do you think the school staff handled this situation correctly?

Question

there was this girl who was in my orchestra class. i failed orchestra the other year so i had to be with the sixth grade orchestra and i am a 7th grader. that girl made a lie to the school staff( principle, assistant pricinple, vise assistant principle) that i harassed. she made all these lies that i touched her and hit her and was about to hit her. i pulled my shirt in orchestra class to my friend to be funny. my friend sat right next to her and she thought i was doing it to her. she made a lie that i pulled up my shirt and said will you go out with me baby. then, the school staff didn't believe me so i had in school spension(iss) for 2 days. then i got mad because my dad, sister, and mom didn't believe me so that night i told my friend to get on the phone and prank phone call her and he did. then i was told not to go to school until i use counseling for a day. they thought i was a threat to the school. that was at home, not at school. do you think that is fair?

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

When u will read answers of other pupil on this question u will find that most boys r supporting u & gals r pointing their fingers against u.

This is because ur situation is unclear & twisting. U pulled off ur shirt for just fun with ur friend, i agree.But if u will look at this situation with that girl's point of view, u will see that turning off shirt in presence of a girl is not good & the girl seeing this will feel that u r uncultured & in an extreme case, like urs, she may even report a complaint against u.

& for making prank calls,actually this is sheer unmaturity . U got angry & raised & did that.If u might had think once more at that time, then u might have realized that this will go against u.But if we look by the girl's point of view we will find that this is much embarresing for that girl.

I am not saying that u r guilty. I am saying that u both r equally responsible. AGE was also a big factor. & for school they were just doing their duty

So what i suggest is to give up ur anger & frustation and organize a meeting with the girl & u both talk honestly & confess against each other.If u are able to convince each-other then she might take her complaint back from school and admit her fault.

She might also become ur good friend & later when u both remember this incidence it will feel like a funny situation to u both.

Answer 3

There are rules, and if you had harrassed this girl you would have been expelled for the rest of the year not suspended for two days.

A young man should not be pulling his shirt up in class to friend, period.

Your behavior made you suspect. I think you got off light because if the Principal, Vice Principal, and Asst Principal believed this girl you would have been expelled and the district would have been forced to press charges against you.

The prank call just proved the girl's point.

The school did not act unfairly, you are a victim of your own behavior--and the girl just used that against you to make her lie seem like truth.

I am sorry to tell you this, but this is my impartial view.

Answer 4

To start with it wasn't fair but when your friend made that call for you, you crossed the line. You have a right to be upset at not being believed but just remember that what goes around comes around and you don't have to do a thing. My sister used to say that her vehicle was better than anyone's in the family and her and her husband eventually had to file bankruptcy and lost everything. Although I don't wish for bad things to happen to her, I didn't particularly feel bad.

The best thing you can do is steer clear or this girl and pretend that nothing happened so that you don't stay upset about it. I hope this helped. Good Luck

Answer 5

Before this happenend did you get into trouble alot? If you were indeed in trouble alot then I don't blame the staff for not beliveing you. However, if you were not previously in trouble then there is no reason why they shouldn't believe you. Do you usually misbehave at home? The same thing I outlined previously applies here. (that is you are bad at home, parents dont trust you, good at home, trust) Call the school or have your mother call the school. Explain that she is lying, and that if you don't listen to me then we can take you to court" but you can leave out the court thing because chances are you'll lose.It isn't fair that the staff didn't even hear you out. They shouldl've at LEAST tried to listen to you.

Answer 6

if your not making it up i would talk to an adult ad explain the situation the school had no right to suspend u on something they had no proof for. Where was your teacher? you could have your friend say that you were doing non of it and get different witnesses from your class. Basically you got effed over by your school because they didn't take the proper procedures when getting a accusation like that

Answer 7

You can't accomplish much from your current frame of mind. You need to stop acting like you are a victim to be pittied. Stop focusing on how you were wronged. Just keep a distance from this girl and start getting in line. Or if you really don't want to get in line then get out of line a useful way. Go on a hunger strike until people start listening to your story. That way people will see you have conviction and aren't just being childish.

Answer 8

about 45 years ago, i walked home from school. i was ambushed by 5 other kids. the school principle saw it happen. my teacher made me write every word of every spelling chapter 100 times. i wrote before school, after school, recess, lunch and every free minute. the five kids that ambushed me got no punishment. i didn't think that was fair but i did become a good speller. you hope there will be a positive you can pick up too.

Answer 9

I think if you had your friend call her and prank her you where harassing her. End of story. Maybe counselling would do you some good. Remember the golden rule. Always treat people the way you want to be treated.

Answer 10

Probably not fair. Following up with a prank call was out of line and it showed your immaturity and just showed them that you may have been a threat to her. Go to counceling, it won't hurt you ,but may actually help you work out you feelings about this terrible situation.Good luck and in the future think twice about your jokes. Grandma

Answer 11

Unfair upto the point they believed the girl and not you. Perfectly fair after you started playing pranks. Sometimes we fall into similar situations. Its not wise to act the way you did at such times.