I have been married for three years now. We have grown apart. At the moment I'm not sure I want to get divorced. Is it ok if I move away for 6 months or a year and still stay married. We do not have children.
2006-12-29 18:52:16 · 11 answers · asked by brenda29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No children? Then get out. A good husband only wants his wife to be happy. If you are not,then you are not doing him any favors by staying.
2006-12-29 18:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Crabby Patty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have grown apart....moving away will make you more apart! A couple contemplating divorce might need a change of scenery together. Vacation together. Take up a hobby together.
Couples grow apart because something distracts them from the foundation they started with. Did you start out clubbing and dancing? Do you still dance together? Did you start out with a circle of friends that might still be around? Are you working too hard at your jobs? Is there a single life out that is looking appealing?
If you are not sure if you should get a divorce, the best thing is for you or the both of you to get some advice from a professional.
A divorce is a very hard thing to recover from. It packs a pretty mean emotional hangover for one or both parties.
Talk it out together. Finding some new or old common ground will help. Getting professional advice is ideal. The very final step should be moving out on your own.
Good luck!
C-F
2006-12-30 03:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is a job--and truly if you don't give it your all then you are not going to get back 100% --having a marriage with what I call a revolving door usually isn't a good thing--and if you have grown apart how will moving away bring you closer together?? You need to rethink the reasons you don't feel close and see if you can resolve the problems--if its just that you have grown into two different people in the past three years and really have no common grounds then maybe call it quits--that's a sad thought tho isn't it?? And you married for a reason --remember what that was--were you madly in love? And if so when did it fade?? And why?? Find ways to rekindle that love and be happy--
2006-12-30 03:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have grown apart. But it sounds like you still love her. Say you move away for 6months to a year. You come back. But, she has moved on with out you. Even if ya talk on the phone. You should think hard on what you do. If you still love her. You should try to make things better between you two. Buy her flowers, call her when you are alway from home.
But if you dont think you can save what you two have. Let go and move on. The easy way out , Might be the right way out. Good Luck
2006-12-30 04:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetblue85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would moving away give you clarity on what you need or want to do? What exactly do you hope to accomplish by moving away?
I would try marriage counseling first. If he's willing to go, do the counseling together. If he's not willing to go, then get counseling for yourself.
You're only 3 years into it -- your problems haven't even begun yet, and I was in your shoes after 1 year of marriage!
Speaking from experience, if you don't try to nip it at the bud, it'll get out of hand and you might end up feeling trapped for whatever reason, like you CAN'T leave. Forget about all those stories, real or imagined, of couples who separate and find their way back to each other through the storm. That sounds really romantic and all, but at 3 years, you haven't really given it a chance yet.
Do the counseling. Try to figure out what your needs and wants are from each other. Try to fulfill them, and if you're still apart, well, then you do what you need to do to be happy and at peace, OK?
2006-12-30 03:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not okay to move away for 6 monhts and pretend you're not married. If you don't want to be married then get a divorce (why the hell did you get married in the first place?).
2006-12-30 05:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time and some space but don't give up. Do you love him? Does he love you? If there is still love between you it can be salvaged. I felt like this three years into my marriage, but I kept holding on to hope and I did not give up here it is three years later and we are still together and if I would have left then our love would not be as strong as it is now and I would not have the beautiful daughter that I have today!
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I don't know if you believe in God but if you do, you should try praying about it, there have been many nights that I have had to pray and trust in God to fix problems in my marriage and God has not failed me yet.
2006-12-30 03:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt move away because if something happens and u guys legally file for divorce, he will get you when he tells the court that you left.
2006-12-30 03:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by justin3067 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't know anything. You only been married 3 years. What does each of yu do? What is each willing to do to spark up the marriage?
2006-12-30 03:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it, Give you and your husband time.
LIKE YOU SAID YOU ARE NOT SURE.
Time can cure,Anyway you loved each other ,didnt you?
2006-12-30 02:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by earthlove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋