is it possible that one party will realize the good things they had with the other down the line? My husband doesn't love me and is cheating on met, and I believe that he had it good with me (no I'm NOT perfect, but I was loyal and gave him the best I could).
2006-12-30 00:27:48 · 21 answers · asked by ayquechula 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes and its time for you to think about the worst case scenario,and anticipate your husband next move,he cheats on you and chances are he is thinking about splitting up with you,so think about the future without him before its too late,good luck to you,
2006-12-30 00:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whew! I don't believe it when people say lack of love in a marriage, I guess it is just that the people involve does not talk anymore. Marriage needs to be worked on and if one party is just thinking of what he can get from the other, now that is not good and healthy. Why are you guys married in the first place if it is lack of love? There is no such thing as perfect someone for somebody. In any relationship, communication and commitment is important.
2006-12-30 00:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by pretty me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a marriage that was for what I thought perfect. Slowly over time-intimacy was replaced by a simple lack of concern. Marriages and just plain relationships need all types of emotions to succeed. They need love, respect, intimacy, laughter, shared goals they need the two people to simply "LIKE" each other. If any one of those items are missing or lost-the relationship falls apart. Now you ask-down the road will he...probably not. Our society today is heaped with the feelings of avoiding failure. It can imagine that he will refuse to acknowledge the good time you had together and he will manufacture and enlarge any and all moments that in his mind-he can manipulate into his way of thinking as a way of preserving himself as the unfortunately suffering partner. He is cheating on you. You are the better partner in this situation. I am sorry for your hurt-but move on. There are good people who would treat you as their queen if they were to find and win your affection. Do Not give up hope.
2006-12-30 00:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will some day realize what he lost and left behind just as you will realize a loyal loving woman like you deserves a man that appreciates those qualities from the very beginning
2006-12-30 00:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women love differently. Just because you loved him with all your heart and soul doesn't mean that he feels the same. Women look for a mate to grow old with. Men look for someone to lay with. We don't get emotionally involved and have no "long-term" feelings that keeps us with a mate, just because she loves us. Why do you think most marriages end in divorce? Most men cheat because they're only interested in sex and stuff...not love. We don't need anyone to love us. That's the way we are wired and until women understand that, there will always be questions like your's being asked...in vain. Sorry :(
2006-12-30 00:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both parties can't compromise after so many years of staying together,the best solution is divorce.u go ur way n he goes his way.but before u make n jump into the conclusion,u r advisable to think twice of the consequences.if u got kids,who want to care 4 them,give them education etc.it's a long long sad story,no ending story.if a cheating won't hurt either party n can be ended up good,it's harmless n u must bear 4 it.
best wishes n happy new year.
2006-12-30 00:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously most men that cheat are into one thing....Themselves. Will he ever realize probably not. It sounds like you want to be with him am I right? If I am I must tell you that these types of men do not change.Its not as bad as what you might think at the moment. Things do get easier and better and eventually you will find the right man that will love you and not need to be dippin his dick somewhere else.
You need to love and respect yourself more than you currently do.
Best of luck
2006-12-30 00:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe so. If he was cheating on you with another woman, that makes the other woman a cheater too (if she knew he was with you at the time and yet she was still with him) and in return she will cheat on him eventually (just happened with some co-workers). When that happens, he'll look back and say what the heck have I done, I had it good with her.
2006-12-30 00:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes cheating will kill love. Love is not a given it is a choice we make each and every day. the marriage is not ending because of the lack of love but something else is missing. his cheating is not your fault the problem is with in him.
2006-12-30 00:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Roger W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS time goes by your husband will tend to remember th good things about your relationship. But you have to remember if ya'll are apart it's probably for a good reason. Move on and find someone who deserves your love and attention
2006-12-30 00:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋