my bf has been dropping hints about having sex, and i kinda want to but im really nervous. is 15 too young. I dont want him to break up with me becuz of it, but he keeps leading me up to his room and we almost did it one time but after we started making out he started pulling on my cami and i sorta froze. Im super confused what should i do!!!!
2006-12-29 18:34:33 · 25 answers · asked by xhes_ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ik he loves. me hes 17. and ik he would use a condom
2006-12-29 18:51:58 · update #1
oh and ive been goin out with him for lyk 2 years now
2006-12-29 18:53:29 · update #2
15 is the average age these days, but do what you think is right. it's your body, your choice. if you feel you are ready, just take it slow. if you feel you aren't ready, then wait.
2006-12-29 18:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're body isn't even completely developed at 15. Therefore, if you were having sex you wouldn't even be able to appreciate it to it's fullest.
I know it seems like he's the love of your life, and you'll never even date anyone else, or sleep with anyone else, so why not just sleep with him now since he'll be your first and only, right? Okay wrong! You are 15, you will have many other boyfriends.
He's a punk for 'hinting' to you, and pushing you as hard as he has. Everyone is different and accepts different things at different times in their lives. It sounds like you are absolutely no where near being ready. If you have to ask other people if you are then you aren't plan and simple.
Don't do something you'll regret later.
How long have you been dating him?
2006-12-30 02:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it.
What if you guys do have sex, then you end up pregnant. Will he still be there to support you and your child? Then what if your parents didn't accept that you were pregnant, and kicked you out? You seriously cannot predict what can happen. JUST DON'T DO IT.
Confront your boyfriend. Tell him you're not ready for sex. And if he won't listen, then he's not even worth having sex with. He should be able to respect you, and think about what he's doing to you and your relationship.
Seriously, people -- especially teenagers are having sex at such young ages. And I myself am a teenager, and there is so much pressure into having sex. But sex represents love. And it disgusts me how many kids just go out there and do it for the experience. Be one of the girls that saved their self for someone better. Remember the true meaning and value of sex.
For every choice you make, there are consequences.
- mmmfilipino
2006-12-30 02:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by mmmfilipino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your "confused" and "really nervous" then your obviously not ready. If you have any doubt then your not ready. And im sure youve heard this a hundred times, but if he wont wait, he's not worth it. And you are 15 and although you probably reallly care about this guy, you are going to have tons of boyfriends in the future and the guy you date when you're 15 is really just gonna be a little blip in the story of your life. Just think about what college is going to be like, and getting to go out to clubs and have parties and parents living in a completly different state. You will have plently of time to have boyfriends, believe me. It is best to practice how to be picky now! Seriously, if you dont learn how to be picky now you'll end doing the walk of shame later on in life. Put your foot down, and if your boy complains, forget him, there will be so many better, hotter, sweeter, sexier, older boys to look forward to down the line.
2006-12-30 02:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by jezabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny.. be Strong and stand up for what you want. is this really what you want. 15 is kinda young But the world is starting younger.. Just be ready for the Consequences... of what may or may not happen when you have sex. Dont let him pressure you if you are not ready. sex does not define a relationship.. dont fall for things like.. "If you love me then you will" Stand up for what you believe in and hope all is well...
2006-12-30 02:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i waited till i was seventeen to have sex for the first time. but i'm still in love wiht that person today and i have no regrets. make sure that you love him and it will be worth it in the end. if you do decide to have sex just be careful, use a condom and birth control if you can and make sue he pulls out. if you say that your feeling nervous when he starts to take your shirt off then maybe your not ready yet. try all the things before sex to build up your sexual confidence. remember no one can tell you your ready but you.
2006-12-30 02:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes 15 is young.Let not sex make you keep the relationship.be patient,look at other qualities in him.Is he kind?will he protect you when you are in a fix or anyother time?Will he call just to say he loves you but not for other things?Dont let sex determine love.You see,love is deeper than sex,it calls for perseviarance,understanding,gentle and sex too.But please,Dont have sex at that age.its so precious to you.You loose your virginity.you will never get it back.Think seriuosly about the repercussions.are you ready if you got pregnant?what about some STD's?lady,please think hard.
2006-12-30 02:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by The millionaire next door 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling dont have sex with him just because he wants you to!! and if he dumps u because of it then your better off without him!! so many girls i know have lost their virginity in the back of a car or at a party all because a stupid boy put pressure on them and they have regreted it so much!! if you love your boy and your confused then just tell him to wait for you, and tell him to do special things together for you that will make you feel ready and you can loose your virginity to someone you truly love!
2006-12-30 02:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet_Miss_Toni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leading you into his room doesnt quite mean he wants to have sex.But pulling on your cami means he wants to explore your body which could lead to sex.Im fifteen i lost my virginity to my bf this year who i've been going out with for half a year.If you trust him and are sure this is the guy you want to remeber that you lost your virginity to then do it but use protection please ! Maybe you guys should try little things before having sex like oral , touching etc. Its not as scary as it seems or sounds , just relax be omfortable talk about it with him before hand and use protection if you'd like to talk to me about this you could email me at kellyklark101101@yahoo.com and ill give you my sn. good luck
2006-12-30 02:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by kellyklark101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand up for yourself. If u think u are too young then dont do it, if u think u are ready then go for it. But dont be pressured into anything, if he really cares for u he will understand. And if Sex is all he wants then u dont need him anyway.
2006-12-30 02:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by Smoke Eater 512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it seems you are not ready. i hate to break it to you, but you will not be with him forever... in fact, you're likely to break up with him in the next year anyways (just a reality of being young and in high school) so if he's the one you want to lose it to, then fine. do not worry about whether he will break up with you because of it -- like i said it's pretty much a guarantee you'll break up at some point anyways (statistically speaking a 98% chance) so don't base it on that -- decide based on whether you want now to be the time and him to be the person
2006-12-30 02:41:24 · answer #11 · answered by misterlyle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋