I dated a boy for almost 4 years, we meet at college and got engaged after 2 years. Soon after our engagement the relationship got a little rocky and doubts of "is he really the one" surfaced. We broke up for good a year ago and to help get over him I quickly started dating again. I was very lucky and within a few weeks a meet a great guy that treated me how i wanted to be treated. I've been dating the new guy for almost a year now, but find myself still thinking about my ex several times a day. I know i'm not over my ex and part of me doesn't want to be over him. I love him but i hate him at the same time. I know i shouldn't go back to him because i remember how miserable i was with him and how unhappy he made me at times. I want to love the new guy like i loved my ex. I know i shouldn't even be talking causually to my ex but the thought of never speaking to him again makes me instantly fight back tears.The fact that I am incredibly indecisive does not help, what should i do?
2006-12-29 18:27:05 · 7 answers · asked by Lindsay K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive been in your shoes. and i was the same way. talked to him as friends, dated other people and was very happy, and thought about him alot! i did the best thing for me. i quit calling him and seeing him as friends altogether. it helped and now i am happy with the man of my dreams right now. its really hard to be just friends with someone when you have had a relationship with them for what feels like forever. the best thing to do if you want to move on with your life is to quit calling him because it just brings back memories and it makes it harder for the both of you to let go. good luck with your problem i hope everything works out for the best.
2006-12-29 18:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by babyblues452 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This new guy isn't your old guy, so it's not fair to compare like that. You're never gonna get over the old guy, if you don't just drop him, you've been broken up for a year already right? Obviously if he really had the feelings you have for him he would of been with you. He seems to be over you, not to be mean but you sound miserable and the way your going now if you don't make up your mind quick this other guy could get hurt and thats not fair.... My advice, opinion,... let him go and move on with the guy your with.
2006-12-29 18:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were so miserable with your ex boyfriend you shouldn't get together with him, you need to be happy. He was your first love so that's probably why you feel like this, it's always hard to let go of your first. I would stay with the new guy, you sound really happy just take things slow and if he's the one for you you'll forget about your ex in due time.
2006-12-29 18:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deep down in your heart and what it says. No matter what things will work itself out. Its called life and we go though alot of stuff but I was in the situation like your in and I just did what my heart wanted. Thiere are a few things that you can think about and though are
1. which one treated you the best?
2. which one do you have the most in common with?
3. which one do you have the least fights with ?
If you have any more questions you can ask and email me at Beck_20_1986@yahoo.com
2006-12-29 18:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by beck_20_1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound craze or insensitive but have you considered taking time off...don't live with either of them, limit phone calls/e-mails/text...if take any at all...for 3 months and just spend that time with yourself, family and friends?
Spend time away from the "attractions" of both and then decide.
Just a thought.
2006-12-29 18:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by iraq51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a different boyfriend alltogether. obviously the current boyfriend is not enough for you, and the ex boyfriend is an ex.
2006-12-29 18:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on with the current bf
2006-12-29 18:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋