I have been friends with a girl since college. She was part of my wedding, and present at my daughter's birth. Out of nowhere she became lesbian, moved in with a girl 10 years younger then her and has found all sorts of spirituality. But then she dropped out of my life saying we were never really friends in the first place and she's finally found people who understand her. She made reference to the fact that I was abusive to her years ago, but she never said anything until now. So I stopped trying to communicate as usually she blew me off. Now she's sending me random email saying she hopes I find what I'm looking for, and I can call her if I ever really want to talk to her. Where does she get off?? Is it worth my time?
2006-12-30 01:18:39 · 13 answers · asked by Jilli Bean 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if things change in her life and she can't accept you as a friend and part of them, then she isn't worth it. friends don't do that kind of stuff. times may have gotten rough, but the fact is that she dropped you out of her life and now it seems like she regrets that. don't put yourself up to be hurt. you'll find others that will always be there no matter what. thru thick and thin. keep your head up and good luck hun.
2006-12-30 01:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by kayla b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend is confused about a lot of things. I would ask her what she meant by you being abusive to her in the past. Ask her why all of a sudden she wants to talk. I would ask her lots of questions to see where she is coming from. Sounds to me as if she is troubled and needs a good shoulder to cry on. I might be wrong. If you talk to her all you are is out some of your time and you may find out why she said those things to you. I would want to know what it was I did wrong so I could correct it in the future as not to make the same mistake twice. Good luck and remember choose your friends. Don't let your friends choose you. If she doesn't put into your relationship what you put into it then it's not worth. At least that is what I think...........
2006-12-30 01:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would email her back and apologize for the "abuse" and tell her that it seems odd that she would bring it up now, and you had no idea she felt that way or that you even had acted that way. That she's right, if you had truely been close friends, she would have brought up her feelings a long time ago when you had a chance to correct it and make up for it. Then tell her that she's been very insightful to recognize that it's time to move on, wish her well and wash your hands of her. She will only drag you down. People change, friends change, accept the change and put your energy into something positive.
2006-12-30 01:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she "found herself". For one thing, comming out is a big step, THEN she gets all spiritual! She's at that stage where she's feeling in control of her life and spiritual side, (you know, "in tune with god") , so if YOU have any problems, just let HER know. I hate when these 'cult', 'religious finatics', 'enlightened' people say "hope you find what your looking for". Yeah, as if THEY have! She'll be back when the phase wears off, til then no loss.
2006-12-30 01:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your lives have gone in different directions and you are very different people now. This happens as we get older and settle down into our own little families. You will find that some of your old friends have stayed the same and some are way different than the way they used to be. If you have things you would like to say to her, then do so.....otherwise, I'd let it go and just accept the fact that you are in different places in your lives and don't have alot in common anymore. I have had to do this with some of my old military buddies. I say live and let live. Sounds like you have a nice life with your own family. Concentrate on that and let your friend carry on with her new life.
2006-12-30 01:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound to be worth your time at all.
It is hard to dump a friend but she dumped you first. Move on and enjoy life without messed-up friends like her!
2006-12-30 01:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no. Why bother with her mood changes? She blew you off, so forget it. People like that are not worth worrying about.
2006-12-30 01:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Marc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be glad she still wants to be your friend if you were abusive to her when ever yeah its worth YOUR time to be friends with her because right now she the only true friend you got.
2006-12-30 01:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, no i don't think so. but if you want a peace of mind, then ask her what was the abusing that you did to her. friends come and go. so, don't worry much of it.
2006-12-30 01:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you. She is not a real friend
2006-12-30 01:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by JUDI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋