My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. I understand that I was his first girlfriend, but throughout our entire relationship, I always initiated sex..! I remember when we first got together, we were 18 years old and it took him 6 months to even touch me. Now that we are 20 years old, I confronted my boyfriend regarding this issue, I asked him, "Do you not like sex with me?" and he answered, "We just had it a couple of days ago, and I don't want our relationship just based on sex!". We have sex twice a week! I mean, my boyfriend is a really great guy, obviously our relationship is not just based on sex, since we had been together for two years now, but we do not a good sex life at all! What kind of a sex life do we have, when I have to beg for sex from him? according to my friend, a gay guy can sense another gay guy and my boyfriend does get attention from gay men. Is my boyfriend just senstive or is he gay, but doesn't know it yet
2006-12-29 17:29:32 · 26 answers · asked by College GurL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex drives vary. Some men just aren't into sex as much. If you are and he does not satisfy you, then your relationship will be difficult. If you are questioning whether he is gay, you are probably not getting what you want or need from him. You are both young and it's too soon to get married. Maybe he is shy. Maybe he is gay. Only he knows. Ask him if he'd like to take a break and remain friends for awhile. Or, if you really think he is not interested in sex with you, don't initiate it and see how long it takes him to do so. If he doesn't after some time has passed, you'll know what his feelings are on the subject.
2006-12-29 17:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. He could possibly be gay and either not realize it himself, or not be ready to come out of the closet. However, straight men can also get attention from gays so that's probably not a good barometer.
He could just have a lower sex drive than you do. He could have some sort of abuse or other bad experience in his past that makes him uncomfortable with intimacy, and that he doesn't want to discuss with anyone. I hope you can resolve things, but if it's really an issue for either of you, maybe you should consider moving on. Good luck to you both.
2006-12-29 17:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could well be gay... some people spend their life not being sure .. See what happens if you dont beg ... at your age he should have a bit more fire for you !!!! I have spent 20 years married to a guy who had a much lower sex drive than me .........it was always a problem ...my friends are convinced that he is gay but unable to accept it .. my ex also got attention from gay guys .
.I also work with a woman whose husband of 35 yrs (4 children grandkids etc)announced to her a year ago that he was leaving her because he was gay...IT CAN HAPPEN!!!!!. dont leave it too late to make your escape.. life can get complicated
2006-12-29 17:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 05:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say? He would no if he has feelings for men or not. Sometimes anti depressants as well as other drugs can control a sex drive allot as well.
Maybe that is the trouble.
2 times a week is really not all that bad and women alto of times want it at a different time then men do and that could be the trouble as well.
2006-12-29 17:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Redmac1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your boyfriend has other concerns about the consequences of sex. If he gets rid of whatever hang-ups may be keeping him from making any moves on you, you should both be okay. Getting attention from gay guys doesn't necessarily mean you ARE gay. I've had plenty of gay guys make passes at me, and I turn them all down, because I prefer women.
2006-12-29 17:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by ddey65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say really since he has sex with you, albeit a bit begrudgingly. but if he is attracting guys and sort of enjoying the attraction maybe he wants a guy insteads of a gal.
I guess all i can suggest is to look inside yourself and see if he is the guy you want or not. Do you want to be the one who initiates sex and occasionally has to sort of beg for it. Do you enjoy his company, his sense of humour, do you two share lots of interests and activities, do you ...
I could go on and on but you get the idea. So rather than tryign to figure out if he would prefer a guy to yo, it is way more vital for you to figure out if you really want to try to keep this relationship alive and vigorous. Keep in mind the sea is still full of fish so ther ear eplenty of guys out ther who would take his place and do their share of more than just the dishes.
2007-01-01 09:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might just not be satisfied. or he could be depressed, i read men show signs of depression waywayway differrently than women cuz they try to hide it. so their depression comes out in different ways. its possible hes bi, or he doesnt want to come out that hes gay. it really sounds that heas avoiding the subject of something. like he doesnt want to talk about it. sit down and say if u really loved me u would tell me the problem that you've been avoiding, make sure he knows its ok whatever it is. make sure he knows that you will be fine if hes gay or that you will be understanding of whatever it may be that hes hiding.
there always is that there is nothing wrong and he just wants to get to know u better personally. not all men are the same.
2006-12-29 17:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....?? If I was 20 again...... you wouldn't walk!! HAHA
I would look for signs, like does he ogle images of good looking men??. When he is around gay men, look at his eyes. Does he masturbate by himself?? Maybe sex isnt his thing?? Does he go for your butt during sex??
Sex 2-3 times a week is pretty normal for the average (married) couple. Maybe u have a higher sex drive??
2006-12-29 17:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by scorpiosa70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to talk to your boyfriend about these questions. Most guys have some attraction for other guys, see Kinseys Six Point Scale. Besides your sexlife, and attention from other guys , why are you thinking he might be gay?
2006-12-29 17:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Seph S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋