My boyfriend and i were together for 2 years and about 2 months ago he broke up with me, he allready had a new gf, just a rebound but 2 weeks into their relationship he found out she was pregnant, personally i dont think its his but he does so... anyways now he has decided to run away with this chick and get married. they are getting married in march, i love him with all my heart and i think he still has feelings for me, we talk for about 2 hours a day 3-4 days a week he told me that he misses me sometimes and i think that the only reason that he is marrying her is because she is pregnant. i really do love him with all my heart and i dont know what to do, if he still does have feelings for me his marriage cant work can it? i still talk to his friends and family and they say he has been miserable but he tells me that him and his gf are doing great... please help i dont know what to do.
2006-12-29 18:01:27 · 16 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on that guy is playing you...just move on, if it is meant to be, then you and he will both meet again at a place where you are both single and can maybe start again. Remember you broke up for a reason, a lot of times when the person you broke up with has a new lover you get jealous and want them back, but that is all it is, you broke up for a reason, remember that reason, 2 years is a LONG time to be with someone and the change of being with out them cam be quite a shock, it is normal for both of you to go back to what is comfortable. Move on. Hes marring her, his family probably likes you better and just wishes that he haddn't got with this girl and got her knocked up, it is probably not the best thing happening for his life. Families like to control. Either way, him marring her is probably not a good idea, but that is no longer for you to worry about, you guys broke up, you shouldn't worry yourself over his decisions, move on and if it is meant to be it will be...focus on you now and finding out who you are without him.
2006-12-29 18:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by supersssweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweety but this relationship won't work. Don't wait for him! He cheated on you. You don't think he will do it again. The only reason why he misses you is because your not pregnant. Sure he wanted to be with someone else but he doesn't want the resposibility of a baby. He is just trying to do the right thing. If it is his then you need to get away from that drama. You don't need to deal with his mistakes.
Once a cheater always a cheater. Trust me I have been through that. I was with a guy for almost 4 years and the last year we were together we were off and on and when we were off he was with some other chick. He kept going back and forth with one another. Until I finally broke up with him for good, right before he was going to propose, he went and got engaged with her.
Now tell me why did I keep waiting for him, cause I thought he loved me more. Now do you want that to happen to you.
If that child is his he will never leave her. think about it.
2006-12-29 18:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Moni0718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if this is the kind of guy you're falling for, I pity you. Even if you love him, and he harbors feelings for you, it's just not a good idea to try to hold onto it. I don't think you would want to spend the rest of your life in misery, so just move on when you feel ready. Waiting for someone when they're in that situation is about like sitting around and waiting for a winning lottery ticket. Sure, there's a chance you'll hit the jackpot, but the odds are against you. Get out there and work for a fortune that may even have more benefit than those small winnings that'll probably be gone before you know it.
2006-12-29 18:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gray 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you need to do... You need to walk... no "run" away from him as fast as you can.
His marriage to the g/f probably won't work... But if he married you it wouldn't work either.. WHY??? WHY you ask???.. because what he is doing to this girl... talking to you and having you hang around behind the curtains so you can feed his ego.. he would do the exact same thing to you in reverse... HE IS A PLAYER...
Unfortunately there are men like this in the world.. they need a merry-go-round with a couple of women to feed their egos..
You are the lucky one .. it only cost you 2 years..
Run Baby Run...
HAVE A HAPPY LIFE SWEETIE
2006-12-29 18:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by H.O.T. Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG what a freakin Jerk. Sweetie, i know it hurts, but you need to let go. You need to stop talking to him. He is no longer yours to deal with. Most girls get wrapped up in all the unnecessary drama. Please don't be anothe one of those girls. it will hurt for a while, but in the long run you will benefit by making the right choice. More than likely he's been seeing this girl longer than you know. He sounds very imature. Cut him loose before you get sucked into the baby mama drama.
2006-12-29 18:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying he is happy, then there isn't too much you can do. Let him go and stop talking to him all the time, you also need to move on. Regardless of if he marries this girl or not, if it is his child, he is going to be bonded to this woman for the rest of his life. So for now, just let go.
2006-12-29 18:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting on with his life... and so should you. Even if he's only marrying her for the pregnancy, he'll be a father, no matter who's child you think it is. Please stop hurting yourself. Get on with your life....or you may be waiting for him forever... He obviously was ready for someone else, seeing as he already had a new gf... perhaps he got her pregnant before he broke it of with you...
2006-12-29 18:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way..he's with someone else and even though you doubt he's the father, he thinks he could possibly be the father...what does that tell you about their relationship..would someone who truly loved you leave you and get someone else pregnant?? I mean, people make mistakes, but that's not a mistake easily made..
2006-12-29 18:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget him forever as long as he still love that girl even wanna get married with her, right? you should better go to find another guy..there is still a lot of guys waiting for you..
2006-12-29 18:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Dark Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP TALKING TO HIM If he brokeup with you and started sleeping with someone else he not worth your time. And it will be next year be for this crap is over, move on.
2006-12-29 18:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋