My sister works a full time job and sends her kids to day care. When she has a day off she sends her kids there anyway. On the weekends, she's always going out and leaving them with a sitter, or her hubby, yet she always says she doesn't spend enough time with them. It really bugs me to hear her whine and do nothing about it. It's at a point that when she does have her kids she can't handle them by herself. Do I say something or keep my mouth shut?
2006-12-29 17:56:41 · 8 answers · asked by Christy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know SO many people like that. They want the full time job, the full time social life but then vocalize that they don't get to spend enough time with their kids!
It will eat away at you if you don't open up and say something. Why not just ask one day why do they need daycare on her dayoff? Don't make it right in the middle of when she is doing it [guilt pisses people off] BUT when its quiet and catches her off guard... and makes her think about it!
2006-12-29 18:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she resents them a little, which is sad. I knew a woman exactly like that, and she ended up leaving her family and moving away.... total disaster. If I were you, I would honestly keep my mouth shut. I know it's hard (believe me there were times I wanted to tell that woman off too) but it's her decision, and her life is the way it is because of the choices she's made. Just keep it as a reminder for yourself and learn what not to do with your own life.
2006-12-30 02:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I would say something. Maybe she doesn't realize what she is doing. Sometimes it takes stepping out of a situation to see what's actually going on. People tend to get stuck in patterns and can't see what they are really doing.
Good Luck.
2006-12-30 11:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by beanietara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something. Sounds like she needs a wake up call. She may be mad at first but will thank you later. Kids grow up too fast and if she misses that she will regret it later.
2006-12-30 02:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nette 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if it was me i would tell her exactly what i think .. after all if you are her sister and if you see the problems that she is having you should tell her .. she needs to hear it from you before she hears it from someone she dont know at all
2006-12-30 02:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by jazieyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she is the one who makes the choice to leave them on days shes not working, so stop bugging you about it.
2006-12-30 02:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is complaining to you then you can tactfully say something. I am surprised her husband has not said anything to her.
2006-12-30 02:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, that stinks.
I would definately say something--in a nice way though.
(well, as nice as you could possibly put it)
2006-12-30 02:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋