Not having anything planned for New Year's Eve, my fiancee and I decided to invite several of our friends over to our apartment. Unbeknownst to any of us, at the same time some of our common friends had planned a New Year's Eve bash at their place, but neglected to mention anything. Instead, they had already sent out invitations by mail which had not yet arrived. We found out about the conflict a couple of days later when we invited those friends to our party (the letters arrived that day, too).
Most friends we have in common, though there are some exceptions... who now plan on coming to my place on New Years, so I'd feel weird about cancelling my get-together in order to go to a different party. At the same time, it feels weird to have a party scheduled opposite friends of mine, and it feels weird to put our common friends in the position of having to choose one over the other.
What's the right thing to do, here, and how can this kind of situation best be avoided in the future?
2006-12-29 19:41:03 · 5 answers · asked by tylerism 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
go ahead and have ur party. some will come to urs and some to theres. maybe next year ask to see if they are having a party too.
2006-12-29 19:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by hippie_chick69love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough. There's no way you could have known that your friends were sending out invitations. Obviously you can't attend another party while you are hosting one.
I'd say leave the party very open for people to come and go, so your mutual friends can make an appearance at both parties if they wish. And call your friends to tell them that you really didn't intend to throw a party in competition with theirs. Hopefully they'll realize that it was a coincidence.
If you think that these friends are going to throw a party next year, you could maybe talk to them and plan a joint party to which all of your friends could be invited, or make a system of trading off hosting parties on different years.
2006-12-30 03:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
shouldn't be a problem; however, if you did not put an RSVP on the invitations it is going to be a bit difficult. Why not discuss this with your friends , like right a way, and see if you can figure out who is coming to each party so you can plan the food. Other than the food, small parties are as good as large parties.
2006-12-30 03:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you combine parties? Since there are only a few not-in-common friends, you could bring them to the other party with you. Offer to provide some food and/or drink to help out.
2006-12-30 06:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the friends you have in common can always stop by each party....and i think you are right not to cancel, especially with some friends not having other plans to fall back on....have your party and have a great time....and in the future just communicate with your friends about upcoming plans if you're worried about it happening again
2006-12-30 09:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋