I used to get called ugly all the time when I was younger and now that I grew up, I'm suddenly getting called pretty by quite a few people. When I go out to shop or something, a lot of guys stare and a few have even walked up and started hitting on me.
The bad thing is, most girls that see me automatically assume I'm a really mean person and say hurtful things as I walk by. Things like 'I bet she had sex with her dad to get that top' or something to that affect. I don't mean to sound full of myself, but I can tell they're jealious, since most of them are total heifers.
But what I want to know, how hard is it to be considered 'pretty' and still keep your values?
2006-12-29 17:09:24 · 7 answers · asked by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To be considered pretty and keeping values both do not appear to be related. Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder and to keep your values is in your hand. The people who say that you are pretty, at least appear to be in positive frame of find, who can visualize you positively.
2006-12-29 18:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by dipaks262006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem with my son starting when he was about 2 years old. People at the mall, the grocery store, the post office, would come over and gush about how good looking he was. This went on until ... well, it guess it's still going on. He's 24.
Every single time this happened, and in private, I would talk to him about inner beauty. "Pretty is as pretty does." I never focused on his looks and would not let others forget that he had other qualities even more important. Today, he is a man of integrity, character, self-respect and thinks very little about his looks. He goes to college and is in business for himself.
Remember, looks fade, but character doesn't. It is unkind to call other girls heifers. From reading your question, it sounds like you might be a little conceited; try to remember what it felt like when you were on the receiving end of conceit. I hope you make the right choice...
2006-12-30 20:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am shocked that you, who grew up being called ugly, is now doing the same to others who aren't as attractive as you.
Beautiful looks can only get you so far, it's a beautiful personality that you need.
I once had a college roommate whom I thought was the prettiest girl I'd ever seen. Once I got to know her she had no personality and was rather bland. After a few months her pretty face wasn't so pretty to me anymore.
Bottom line, looks and values aren't related. Don't listen to what those people say about you and please don't stoop to their level by calling them heifers, even if you don't say it to their face. A snotty attitude is just plain ugly.
2006-12-30 03:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by Quintessa 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up and remember that "he who cares the least wins". In other words, if you let them know they're hurting you with their words they will always have power over you and they will not let you forget it.
People go through many stages of physical appearance in their lives. You'll learn that you choose who you want to be in life no matter what your physical appearance is now or at any time. Just remember your manners, keep your head up and be nice. Kill them with kindness...it'll eat them up! Living well is the best revenge!
2006-12-30 20:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Inquisitive125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not ur fault that u r pretty, u're blessed with a valuable thing, just act normal and go out with ur close friends and try to get to know new people, that will give u self confidence and after a while u'll just ignore people mocking u and u'll be ok.....
2007-01-01 06:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by what goes around comes around 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many, many attractive people who are also very good people. Don't let peer pressure get to you. Just because people are jealous of you and say bad things about you doesn't mean that you have to be those bad things that they say. Don't make the mistake of letting their focus on superficiality make you superficial yourself. Just try to be a good person and everything else will take care of itself.
2006-12-30 03:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know several "pretty people" who are good. The ones that are giving you sh*t are the ones that are ugly. Don't let them drag you down.
2006-12-30 03:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋