like seriously.
ok so, since he was the one who broke up with me....he seemed as if he was going to cry about it. he looked pretty sad and im pretty sure the only reason it was like that, was because he was scared to hurt me.
so as time just flies, week later, he seemed fine. i don't talk to him no more. but he seems like he's doing good. how can guys get over it that fast?
or maybe, honestly he's just really good at hiding his feelings?
and by the way...i was pretty good to him...
so it's been a couple of weeks, is he already over it?
and just..how why..
2006-12-29 17:49:08 · 18 answers · asked by CAT. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the deal: The person in control is the one who gets over it quicker. The person getting dumped has no control, is more miserable because of it, and is the one who tries to cling on to the relationship (even if they only thing they can cling to is memories). So it goes both ways. Guys would rather run from the situation than take the time and effort to make the situation better. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, it saves a lot of time when you feel deep down it's never going to be what you really want (marriage material).
2006-12-29 17:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by hum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our culture teaches most boys from a very young age that they are supposed to "suck it up", that emotionality aside from anger is for girls. Also, I think they're just wired differently than we are. They can reflect on things and think, "yeah, that sucks", but they don't need to dwell on it mostly. They'll still feel bad about it, but it's not debilitating for them. It just is, and there's no sense crying about it, is what I guess they think.
Also, if he broke up with you, chances are he knew it was something he wanted to do long before he did it, so he got used to the idea of the relationship being over before it actually was. There was probably some anguish in getting to the part where he actually told you, but afterwards, it was probably a relief. No offense or anything.
2006-12-29 17:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may have touched on part of the answer in that he may be hiding his true feelings. But I do have to disagree with your "blanket" statement that guys get over it easier than girls. All this depends on who was more "into" the other partner, or who needed who more or had the most control in the relationship. Also, a lot depends on the individual personalities and not sex (as in male or female).
Personally, I think most girls/women that I've had stong feelings for have gotten over mean long before I've gotten over them. But, I'm one of those types who wears his heart on his sleeve.
Hang in there.
2006-12-29 17:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys, as a majority, get over things much faster than girls. im no scientist or anything but it seems that a guys brain doesn't hold on to things for too long. it is almost like they are add and just move on easily. even when they really did love you, they fall out of love extremely fast, especially compared to some girls who hold on for a long time.
im sorry you had to go through a heartbreak, no one deserves that pain.
2006-12-29 17:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in many circumstances at a youthful age, like 8-9-10-11 women would be speedier. yet once you get to the Elite point, you will see that adult adult males are dominant in time. In end, you're suitable boys do swim speedier than women.
2016-11-25 00:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are he's not over it but like you said really good at hiding it! he may appear happy on the outside but that doesn't mean he is on the inside. some guys just don't let their emotions show because they're afraid of what other people will think, by other people i mean their guy friends...
2006-12-29 18:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally agree with that comment.I think women get over men quicker and move on.Women are able to talk easily to other women and let there emotions out after a break up but men usually end up in counseling sessions with psychiatrists. Like me!
2006-12-29 17:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by jafsil 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
where not dbags! its just that we dont get attached to things as much as women and dont melt over something cute and go aaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwww its soooo cute a man can still love a woman as she loves a man but he gets on with life and thats what you should do maybe tell him your sorry about the break up its better if you get it off your chest
2006-12-29 17:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by monkeyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT TRUE!..
Check my profile, and see the questions I just asked right now. I have similar situation. Read my last two questions and see how hurt I am.. and this the third week of my break up with her.
2006-12-29 17:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋