Most people want to take the easy way out and find the person that they can stand but they know they can do better (caused for fear of rejection).
Just wondering your opinions :)
2006-12-30 02:16:33 · 11 answers · asked by hotgman2z 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I do not settle, ever. Although I do not really believe there is such a "Perfect Person", I look for someone who fits into my basic appreciations.
On the other hand, some folks insist that, 'looking for a lover' is the wrong approach. These people believe that one should get on with their own life, and put the focus on being the best possible person. They believe that if you are the best that you can be, you will attract similar people into your life.
2006-12-30 02:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
All of us wanted something easy in anything that we are managing. All of us dislike difficulties, that is the fact. But in certain situation, we have no choice that we have to involve some fo the hardship just simply to get the result, a good result. Therefore, in relationship we are recommended that to give some efforts rather than just let the current flown away easily. Yet we have not try we wouldn't know the answer. Yet we have not give our best, we would never know that we are able. Giving a try is not problem or what i mean is something wrong. It is actually a step, a starting point of every beginning. Give yourself an attempt and let the faith to do its work. Do not simply give everything to faith. God positive rule is, he decide but we must do our best. Without His or ours good works, something is just really hard to turn out. So hope and pray, and do your best for your part. Rejection should not be the barrier of every efforts. Take rejection as the trial to make you stronger and to learn more. Do not loose your confident or easily fall. Stand up again whenever you have fell. Fear is the same as rejection. By this experience, you will be able to move forward when this situation haapen again in the future. Looking at the perfect person in this case does not mean that we are looking for perfectioninst. No one is perfect in this world. Perfect person means that someone that able to agree with us, stand for us, can accept who we are, care for us, love as who we are and can tolerate each other very well in various matters or situations. That is the perfect person mean. For me, i for sure would find the perfect person for myself with my own efforts and pray hard that i would get the most suitable one.
2006-12-30 10:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chris D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest advice is not to look for perfection, look for the person that's "perfect" for you. Learn how to "allow" things to happen instead of searching with a "list" for that perfect someone, understand that saying no to some small flaw also says no to so many other acceptable and complimentary qualities.
Just remain open to possibilities instead of focusing on setting limits and you will be much happier.
2006-12-30 10:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm more like a in-the-moment type of gal. i love the chemistry and the compatibility. to me, a perfect person/spouse is the one that you are most compatible with and yet stay attractive and hot to you even after a certain period of time.
there's no such thing as a perfect person 'out there'. it's how you look at people, and how you evaluate them (vice versa).
2006-12-30 10:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by in_crueger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, how about neither?
I have never settled for anyone, I am very picky. I also have never looked for a perfect person because they don't exist.
I just look at real people as they actually are, evaluate my feelings for them, and proceed if I want to. I can say I have never "found a person I can stand". I suggest you do the same.
2006-12-30 12:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I now only look for friendship and have found 8 women (3 gay) with whom I have lunch once a week. At my age, 62, love is not the main issue.
I hope that if it came along I would be open to accepting it.
Rose P.
2006-12-30 21:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your looking , how do you spot that perfect person. I think when you grow in your relationship and work to make each other happy that is when its more perfect. but as far as finding a perfect, or mr perfect, i dont think it is there till you work on it together
2006-12-30 11:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm i go for perfection because i believe there is someone out there for everyone and if we end up not standing each other that just means i messed up in the pre-lims
2006-12-30 10:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If we all permanently held steadfast to our ideals, then we would be a lonely bunch of individuals.
2006-12-30 10:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gawd no..............there's no such thing as a perfect person..............
2006-12-31 09:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋