I hate my whole family, I can't wait until I'm 18....?

Question

This isn't really a question, I just want to know some of your comments on this. Thanks!
MOM- Won't let me get a job, go out with friends, drive alone, but lets my other 3 siblings (one is younger than me). Yet, I'm the one that gets all A's, never gets in trouble. She blames me all the time (this has made me a very mean person over the years) She is a hypocrite and favors the needy. Defends my older brother saying he can't work because he's bipolar but he admitted to me that he is lazy. Defends grandma all the time.
GRANDMA - my older druggie, bipolar bro lives with her with no job and makes her buy 2 packs of cigs a day on 800 ss a month. She doesn't have enough groceries so my mom buys her stuff and always makes my mom do her errands even tho she has 6 other kids. Granny takes pity on my brother and tells my mom to stop babying me.
Brother - A lazy moocher and my mom keeps bailing him out and allowing him in our home.
Dad - Told my brother and I he would be closer...

with us when we were older. All he does is drink and smoke all the time. Told my mom in a fight that he doesn't care about us.
Younger Brother- Is 14, physically and emotionally abusive and mom doesn't stop it. When i cry she tells me to suck it up. He calls me a fat *** over 10 times a day.
Sister - we get along the most but she is becoming stupid. she is pregnant and she is going to let my druggie brother and her druggie father (we have diff dads) around the baby! thats so stupid.
***IS IT ME WITH THE PROBLEMS OR THEM?

Answer 1

Your mom is treating you like her last hope for a successful child and doesn't want you to end up like your brother. Makes sense right? It might suck, your family might suck. But she might believe that she is doing the right thing. What are you going to do when you hit 18- quit school get a job and hang out with friends? No way right? So relax, stop whining and keep getting As - THAT is what is eventually going to get your out of the house - a scholarship.

Answer 2

I can understand why you are upset. You aren't appreciated for what you do and the people that screw up are getting all the attention. Have you tried talking to someone, like a school counselor? That woudl be a really good start. They can help you straighten things out (as much as they can be straightened). I'm sorry your mother and brother use your bro's bipolar disorder as an excuse. I have a psychology degree, and I personally know several bipolar people. Bipolar is not an excuse to not have a job. He needs to go get one and stop getting so much attention. The attention he is getting is encouraging his problems (making them worse) and causing a strain on teh whole family. He needs to get into therapy, get on meds, and get on with life so maybe the rest of your family can too.

Honestly, this whole problem is really a result of your mother and father. Your father needs to get into the picture and take responsibility. Your mother needs to stop babying your grandmother and brother, because that is causing way too many problems. They need to step up and be parents. They are supposed to be in charge of the household, but instead, they are allowing an unstable son and needy grandmother run the show.

Again, You need to talk to a counselor. You also need to talk to your mom and let her know how you feel about all this.

Answer 3

I think you should get more educated about the problems your family has just so you know exactly why they are acting like they do. Im bi polar,its not easy but at the same time,im not using it as a crutch or a way to get out of living life or pulling my own work load around the house. And mom is just used to picking up the pieces in everyones elses life. Look and see if your mom is your grand ma's power of attorney,if she is then she has to take care of her. If she not her p.o.a.,then its good that she is helping your grandma. All i can say is keep doing good in school,keep staying out of trouble and in some states you can choose where you live at the age of 16. Then move out,but be responsible about the move.When you live in the middle of this day in and day out,its hard to really see why they act like this,give yourself some breathing time,get away. Then when you are calm and sorta together,go back and try a different approach each time. At least until you can get your own place. Finding ways to stay sane until you can get out of there IS the answer!

Answer 4

hi, i stay in australia too, please dont do something stupid.. in case you want somebody to talk to you you may call LIFELINE 131114, they are going to pay attention and not choose you. they may well be waiting to offer suggestion on lodging additionally. they're there 24/7, they may well be waiting to help Your brother sounds like a egocentric, immature fool, comprehend which you're a extra helpful individual then him and have faith it, you're. i comprehend this is probably not what you want to hearken to yet extreme college will quickly be over, then you definately can concentration on uni, and connect communities or golf equipment and making and assembly new buddies. Agree focusing on college is so substantial. you would be able to additionally bypass right into a proportion homestead with different pupils? Lifeline would have suggestion or components for you approximately acommodation. i comprehend some unis have student lodging, yet unsure approximately expenses, u could would desire to ask the specific uni/college. after your assessments why dont you take up a sparkling interest, detect a factor time interest, play game or exercising, do something you rejoice with and you'd be able to fulfill new human beings and characteristic exciting, volunteering is likewise sturdy to met new human beings. desire this permits in some way.

Answer 5

just keep doing well in school and when u can find a time to tald to your mom to tell her u need a part time job to start saving so u can go to college. please dont drop out of school. u will be okay. this is what some familys are all about. stay busy with other activitis. see this will be a positive attitude for u. just remember u are ganna be better then your siblings. and dont focus on all this bad stuff around u. at least u are not getting abused and u have a roof over your head. god bless u

Answer 6

Stay in school and continue to make good grades, keep a good head on your shoulders, dont make the same mistakes your brothers and sister make. I grew up in house where i could not do anything but at least i did get to have a job, if it wasnt for my job i would of went crazy, i spent the night at a lot of my friends houses just to get away from the house and the craziness. I moved out when i was 17 and it was very hard i finshed school and got me apartment and kept a job. You will be okay, i depended on my friends a lot they were very supportive of me without them i do not know what i would of have done. I have a daughter who is twelve and she is very smart makes good grades play sports has many friends and being a mom i want her to be happy, i give her the freedom to make her decsions and if she makes the wrong ones she has to deal with the consequences of it. I wish the best, Please stay in school, make good choices, you have control over your life and happiness, its what you make of your life.

Answer 7

Is the one younger than you male or female???

If it is male parent tends to biased the younger one because they are the youngest and will protect him when i scolds him i will always get scolded no matter right or wrong because he is the youngest in the family. So remember if you object with your family members they will scold you even more. Just leave it to them and don't care.

Just like me i don't care when my second auntie comes to my house because he only care about my younger brother when he is right or wrong. If he is wrong he say he is right course my grandma also like my younger brother.

If you get all A's for your subject they will still hate you but it is for your future. If your parents and grandma die who are going to support them. In every situation look on the bright sight of the situation and think aheads. You must make study you study hard get all A's for your subject because no one is looking after you if you live until 80 year old.

Answer 8

Dear Melissa,
I understand how u feel exactly. My scenario is quite of the same like yours when I was your age. Though my parents allow me to get a job as they wanted me to buy everything with my own money and my elder bro gets all the pocket money w/o wrking.
He was physically abusive to me. I had the intention to move out since I was 15yrs of age.
Since you have good grades and all...do bear with it for a while and complete your studies. Get a stable job and income then move on independently.
I moved out of the house upon achieving my dip and hvn my stable & affordable income. Being independent and staying out is never easy at the start. Rental, bills & more bills. I have got all the training to work for my own expenses when I was in my teenage years. In my poly years I worked 2 part time jobs to save up. you must be able to bear with the consequences that you will have times when your purse strings are tight and you are all alone to face it yourself. And you will slowly miss your family members. Your family members will miss you too.
Distance makes the heart grows fonder. It applies to our family
too.
Bear in mind while proving yourself able to be independent, you must always spare a thought for your folks as they brought you up for so many years. They are still your flesh and blood parents and siblings. They still love you even though you are facing the emotional phase in your life.

Answer 9

Let's not point fingers. But they do seem the ones with big problems. I think you should just stay low until yo uturn 18 and can get the heck out. By the way I have the same problem like you do! But my family isnt that messed up.

Answer 10

Do yourself a favor and quit focusing so much on the bad things going on around you. You are in control of your own destiny. You make good grades, so getting into college should be easy for you. Get out, go to college, make a name for yourself and be successful. Then you will be able to finally be free of all the insanity. Focus more on your future, not on your family. Good luck!