I've been an insulin dependent diabetic for over 30 years, I had a stroke 3 years ago, and a few months ago I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. I love my wife very dearly, but my depression seems to be getting the upperhand in my situation.
I can't work any more and I'm always wondering why I'm still here. I would have no problems ending my own life I just think my wife would hate me for it leaving her with all the baggage I leave behind, mortgage and unpaid credit card bills.
What do I do with no life insurance to leave for her?
2006-12-29 18:14:29 · 9 answers · asked by Cab C 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think your health problems would make anyone depressed, but it seems that you don't think that you have any way to contribute to your wife's happiness except financially. She didn't marry a job or a paycheck; she married YOU.
Please tell your doctor about your depression--who knows, it could even be caused by some of the meds you are taking. My sister has MS and is much more emotional than she used to be--I don't know if there's a connection.
Can you still do volunteer work once or twice a week? Read to kids at a daycare or shelter or hospital, visit with older folks in a retirement home (lots of them don't get any visitors), answer phones at your favorite charity... You get the idea!
Have you talked to your wife? I'm sure there are things you can do around the house that will help keep your household going, even if you cannot work outside the house. Have you asked your former employer if there is anything you could do at home--maybe by computer--that would bring in a little money?
The most important thing to do is talk to your doctor and your wife about your depression--it's a treatable condition.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 18:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by hoptoad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with your doctor about depression. It is quite natural to go through this when your life is changed by a medical diagnosis. But the fact is, you can find things worth doing, and you may even find something that makes money.
Yes, your wife would be devastated, and she would be angry, very angry, if you quit life voluntarily. My Steve committed suicide last December, and I know. I was angry, but I also felt everyone would think I had driven him to it. In fact, his mother and sister said I probably kept him alive for some 20 years longer than he would have lasted had he not met me. I am still going to a grief counselor because there are layers and layers of grief to work through as the surviving spouse of a suicide.
Please talk to your doctor, and see what you can find in the way of MS support groups. There are people out there who have been through it, and know that it is possible to fight the disease and live a real life.
2006-12-29 18:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you go to a broker/fin adviser and look at your option. If your home owner you have option to make income. Vending is a good source of income and cheap to get into. If you take your own life and your wife loves you you would murder her twice for the rest of her life. I m sure its hard on you but fight back. This might sound crazy but find and Alt doctor like William Richardson MD out of Atlanta, GA that research Alt. meds all over the world for ppl as urself.
Do you know that theres MD's that sees patients as yourself-14K plus per year and never lose them.
2006-12-29 18:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by animatelifeforce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you do is get help for your depression and then you thank your lucky stars that you are still here. You are here for a purpose the same as the rest of us and you obviously still have a job to do here. My dad has cancer, has heart problems, arthiritis and has had a stroke. He just gave up riding his motorcycle at age 70. Every day he gets up and is thankful to be alive. Get some help for your depression and start living again.
2006-12-29 18:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is not selfish, your not the only person in the world that suffers, a lot of us do, but, taking your own life would be selfish on your part, how do you know what tomorrow holds, their could be a cure for you tomorrow, God may heal you tomorrow, quit worrying about dying and enjoy the life you do have, i personally suffer with major conflictions mentally and physically, and i'm being treating for major problems, i could not kill myself mainly because i know it would hurt the people that really love me. Keep on hanging in there, and, live each day as if it might be your last one. Please don't hurt your wife and people that love you. and remember MIRACLES still happen God Bless you my friend
2006-12-29 18:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by COUNTRY GIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is a way maker,he still answer prayer.you are still here for purpose maybe the purpose is to seek god for him to turn around things for you .also try reading the bible i find it a source of comfort,GOD BLESS YOU
2006-12-29 18:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend no one is promised tomorrow when it your time it will come.Your wife loves you dearly, cherish each day with family and loved ones and most of all love yourself
2006-12-29 18:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are still there for a reason. You should seek refuge in God.
2006-12-29 18:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask the lord to help you. it is really your decision. hope you make the right one.
2006-12-29 20:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋