I have been dating my bf for 6 months. The first 6 mths were incredible. We just clicked and I have never had so much fun with ANYONE. About a month ago I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and I woke up one mornin wondering if I had fallen out of love with him? Well, the situation has gotten better since a month ago. I am now attracted to him again and feel comfortable around him.
The problem is is that those same feelings I had a month ago are not there anymore. I find it very hard to express my romantic feelings to him. I feel as though, I know I have his heart (I know he loves me) so he doesnt have to impress me anymore. All in all I find it difficult to respond when he sends me very romantic emails, notes etc...
I still love to do nice things for him eg. buy him stuff when I go shopping,make him dinner,clean the house etc....
Does anyone have any suggestions as to what might be going on?
We are leaving in 2 hrs for New Years...Cottage on the lake :)
Thanks!!
2006-12-30 00:42:45 · 9 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is something you should be speaking with a counselor about. You having anxiety issues has a lot to do with this i'm sure. Just try to stay focused on what he does and try not to stress to hard on negative things.
2006-12-30 02:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dawson!!
Go as plan for your trip. Take some time before you open your mouth and ruin everything for both of you!!! If you are suffering from anxiety, you should wait some time until your body adjust to the meds.
Remember, if he has true feelings for you, you really need to be sure when to say what, and when. Also the where is very important, because you shouldn't bring none of your ifi's with you
to platter them around on what is supposed to be a romantic, getaway.
Enjoy as much as you can. Probably with the change of atmosphere you feel better. If not, then at least wait until you are back, and few days later after you sit down calm think over the pros and cons of this situation.
I think you should give yourself some time. Because if after you face him with what you think will be actually good for you, probably the next morning, is not.
Take it easy be positive, GOOD LUCK & HAPPY NEW YEAR
GOD BLESS YOU
ALLIV Z
2006-12-30 01:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the doctor who treated you for your anxiety disorder, prescribe any medicines? If yes, do check with him if these could have the effect of changing your hormone levels or moods. I believe some medicines have this side effect. You can ask him to change the medicines or check if you can stop these for sometime to help your body to return to its earlier normal levels.
That apart, as you both love each other, and still want to continue your relationship, why not try to do soemehing different, like your current trip to a cottage, more often? Being alone with him in a different setting could help you both to open up and clear any doubt that you may have eabout your own reduced level of attraction for him. Good luck and a happy new year.
2006-12-30 02:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can probably attribute these feelings to your anxiety level and the disorder. Anxiety is just that....when your feelings are so conflicted and overwhelming in your head that making decisions about feelings can be very confusing and frustrating. Hopefully the Dr who diagnosed you gave you some medication to help you cope with the anxiety a little better. Take the medication as prescribed....it is a very important part of your treatment and will help you be able to sort out your feelings easier.Try to just relax and enjoy being together, take it slow if you need to and try to explain your situation to him. If he loves you he will be patient and work with you to get through this. I wish you all the best in the new year.
2006-12-30 00:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for twenty yrs. & I care about my wife I never passionatly fell in love with her we did have lust for the first six months with then the honeymoon fase wore off I still care about her deeply we are not petty with each I've also spent money on (jewlery,favorite dishes,what ever else she asks for if i can I give her) I don't feel guilty because I give her all I can of myself she take very good care of me & our family without complaint I don't know if I love her but I do care deeply for her.
If you feel comfortable & content (happy) with him & good about youself & don't feel trapped My wife & I sometimes forget to excgange cards on important dates & we don't hold it against each other because we both know how much we care about each other without a madeup card to tell each other. I don't know what to say at this point I wish you serenity; peace of mind; undersatnding; compassion; 7& love I think you already have these things I know you have integrity.
Peter
2006-12-30 01:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by peterhlounsbury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sad for you not having the feelings you had before with your boyfriend. If he respected you before the surgery and respected you after the surgey then he really does love you. I'm scencing love birds for life. lol. =D! I hope you have fun at the cottage!
2006-12-30 00:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes after 6 mos it runs it course you might have a hormone problems but i think it just ran its course and you are pushing the issue too maybe you should relax and get to know one another and have fun
2006-12-30 00:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww. my mom has the same anxiety issue... i know it sucks. when he sends u emails , just clear ur head of everything but that email. sorry if my answer sucks, but i tried
<3 good luck
2006-12-30 00:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by xojessox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just concentrate on the sweet thing he's doing and remember the things you did together to make you feel the old emotions..
gudluck with your trip..=)
2006-12-30 00:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋