my parents always judge my friends on their appearance. is it right?

Answer 1

I don't judge people by their appearance. My daughter has alot of friends that dress different....I try to judge her friends by their characteristic's...are they are a good person...do they get in trouble in and out of school.
A good saying to remember is: Don't judge a book by it's cover.

Answer 2

Appearance is the first thing we notice about a person and many times it gives us a look into what the person's personality is. However, the saying "you can't judge a book by its cover" is a good anology to your situation. Where as looks are important, they may be deceiving and if your parents want a good idea about the personality of your friends, all they need to do is have a conversation with them. Many times in as little as 10 minutes a keen person can form an opinion.

Ask your parents if they would chaperone a day out with you and your friends or ask if they can come over to watch a movie. Your parents can then observe your friends "in the wild" and see how they interact with others.

Also try to find out what makes your parents judge your friends poorly. Are they wearing tee shirts with obscene language or drug references. Or the bigger question, are they judging your friends based on nationality or race and using something else as an excuse to not like them?

Answer 3

I think people do judge other people by their looks and appearance. It's a shame, but that's how society is. And i think we all have been guilty of it at some point in our lives. That's the first thing you have to go on when you first meet someone because you don't know them so you don't really know what kind of person they are. Personally, i don't think it's right. People should realize that good and bad people comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. And having a nice appearance doesn't mean you're a good person. I'm sure the bigwigs at Enron wore suits everyday, and they were still crooks. Jeffrey Dahmer was a plain looking, average looking guy and look what he turned out to be. Judging someone by their looks could backfire on your parents one day if they're not careful.

Answer 4

Appearances are usually the first thing species of the animal kingdom go by. They use it for defense, for attracting a mate, or for protection from predators. Species do that when they don't have biographies to read for each individual they come across. We are not that different, hence niether are your parents. They are only trying to protect you. I don't know to which extent they do this, but there are many internal character traits that manifest themselves externally, so your parents might not be completely unfair. The best thing to do is to get your friends and your parents together, let them swap clothing style (if that's what your parents have a problem with), sit them down for dinner, or go out for something fun. No, it's not right to judge a person by their appearance, but it happens to all animals with eyes, and have nothing to go by except similar experiences, so either you and your friends take advantage of this instinct by looking your best or scaring people away by looking your worst.

Answer 5

No, it's not right, but think for a minute....how do you make your decisions about people the first time you meet them? I guarantee you do the same thing....when you meet a person for the first time, most people judge them based on looks until down the road as they get to know the person. First impressions are hard to change, but can be done if your parents are willing to give your friends the chance to get to know them. Your parents first concern is your safety and your happiness. Try to remember they have your best interest at heart.

Answer 6

There's nothing right about it. But that parents and life in general for ya. People do it all the time, everyones done it. I've seen the most non judgmental pple, assume things on other just because of how they looked. They except them nonetheless, but they still make the comments about the appearence of the person.

Dont make a big deal out of it. Everyones parents have done it. Its just the nature of some pple. They'll get over it when they realize you dont care about their judgments on your friends.

Answer 7

Looks are deceiving. Your parents forgot about their fads and fashions from years ago.
They fear people will judge you and your friends by how you look. They worry about your image.
Maybe you should introduce them to your freind and hang out so they can get to know them.
They want to be sure that you are making the right choices... They want good people around you..
Show them you do make good choices and they have no reason to fear.... Bring your friends around more.
Fashion and mode of dress is only self expression....It does not dictate who the person is inside.

Answer 8

No its not right but some people do this anyway. My mother is the same and tells my daughter that I am a hippy and so on. Just a different generation that is struggling to deal with the next generation.
At the end of the day they love you and think that they are doing whats best.

Answer 9

It may not be right, but it happens, and not only by your parents but by most everyone who sees them. And those same people are making the same judgements on you because they are your friends. Thats life in the real world, get used to it.

Answer 10

well it isn't right. but older generations are more closed minded then the younger ones. explain to your parents that your friends are good people, and that you don't appreciate them pre judging them. its not fair to you or your friends. my parents did this to me when I was in high school and it pushed me farther away from them. I ended up rebelling and moving out on my 18Th birthday with out their consent.. so just try talking to them and explaining it.