My boyfriend and I had a perfect relationship until he got involved in drugs, he got paranoid and thought I was cheating, I did everything to help and prove that I’m not cheating, he stopped the drugs, but still didn’t trust me, I was the perfect girlfriend. But then after all I did for him he dumped me, because he thought I’m still lying. Now he doesn’t want to talk to me, and it kills me, I can’t get over the fact that things ended this way, what do I do?
2006-12-29 18:42:34 · 15 answers · asked by NS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go on with your life and chalk this up to experience. He is the one that got on the drugs. You did nothing wrong and have nothing to worry yourself over. Go one with your life and find someone that does not have to use drugs to cope with life. You are better off without that loser.
2006-12-29 18:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you really have a perfect relationship??or are you really the perfect girlfriend??? are you really sure he is not into drugs,when he told you he stopped??are you sure you are the only girl he have???
these questions might not be that pleasing for someone who is in pain and in love...but then we have to assess things first before taking further steps...
sometimes there are things that would happen that is beyond our control,no matter how great the effort we are exerting to make things work,still it would fail...i know this is easier said than done,but you have to take it this way..
he is not your life and will never be your life...if he doesn't want to talk to you, then let it be that way..because the more you would run after him the more he'd try to get away from you...
you may not like this,.but i THINK he is the one who cheated you..(BUT I COULD BE VERY WRoNG,i do hope i really am wrong)
that could be the reason why he is not trusting you and he can't talk to you after your relationship ended,because he could be the one who is doing the cheating all this time...his conscience might be bothering him and he doesn't know how to explain it to you,that is why he is sort of blaming you so he could use this as an allibi not to talk to you...
just continue to live your life and accept what is happening now,this could be something bad,but it wouldn't last long...
this line maybe said a million times but i would say it again "MOVE ON"...you will definitely find someone who is best for you and have that something you've always been wanting..and remember to takes things slow...don't rush things..everything will fall into place in no time...
(^_^)
2006-12-29 19:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mae_christine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be the one to let you know, but most guys don't get so untrusting unless they themselves are doing what they are accusing you of. If a guy is cheating on you they automatically get really jealous because they realize how VERY easy it can be to get away with it! I'm not saying that is the case, but I would definately move on, sounds like you have been through enough with this one, and you deserve something new and better anyways!!!
2006-12-29 18:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him or make him believe you even if your are telling the truth. He is acting in a survival mode and is still feeling the effect of using or coming off drugs.
How you deal with it is something you do have control of--meaning your life. He has done the "favor" of dumping you so I would suggest that you move on and as time goes on you will feel better and better.
2006-12-29 18:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not that much that you can do, he has the problem he will have to work it out. You was there for him during his drug problem, now he needs to standup and do somethings for himself. But if he brokeup with you after all u have done for him, then it sounds to me like you are better off without him.
2006-12-29 18:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Smoke Eater 512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop that loser, and get on with YOUR life, remember when you were happy without him, you know, before your relationship? Why would you want to put up with his selfish drama when there are PLENTY of men out there wanting to treat you like a queen? You deserve better.
2006-12-29 18:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by red549 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ns,you did what you could do.Your personality wount blend with yours.try as hard as you can not to think about him.Sooner or laiter,you may even contemplate of doing drugs so that you may win over him.respect yourself and stand your ground.Hint:try and date other men.Dont call him because you have a solution now.All the best.You will survive.trust me.
2006-12-29 18:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by The millionaire next door 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, move on... it only gets worse if you persist.
Relationships must be based on trust, and who wants a relationship full of paranoia and not being valued and respected?
2006-12-29 18:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by Saphire Aurora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't find one reason to trust you and doesn't want to look for a reason , he's not worth your time =)
2006-12-29 19:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by kellyklark101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him if he doesn't trust you it won't work. trust is very important. Just move on!
2006-12-29 18:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by Moni0718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋