and they told me its early to go back after 1wk and i went on 14/12 and they say the baby is growing but no heartbeat to go back again after 2wks and on 28 i went again 4 another internal scan and they say there is no haert beat and its a delay miscarriage so they have to remove it. i say i'll think abt it next morning i call them and say i will wait 4 it come on its on bcoz am not feeling bad or cramp only back pain, and she told me its ok to wait but to go back again 4 another scan on 18/01. am so confused i really want this baby. plz someone explain to me what to do
2006-12-30 00:43:13 · 8 answers · asked by juli 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hi, im sorry to here this. it must be very confusing for you, I suffered a d miscarriage but i was 18 weeks when the baby died and i had no idea because i wasn't bleeding or anything. the best thing you can do is talk everything through with your midwife. maybe you'd feel more comfortable waiting a little while longer to see if anything else happens. you'd really have to talk to your health professional as everyone is different and i don't know all your circumstances. what ever happens good or bad it's natures way. it's either meant to be or not meant to be, so dont blame yourself for anything ok .
2006-12-30 00:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A miscarriage can take a long time to expel itself and the longer you wait, the greater the risk of infection and fertility problems as a result.
After 3 scans in three weeks, you really have to accept the reality that there is no baby.
I am terribly sorry you have to go through this, but the sooner you get your body back, the sooner you can recover and try again.
If it helps, having a miscarriage before the 8th week is very common. In fact, up to 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage and it does not mean you are not capable of having a healthy baby. I have had 2 miscarriages and have had 2 healthy babies.
Keep taking your prenatal vitamins to keep your system healthy and ensure that you keep taking them as you try to conceive the next baby. It helps prevent birth defects and keeps you on an even keel.
2006-12-30 01:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. This happened to my daughters dad and his girlfriend. She was also about two months pregnant and they couldn't find a heart beat. They called it a ' Missed Miscarriage". She had absolutely no symptoms, or bleeding either. They went for a sceduled ultrasound, and that was when it was discovered that she had lost the baby.
You have to go for the scan on the 18th, if you haven't passed the embryo by then. You cannot just leave it, you can get very sick and may even lessen your chances of getting pregnant again. I know you're hurting inside, I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. I didn't know that I weas pregnant until I starting gushing blood. The plus side to it, I have three beautiful children and I am pregnant for #4. You will get pregnant again, and you will have healthy children. Not to be insensitive - but a lot of the time, your body will miscarry if there is a problem with the baby.
2006-12-30 01:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyes_1_ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a miscarriage either let them take it out or go ahead and wait but not after the 18th if this is what it is then please except and don't try to hold onto to something that isn't meant to be you can always try again but don't make yourself sick worrying over this it will be OK trust and believe it will happen for you again
2006-12-30 00:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by just_gethere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when the miscarriage happens go to the hospital. then wait a few weeks and try again. you will get your baby one day. the reason that this happens ( miscarriage ) is because the baby was not forming right. you have a right to be sad but you should try again. good luck.
2006-12-30 00:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this same thing happened to me and i waited just like you but it made it worst for me emtionally and pshcially i got relly sick and almost died this baby is not alive and you have to accept this you really need to talk to someone and get some help it's hard alone and it will make you severly depressed.
2006-12-30 00:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by mikedeedra 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please allow them to remove the fetus. If it does not have a heartbeat, then you are in essence, housing a dead mass. Your body will begin to reject it and you will become ill and maybe even die from infection.
Please let them remove it and try again.
2006-12-30 01:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sweed I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see another Gyno, get a second opinion.
2006-12-30 00:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by alvin c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋