Follow up to a previous question - it is customary to invite the family of a groomsmen to a wedding that is out of state? Specifically a 5 yr old child that is very close to the groom and is very well behaved and always gets complimented by the groom as to how well behaved he is?
2006-12-29 16:38:59 · 11 answers · asked by Lynn S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm afraid that I did not see the previous question, however, here are some things to consider.
1) are there other children at the wedding?
2) is it a child-appropriate wedding?
3) will the child's parent's think it's a child-appropriate wedding (ie: would they mind the kid seeing adults drinking and such)
4) will the groomsman want the kid around, or would he rather be footloose and fancy free?
I don't mean to discourage you from asking the kid to attend, but I know these decisions can be touchy ones for some people. I think I would most likely invite the kid along. He would most likely have a great time. There's cake and lots of people. What's not to love?
Good luck
2006-12-29 16:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by ThePaulson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read both your posts....
Children are all or nothing.
If no other children are invited then no, no children. (except for children in the wedding party - they do NOT count.)
A bride and groom can't pick and choose which child guests may come and which may not. If they allow your child to attend, then they must open it up to all children of all guests. And who knows what they might be like.
The only compromise is to explain the situation and hardship to them and propose that considering the closeness perhaps the child be a Jr. Groomsmen. Then he could be included with his Daddy without offending other guests with children since he would be part of the wedding party.
But be prepared for a No. It may be opening up a whole Pandora's box of "what about my child?" which just won't be worth it to the bride or groom. They may choose to not have your husband be a groomsman rather than deal with some kids yes/some kids no. Couples often just have to draw the line somewhere and hope people understand (meaning you).
It seems wedding guest lists always beings tensions. Try to look at it from their side. I understand your stress, but try to understand theirs.
2006-12-29 18:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Although it does depend on a number of factors, it probably wouldn't hurt.
My husband is from the New England area, but we got married in the south (my hometown). We invited all of his family to come the thousands of miles to our wedding. And, all of them did end up coming. This included family friends (a bunch of children). For the kids, we did ask that they parents attend. Weddings are hectic, and it's hard to have little ones running around unsupervised.
2006-12-29 16:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, provided his parents are also invited. I cant imagine any parent who would willingly send a child out of state to attend a wedding of someone they dont even know...
Besides that, with the groomsman being the only one that child really knows, he will need another adult to help out.
2006-12-29 16:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the groomsmen is married you are required to invite his spouse, if he is underage - his parents. In most cases, if children are at the wedding - you would also invite his children.
2006-12-30 07:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite this child's parents, few would send a five year old to another state without them.
2006-12-29 16:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In wedding certain set customs are followed which vary from one country to another. I don't know what country you belong to.
2006-12-29 17:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly you should invite them. They would make the ultimate decision as to whether they could attend or not.
2006-12-30 05:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unless it is an adult only affair. No matter how well behaved he is, if they don't want him there, then respect that!
2006-12-29 16:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by bustylaroo99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a freedom of choice thing go for it HNY.
2006-12-29 16:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋