A girl I have been romantically involved in just told me she wants it over. We have been together for about 3 weeks. A short time I know but I absolutely fell in love with her. We were even intimate. I would spend a lot of time at her place, even slept over a few times. She seemed to feel the same way. But the day after Xmas is the last time I saw her. She didn't answer my calls or messages and finally 3 days later when she did is when I got what I got. She said I was the best thing that ever happened to her. Calling me babe. Always hugging and kissing me. I got advice from friends to just move on because it wasn't a long relationship but I feel cheated. I feel she didn't give it a chance. She claims it was going too fast and she felt suffocated. She was perfect for me and I feel devastated. She won't even talk to me. This was told to me in an IM. Any advice out there?
2006-12-29 18:51:05 · 28 answers · asked by musiciancomposerwriter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bless your broken heart!! Heart aches are never fun. Just a mere part of life! Give it time. Move on. So many fish in the sea. Jump in and swim around!!!
2006-12-29 18:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by JUSTALOVER 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I feel for you. There's not really anything you can do but let her go. Give yourself time and space to think. Yes, I know it's hard I've been through it. Just don't get involved in another relationship until you're SURE you are over her. In a couple of weeks, you may realize your own feelings aren't what you thought they were. Then you may actually be relieved that she put some time and space between you so you could get your own head out of the clouds and see things for what they really are.
If she didn't even have the guts to face you, she didn't deserve you. That's just a fact. Give yourself some time to get yourself together, then find someone who will treat your heart with the care it deserves.
2006-12-29 18:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by swttxlady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, your friends are right. It was a short relationship and there really wasn't much time for really anything. Most of what she said to you was to try and not hurt you , but of course there's not much in that right. Nothing she said ever made you feel good, specially knowing it was for breaking it off. She might of very well felt it was going to fast and suffocated. But with that your life will go on. You wanted things to be one way and she ...well wanted something else. you didn't do anything wrong... it's just not the thing for her at this time in her life. You will find the girl of your dreams, it's just not her.
Just remember to ALWAYS be yourself.
Good luck Buddy.
2006-12-29 19:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by gord's360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her feelings are just as Strong and she's not ready for the relation to evolve as fast. If her feelings where as strong then give her time not saying you should wait. Take of yourself and relax do let the emotions overcome you. Women are sometime difficult and are not sure what they want. And when they find a guy that has become a part of there heart very intimately, there not sure if the should relinquish it so give her what she wants. And if she wants you bad enough she will come back.
2006-12-29 19:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by zionputo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was into this somehow in a similar situation with my wife. I advice first do not take all as do it like me, especially braking, because it could be one of a choice from others. My advice now: You tell her what you feel for her, eventually if you planed a life with her, what you want from her. You could fight your way into her hart and your position there. Is ain't gonna be easy to ignore it, but if is not to be, you will be hurt by offenses. Is hard to keep it cool, calm, and I ask "even probably deserve it?". I fight my way with my wife like that and sincerely it was not easy. I do not regret it, I still love her, maybe even more, but I still was badly hurt. Those are questions I put it myself. Try it you do not have anything to lose, see what she wants, even from life, what you want and maybe is gonna be more than a short relationship. GOOD LUCK!
You can contact me if you want!
2006-12-29 19:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mircea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's to advise? It's over. You weren't the right match for her. We're all searching for that someone that is match for match, aren't we? So, give her a hug and tell her to have a good life. Let her know that she can call on you as a friend if she's ever in trouble. And start dating. That's all there is to it.
Ok, I know it feels lousy right now, but why make it worse than it needs to be. Don't bad mouth her, you won't feel better for it. Just get back in the field and start looking for someone that might be the right match for you.
Good luck.
2006-12-29 18:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well buddy it seems that you do have a real problem here, and you do need help but it is not from what we can tell you that you will find the true answer. you have to look deep in there and say was she really that perfect and just ask the simple questions and then you will find the true answer. Friends may try to help you but they just don't really care, so if you want her then maybe it will be in the future. but until then yes good luck
2006-12-29 18:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, she doesn't deserve you. If she didn't want to give it a chance, why sweat it, who wants to be in a 1-sided relationship, I don't. And I never will. She wasn't perfect for you because she obviously wanted different things. Move on.
2006-12-29 18:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by red549 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Theres an ocean of single women out there cast that rod n pole and go fishing and youll be amazed with your catches.
2006-12-29 18:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by skcus ome 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say which you care approximately her, or maybe nonetheless you experience. dont be forced into asserting this. this has got here approximately to me and you re actual, you shouldnt throw the word around. shop independent till you be attentive to. good success.
2016-10-06 05:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋