2006-12-29 17:18:25 · 5 answers · asked by purple_puma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they were only supposed 2 be here a couple of days i have tryed 2 find them a place to rent there isnot one are they say they want live in the couple i have found i hate 2 put the kids on the street but im tired of my home looking like the dump im disabled and cant take care of myself should i say the kids can stay but mom dad leavesplease help me decide
2006-12-29 21:14:29 · update #1
Give them a deadline to get their own place. Give them the paper with a bunch of rentals circled & tell them you'll help them pack. Tell them you need your space before you turn into a real grouch and have the whole friendship go down the toilet. You have to set a limit on the length of your hospitality, or they'll never leave. It's not being mean, just practical. They need their own space too. Just level with them. Tell them it's costing you too much money for all the extra people in your home, and you want to help them find their own place. Notice I said "help". That doesn't mean you're gonna do it all. They've gotta put some effort in it too. Helping means you can call a few places and get the information, so that they can make an appointment to see the places. You should have established a set time for them to be out from the very beginning. You also should have insisted that they try to pay their way, as much as possible, even if it was to just help around the house. There are NO free rides. I'm sure you didn't get your home for free. So, break it to them in the morning. Tell them they need to find their own place within the next couple of weeks 'cause you want your life back. I know that sounds kinda cold, but it sounds like they've forgotten what they're there for. It's time to remind them. <*)))><
2006-12-29 17:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who are they and why did you take them in? Are they paying rent or anything at all? Are they working? Are they helping around the house? Sounds like things are getting out of control and you need to get a handle on it. Lets assume that there are two adults to go with the three kids. Collect the adults and discuss who owns the home and set some ground rules. If they don't want to live by your rules, suggest they live somewhere else.
2006-12-30 01:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU made the choice to take them in. So now you're wanting to seperate a family because NOW you don't want them there? I suggest you give them a time limit to be out by. You simply set yourself up to be taken advantage of and since they did now you want to cry "foul". That's what lessons are for...the learning.
2006-12-30 05:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not enough info...please explain in more detail...
If you took them in, how long for and why? Parents there too? Single mom?
2006-12-30 01:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lay down the rules, or tell them to get out!!!
2006-12-30 01:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by khjunior1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋