I was in a very serious relationship for abt a decade but then suddenly we broke up. I had horrible time but he was kinda cool about it. Eventually i started to avoid his general hello hi calls and text msgs, until one time he came over and we made love. It was just a frustration that we both took out. We had been making out before. After that he kinda ignores me now. He used to insult me at the time we were breaking up. Now that after this little love making, I want him so badly because all my feelings have returned for him but he just doesnt want to talk about it. If we meet in public among friends, he kinda ignores me and doesnt reply to my msgs or calls. And hes very rude to me.
Is he using me? What should I do? I am finding it very hard to let go of him again. It took me 4 months to get over him but now I am back to square one and its even harder now NOT to think about him! Please help me! I really want him back!
2006-12-29 19:11:45 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is using you. He probably does not gave a girlfriend at the moment and needs to fullfill some needs...loneliness and sexual. When guys have sex that is usually all it is...for women it's different...it means so much more to us! This guy is treating you like dirt and does not have the same feeling for you as you do for him! You need to move on and find other guys that will treat you with respect! Why would you want to be with someone who treats you like crap? Have more respect and dignity and move on!!! Do not waste anymore time with this jerk!!!
2006-12-29 19:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see, he only works you into his life when he has not got anything better to do. He provides his friends with entertainment by humiliating you in front of them. The basic fact is that if you did get him back, what would you really have in your life but an abuser. No one wants an idiot like this, why do you? Are you not worth love or respect? You are letting yourself be completely controlled by your emotions. Don't you know that you need to apply some logic to this situation also? Forget avoiding him. YOUR prize move is to act indifferent to his advances. Don't let him have ANY display of emotion from you. Be upbeat and at least act like you have a busy life. Be sweet but take charge and turn him down for any dates etc. In no situation are you to approach or discuss him. This will puzzle the heck out of him and put him in his place with you. If he is unsure of what you are thinking, then you have the upper hand. Dump this "wasted 10 year" loser, hold your head up, keep discussions about your thoughts or feelings to yourself. There is a great big world out there for you to discover. Go DO that will you? Best of Luck, Let yourself enjoy life! Listen to that inner voice. You deserve better.
2006-12-30 03:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by PZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a fool the harder you try the more he doesn't have to . I hate to say it but he probably has a feeling he could do better and wants to play the field ,But being afraid he might not find another women. So he keeps you in his stable . As a spare sad really. Give him a taste of his own medicine .Ignore his remarks and everything else about him .And when he looses out with all the other women and comes crawling back to you .I'd just laugh at him and as him how it feels to be alone .Find a good man that really wants you all the time .Alaska has a 8 to 1 ratio in women's favor . Play the field and have fun. Love your life then find another.
2006-12-30 03:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by akloveit2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he continues to ignore you but then one day comes over and you make love again but following that he ignores you again you can say he is using you.
He may be doing something like this to get back at you for the break up. But only he knows for sure.
While it is hard to give him up you must do so. You will not get back what you thought you had before no matter how long you try.
What ever you do don't let him in your bed again unless he starts treating you like he cares for you again. Even then hold of until he proves himself one way or another.
2006-12-30 03:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you will have to come over the hysteria he is creating by coming back and making love to you again. It is no use to be with a person who does not even bother to say hello after you have given everything to him. He is definitely using you as he finds you weak and he is manipulating your emotions. Just keep a distance. i know it is hard. Try finding time in different activities and spending more time with friends who are helpful and make you happy. Avoid him and his text msgs, calls. he deserves that.
2006-12-30 03:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can not tell a lie , yes you are , and he knows how to play you,so do the opposite ignore him , and i mean completely ,if he turns around after you ignore him it because he wants the attetion,now you have to ask yourself if he isnt giving you the attention then who is he giving it to... and do you really want to be that second girl in his life or do you want to be the main one in a mans life , and i mean a mans life not a boys life cuz thats how he's acting like a little boy who thinks he can have you and any other girl when he wants and if that s how you want him then i feel sorry for you ,but if you have the respect i believe you do ,then its time to let him loose ,besides you dont know where she has been when she hasnt been with him ... think about , no dont think about it cuz u have the answer baby now run and find a real man .... signed a real man :)
2006-12-30 03:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by luvsgateway 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would say you are being used!!! Men usually apologize by having sex. That makes their ego feel better because they "pleased you" Then you will "crawl " back to them. I think he has probably been rude to you in the past and you just thought it was normal or just blew it off as a "mood" swing in men. Try and forget him, and think of the pain he caused you and move on. Even if you have to go back to the 4 month stage. Stop looking and let nature take its course. Be comfortable with yourself and hang out with people that are kind and nice to you.
2006-12-30 03:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sorry hon, he used you as a booty call. Don't allow him to use you again. Don't initiate any contact with him. Don't run after him. Keep your dignity and move on now. If he initiates contact don't let him have a quick booty call. Make him earn the privilege of spending time with you with real dates (NO SEX!).
Get out with friends who are not friends with him. Don't hang around him in social settings. Do NOT allow him to be rude to you. That is unacceptable.
Try to go out on casual dates and find other things to fill your time. New hobbies, friends, classes, go to the gym, etc. The more you have to do the less time you'll have to mope.
Good luck!
2006-12-30 04:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used you. Stop liking him. Yes, it's hard but time heals wounds. And this wound may take awhile, but it's not worth something to go back to. It's like living the past when it is just the past. If he is going to treat you like dirt, ignore your calls, insult you, and continue to be rude, he is not someone worth even to going back, too. He used and abused you. There is so much better men in the world, he's just not one of them.
Where is the respect in the relationship, if he can't even respect you as a friend?
2006-12-30 03:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by mmmfilipino 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At the time, you used each other. But, by you calling him and stuff, your looking desperate! You gotta stop, it's over. Females feel from the heart, and guys feel from the di*k! So, start going out, and try your best on moving forward!!!!! Next time you see him, ignore him,-the worst feeling someone could ever feel-is REJECTION!!!!!
2006-12-30 03:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋