How can I get my daughter to respect me and still having a joyful relation?

Answer 1

Just behave like a friend n father with your daughter.Timing is quite necessary just when u think she needs a father be that or a friend that she can share a lot with.Have a nice time.

Answer 2

You treat her with respect and tell her you expect the same from her. Children learn what they live.

If she's very little, you just treat her with respect; and if she yells at you you calmly tell her "that's no what we do here". Just be consistent but also be a role model, so she can see what respectful behavior looks like and model her behavior after yours. Children can understand that parents have the role of setting some rules, but what they can't understand is why parents who expect respect would talk to their children in a disrespectful way. You can be a "leader of a team" while also treating your "team" with respect.

If she's an older kid you can just say to her, "Look. Whatever comes and goes there's one thing I want in this house; and that is that we all treat one another with respect. You can disagree with me, and I want to hear your different views; but I don't want disrespectful talk and behavior from you because I treat you with respect." You can explain to her that you want a peaceful home, and that doesn't mean people can't disagree. They can, however, disagree with civility.

It is funny to be that you say "still having a joyful...." because to me, part of having a joyful relationship with our kids is mutual respect. Its when there is lack of respect on the part of either the parent or the child that having a nice relationship gets challenged.

Answer 3

Have reasonable rules and boundaries which are consistent and for the purposes of your mutual rights and well-being. Be fair minded, a good listener, and ready to discuss issues openly. respect and joy can go together. respect doesnt need to be army drill sargeant style respect. a tree that bends a little survives a storm, but can still be a strong and upright tree.If she knows you are generally concerned about her interests , and it sounds like you are, then thats a great basis.

Answer 4

Why doesn't she respect you now? Have you done something she doesn't like or is hard for her to forgive? Without knowing more it is difficult to answer your question. Usually it takes concern and caring and friendship and a lot of love to get a daughter to respect you. Why wouldn't your daughter respect you if you give her a lot of your time and help her when she needs help and comfort her through the hard times and have fun with her when you can?

Answer 5

Well...that probably needed to be established many years ago...it is going to be much more difficult if you have not given her any reasons to respect you as she grew up...you know...being a strong parent...decisive...steady.....unwavering to what is right...loving...supportive...It is difficult to change an established pattern...at this point all you can do is start to behave as you know you should...if it is much different than what she is accustomed to...she probably is not going to be all warm and fuzzy about it in the beginning...You just have to confess that you have short changed her (if you have...only you know that) as a parent and didn't stand strong against bad behavior on her part, thus not modeling what God would have you model to her....but from this day forward because you do love her...it has to be a new day...If bad patterns have been established, it is going to take time....she will probably lash out...but this is not too big for God...so be in continual prayer. Be Blessed.

Answer 6

well ,i think mother daughter make a gr8 pair
be like a friend to her,no really !!times have changed ,you need to run with her
there may be certain things which were not considered good at your times,but is accepted today.give her the freedom,change with her.believe me,it is not hard,it might just require you to sit with her,watch some crazy channels,on tv,go to malls,share your interests
just think that you are a little elder to her,correcting her when she goes wrong, consolling her on her breakups.doing funky things just to make he happy

just go with time with respect and regards to the impositions which at times are needed for our generations.who better would know??,u r a parent

Answer 7

You are the parent she is the child. She needs to show you respect just because of this reason. My mom was my best friend, but she WAS MY MOM and I didnt ask how come, why, or say no I am not going to do it or go to hell or anything like that. Ya just did what you were told. period!

Answer 8

There's no cure-all, but they say if you want kids to respect you, it starts with your respect. Not talking down to them, really listening to what they say, not always saying your first opinion in response to everything they say or do, having fun sometimes. These things help. Prayer couldn't hurt either. Try to see them as their entire being, what they are to become, not just this little exasperating moment! Hope that's a help.

Answer 9

Set your standards and stick to them. Daughter's respect Mother's that know who they are and are confident in themselves. Mother's that have certain standards and beliefs and stick to them no matter what. You have to give your daughter someone to pattern after and remember you are the Mother not the best friend. You are there to teach her how to become an independent, self reliant, good adult. That's your job. She needs a Mom she can trust, look up to and be there for her.

Answer 10

Not enough information, like age, and home status.

I do know that the respect from your children does not come from being their friend.
It comes from being a parent who dispences love, discipline, education and advice withn the childs best interest at heart not their necessarily own.