how can i tell my parents that i cut myself?

Question

i'm scared to tell them cause i'm scared they'll be mad at me or that they'll think it's their fault i'm screwed up. i really don't want them to know that i do it but i think i need their help. how can i tell them?

Answer 1

hun tell them they need to know. The are you're parents. and please get some help. So that you don't have to do that. PLease. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

You know in my day in teenage land, I am assuming your quite young, "cutting" was not done to my knowledge....There were other self destructive things you could do, mainly drugs. I don't understand what it is, the satisfaction one gets from self inflicted pain, and watching yourself bleed, but that is because I am not you, and the others who do it....I guarantee this has to be linked to some form of depression......The only way you can relieve the inner anxiety and stress you have. Perhaps, not knowing the entire cause for the depression is why you have a hard time dealing with inner pain....It is very hard to deal with depression on any level all by yourself....You feel a need to do it, then I imagine feel ashamed afterwards of sorts?......Geez, life is so not easy that is for sure. But self mutilation is a major cry for help to me....Is there anyone you trust that could get you into counceling....Just someone to listen to you, and maybe give you a different perspective on things. Maybe set up a plan of helping you deal with what is eating at you.....I do have another suggestion.....Get you a notebook, and when you feel that rising of stress coming Write Stuff Down!!.....You can write till your hand falls off, and when you do that, you are actually rationalizing things with Yourself!!!.....Instead of grabbing that razor,(?), grab a pen!!!!!......You will be so surprised how much stuff will flow out of your head, and relieve you some of the things that are eating away at you.....Post what is really bothering you here....You are annymous here. You will get some good and bad answers, but that is life, the good and the bad...But you can get some things off your chest.....your not a screwup....everyone has rough times, believe me when I tell you...Not one person here would disagree with that. You just need to learn how to deal with it....If you want to you can write your folks a letter, its easier not to mumble or babble via a letter, and you can really get it all out. I would try something before cutting yourself again......

Answer 3

Ok, if you're really serious about telling them make sure you're ready for the aftermath. I decided to tell a close teacher of mine and ended up getting screwed over because of some child protection laws. So if you want to deal with this the best way is to tell them before they find out from someone else. It really sucks when you have to constantly worry about them finding out so it's nice to have that burden lifted off of you once they know. Personally, I DO regret telling my parents because they've never looked at me the same again.Honestly, none of the counseling changed anything for me because I still do it. At the same time though, it's a relief to know that they care, and hopefully you won't regret whatever you choose.

Answer 4

Don't spend too much time thinking about how to tell them....just do it. If you wait for the right time, or place, or the right words....you might talk yourself out of it.

If you don't feel comfortable telling them about the cutting, you tell one or both of your folks that you think you need to speak to a counselor or a therapist. That way it is something you are looking to resolve without pointing at them. If they ask you why you want to get counselling you can say that you don't feel comfortable discussing it just yet. If they insist, then you tell them....with the understanding that you are still wanting the therapy.

The sooner you get this out in the open, the better you will feel.

Please let them know.

Good Luck,

C-F

Answer 5

You need to get both of them together and try to explain what you are feeling. It is hard to talk to anyone about this matter. My brother was a cutter and when he first told me I cried. I think I cried because the thought of losing him. But I never judged him nor mad him feel less of a person. We sat and talked and I let him tell me all he wanted to share and I never asked him any questions, so he would not feel pressured. Try not to be angry if they get upset, because they are upset because they want to help and they feel like they missed all the signs. Which in these cases, there isn't really signs to look for. I want you to know that life is hard and it doesn't get any easier. This is why you need to enjoy life and live your life to the fullest. NO ONE IS PROMISED TOMORROW... Good luck. Email me anytime you wanna talk at [e-mail]

Answer 6

If face to face is to hard then write them a letter....simple and to the point...let them know what is going on.

Remember they are your parents and they love you and even though they may be shocked at first will get over that and be able to help you.

The first step to getting help is agknowledging you have problem, so your deserve praise for that.

You are stronger than you think and admitting this to your parents will the first step towards stopping this. You can do it. You need to do this.

Answer 7

If you're afraid of their reaction, you can always write them a note. Leave it on their pillow. I'm a mom with 3 kids and would want mine to tell me.... The reaction they have can't be worse than cutting yourself.

If you don't want to do that, ask a really good friend who knows you cut and they can tell them.

See your guidance counselor and ask him or her to tell them.

Whatever you do, you need to do it soon.... like go wake them up right now and tell them.

You'll be in my prayers.

God bless...and good luck.

Answer 8

its gonna be one of the hardest things that you are going to do but I believe that it is Something that shouldnt Just slip by. The scars are going to constantly remind you of your past and the fact that you didnt seek help. Coming from a ex-cutter. I didnt think that I was going to be able to open up to my Perfect family about their troubled child.. But I made it though and they got me the help I need.. You can too babe.. Hang in there and dont let anyone knock you down. you can do this

Answer 9

Gurl..pls tell 'em. they will understand you..nobody else in this God's green world will be able to understand you better then your own flesh and blood. Talk to them...gosh i got teary eyes now, as i am typing this. God Bless u. And dont forget to pray.

Answer 10

Just go mom dad i have beenn cuting myself! Shoe them the cut on your avetar! I have been doing this for attention i think we should sit down and talk about this!!! Then talk and tell thme they did good on raiseing you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Try really hard or if you are too nervios do not say anything instead show them the cut.