Focus on yourself and believe that you are who you are and you are doing whatever you do for yourself to feel better. If she doesn:t understant, it is her problem, DO NOT let her make it yours! Stay calm and resist "peacefully". Have a real happy new Year.
2006-12-30 11:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi...i have the same problem with my dad...it totaly sux,and everyone just feel "sorry" for uss...bull s h i t.we should try and fix it ourselves.we have secrets and too many things to mention about this problem that we cannot write here...soyourself knows the solution better than anyone else...try to solve it and dare to do something...happy new year ma friend
2007-01-01 15:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by The dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sorry for you. . . . this is sad . . . maybe your parents are under a lot of pressure. please dont say that you dont wanna live anymore. . please there are people in this world in conditions worse then you are. . like my cousin whose father physically abuses her and her mom but she is soo strong. . .you know what she says. . .she says that "god never pressurises one more then one can take" so please dont say that you wanna die. . . talk to her with a positive mind. . .you know you need to relax i think since your the only one incharge youve taken a lot of stress on yourself. . . if she takes your money then how about you start keeping it in the bank. .. . please go to therapist but dont thinkcof dying. . get a girlfriend if your a guy. . or a br of your a girl. . but dont think of dying!!! :)
2006-12-30 11:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋