I was on my boyfriends laptop and his email was open and I opened a folder I called pics (I thought it was all of our pics) to see if there were any I could send to my friend. Well did I get a surprise, it seems he has been chatting to other girls on the internet and they have been sending him semi nude pictures. No actual nudity in a bra and panties or a close up of a low top and cleavage.
I am too scared to ask him what is going on but I am feeling totally worthless and unwanted.
Before this I never had any reason to mistrust him or feel I should. I have all these jealous feelings now and I am hurt because it makes me feel that I am not enough for him and I really want to confront him but what if it is just a little bit of harmless fun, sure I sometimes chat with other guys and they send me pictures but I DELETE them. It seems it is only one girl, but now I am suspicious and I start wondering if it is something more than just online chatting....
Any advice???
2006-12-29 17:26:42 · 20 answers · asked by tammy d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you be scared to talk to your bf about a serious matter? Don't be scared, just ask him. "WHAT THE HELL IS UP WITH ALL THESE GIRL'S PICTURES?" And see what he says..then he'll be the *scared* one, cause you CAUGHT HIM!
2006-12-29 17:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about it. If he truly loves you, he will at least talk to you about it.
I work at a NOSC for the US Air Force. At the "Network Operations Security Center" I get a lot of information related to IRC programs, including Yahoo Messenger, AOL AIM, and MSN Messenger. We are told that 60-70% of the people on the internet that send the type of photographs that you are describing are actually males masquerading as females. That little bit of information should be a help in waking him up.
One other thing to think about is this... whatever is in his email, he has you, right there with him. If you had access to his laptop and his email, then apparently you are close to him. Talk to him. If he can't realize what he has, do you really want to be with a person like that?
2006-12-29 17:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to chicks online and obviously in a sexual nature is already cheating on some level. It's really only a matter of time before he acts on it. Don't be scared. Confront him. If he gets mad, you'll know he's guilty as sin. The best advice is to get rid of the creep.
2006-12-29 17:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL! Talk to him and confront it - you deserve the right know - he is your boyfriend...i know it's hard to confront him with this situation - accusing someone of something so strong, afraid he'll be more distant with you, question trust, etc...but this is how a relationship works. You need to ask him in a non-confronting way. Ask simply, "hey, first of all, i don't want you to think i was going through your private things, but i happen to run into some pictures...i'm not accusing you of anything but i just want to know if there is anything going on - who are those girls? I'm not gonna get mad if there just friends but if there's something going on, you need to tell me. I deserve to know the truth."
2006-12-29 17:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey u have a reason to feel that way. He shouldn't have done that he shouldn't even chat online with girls unless he has ur promission. Thats what I do to my boyfriend and were straight. One time he asked if he could chat with his ex-girlfriend I said yes but he has to send me their conversation. He sent me it and there wasn't anything nasty one there. So the point of this is u have to have trust. Go up to him and ask him and if he studders dump him unless u want to kick the girls ***.
2006-12-29 17:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Govi's Gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost every gf i have had has cheated on me and i have learned that the best thing to do is confront them about it... explain how you found the pics and just ask your bf if the girl is just one of his friends or if its more than that... but if you really like him then dont be mad at him or you will start to burn bridges. if he is any kind of a gentleman then he will tell you the truth and do the right thing
2006-12-29 17:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, kind of a double standard.
Does it make it right that you flirt with guys but you "delete" the pictures, as opposed to keeping them.
Both of you arent into each other if you both are doing this... just move on and have fun
2006-12-29 17:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, pic's are a normal thing tho I do this myself I feel you in this situation as much as I know it puts ideas in your head,don't think that wa, if you disagree with it,he should stop let him know it isn't right for you,and it makes the relationship feel a bit uneasy....I love my girlfriend and I know I will stop she need only ask.
2006-12-29 17:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Primus Amare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you assume, ask him, It can be friendly fun as long as it's just pic and he's not going to see her.. but ask first and never put your self down for someone Else wrong doing, that is there stupidity...
2006-12-29 17:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by jakhiamylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a cheater, at least you found out now before kids and the rest of the nightmare happened.
Move along, don't be in such a hurry to be in a relationship.
2006-12-29 17:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by DB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋