anxiety is really consuming me, but the thought of getting help only intensifies the anxiety?

Question

I had a child 18 months ago, and then another one 4 months ago and now i have the craziest worries that never go away, at first i thought it was ocd, but i noticed the more i tried to ignore the worries, the worse they got, it gets so bad that sometimes i feel like my head is spinning and is ready to pop, i get military medical treatment and they always make me feel really uncomfortable like i am a bothersome to them since i am just a spouse, we cant afford civilian doctors, but this problem is really bad, there have been days i couldnt even leave my bedroom and when i told my ob when i had my post partum check up, she kinda clammed up and told me to talk to a mental health person, are there any natural ways to battle anxiety?? i dont want to talk to a doctor, i just want to feel better

Answer 1

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Take Care and God Bless you

Answer 2

Anxieties are not uncommon for new parents. However, yours seems to be more serious. Don't let the doctors intimidate you. You need help for your sake and your children's sake. There are great meds out there that can really help you. I'm sure there are some alternative remedies, but since you are having days when you don't even leave your room, I would suggest to bite the bullet and go back to the doctor. Sometimes depression and anxiety can co-exist or depression can look like anxiety or the other way around. In any case, this is not something you should treat yourself. PLEASE get medical help. I am praying for you.

Answer 3

~When I read the heading question, I thought you were just ashamed of seeing a doctor because you would have to admit there is a problem.
Don't let those doctors intimidate you, you need help and your children need their mother. I hope you've told your husband how you're feeling?
Why can't your OB prescribe some anti depressants for you? I think that post partum depression could be the initial cause. Can you call and ask?
If not, just go in and insist you need help. That's what they're there for. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
It also sounds like you have a panic disorder, you have a sudden fear that comes out of nowhere and you can't run from it. I'll leave a link for you on here.
I wish the best of luck for you.~

Answer 4

Depression is so very common after childbirth. And the fact that you have two very young children is very stressful for a new mom. You read about young mothers who kill their children because of post partum depression. THIS is VERY serious! You need to get help. There are no natural remedies that will help. They have very good anxiety medicines on the market that will relax you and ease your worries. I know from personal experience that military doctors are not always kind or caring. But you do have a say so in your medical treatment. Demand to have a new doctor and explain why. Have your husband or close friend go with you to your doctor's appointments as an advocate for you. That way when the doctor blows off your concerns and refuses to take you seriously or treat you, your husband who should be in the room with you will firmly tell them NO, this is serious matter and NEEDS attention. That's what I do now days, because I find it hard to get my medical needs met (like for chronic pain) so I now bring somebody into the doctor's office with me to be strong when I feel weak and make sure I get what I need. AND this does work! When you are so weak and fatigued and stressed from being a young mother, you do need someone there to support and love you. Good luck and best of wishes! Happy New Year!

Answer 5

Its such a pity when someone really does need this kind of help and a doctor treats them badly. Depression and anxiety does fall into the mental health category. I was in your same condition and I have never had a baby. Give the mental health doctors a chance to help you. There are many very good medicines out there now that will help you. Remember it is no shame to ask for and get help for a valid condition either mental or physical. Don't put this off. This is probably temporary and you can get the help you need and get your life back on track sooner.

Answer 6

I've been where you are. I know how horrible it is. The worst thing you can do is let it "win". You have to know that these feelings are not going to kill you, and they will only last a little while. Don't become a prisoner in your home, and don't avoid things. There are millions of people out there who suffer from the same thing you are. It's also interesting to point out, that it happens primarily to women. Here's a website I found very helpful, it's basically a support network where people with anxiety chat, and offer tips and help to others like them. I hope it helps!!

http://www.findthelight.net/

Answer 7

There are many people who have misconceptions about mental health and the nurse who clammed up and told you talk to a mental health person seems like one of them. There is nothing wrong with going to see a mental health doctor. It is equivalent of getting a yearly physical. Were you depressive before you gave birth? Anyhow, you may be going through post-partum depression and going to see a mental health doc is a great first step to re-solving your issue. Don't stress out too much. Your issue can be re-solved. Brook Shields, the actress, had post-partum depression and over came it. First step is going to see a mental health professional. A great book that may benefit you is "Feeling Good" by Dr. David D. Burns. Basically it is a book that teaches you how to re-think situations that are causing you to get anxiety. Once you rationalize your worries and realize they are not that bad your anxiety will decrease. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Well here is how it is. Either you just let thaat anxiety keep consuming you, or you go and talk to someone about what is going and, and find out what is causing the anxiety. You could go to a friend, family member, chruch, or anywhere you want to go, but if you want it to stop comsuming you you will need to talk to someone about the problems that are causing it. Otherwise it will just keep getting worse. Like i said you don't need to talk with a doctor, but if you don't talk to someone soon, that will be who you need to talk to .....so hope you get your issues worked out, and talked about. So you can feel a whole lot better...

Happy Hoildays

Answer 9

I am no medical doctor but definitely I would link it to your pregnancy. There is a change on the hormone levels. Your condition I would think is not one of psychological, well it seems to be but brought upon by th echange in the bodyily chemistry that should return or restore to normal after pregnancy but some women or not all women's body chemistry is restored to normal after birth. Its a common problem that a right diagnosis should not bring about soud health body mind and soul. Do an internet search or your local GP about PostPartum Mood disorders which is divided into 3 categories. http://www.americanpregnancy.org/firstyearoflife/formofpostpartum.htm

Answer 10

In order for you to finally feel better, you will need to feel worse to feel better. No one likes emotional 'surgery', but, incidentally, this is something 95%, if not more, of us should be getting.

No amt of advice is going to unnerve you. Your head is 'spinning' and like you say, ready to 'pop'. I empathise with what you're going thru, I have experienced headspins before, countless times. It's not easy to explain how to stop the head spinning. It takes much time to work through most of what is bothering you in the subconscious, if you're willing to stop long enough to listen to yourself, what is really going on in your head. Usually when the head spins, our outward signs in behavior is doing the same. We are busy doing many things bc we dare not stop long enough to listen to our heads chatter inside. So we remain vaguely aware something sinister is going on that makes us vaguely ill. This is not good for mental health in the long run.

There must be someone safe enough for you to talk to. Pray about it. It might not even be a professional. I'm sure there are some strangers who are safe too, if we open our eyes to look. Time and time again, God is demonstrating to me that I'm living in a safe place, esp at times when I need assistance. This is despite the general malaise of the world.

A support group may be the answer. Hotlines can be found in your local newspaper.