Okay, well I am a one woman man...always have been I think I always will be. I get no satisfaction out of the idea of nailing random skanks. I have had a tendency to get really interested in women but I am very safe and dont really pursue them until I know them really well. This usually works out because I find out there is something there that wont work out. Currently there are four women on my mind. Two I work with, intrigue me but the situations, being at work clearly, arent great. Another I met at a place I hang out and another I was great friends with for a long time but we had a tremendous falling out. It seems like everyday my mind switches, that I think one of them might be the best option (I havent really wanted to date in a while, self loathing, etc.). Given that I dont want to be the "typical guy" and have my cake and eat it too, I think this just shows I am not ready for a relationship. Would you agree, and whats my problem?
2006-12-29 16:30:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do agree, you're not ready. And you don't have a problem, quite the opposite actually. If most men thought things through before acting, the way you just did, a ton of divorces wouldn't have happened. I think that you're going to make whoever you end up with a very happy woman!
2006-12-29 16:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know yourself best of course, but I think it is difficult to know if you want to pursue a relationship with a girl until you spend some one on one time with her with that as a possibility.
I think you should focus on one at a time--do stuff together and see how things progress. The other option is to casually date them all, just don't have sex with any of them until you become exclusive.
I don't know your problem, but could you be afraid of commitment? If you are over 30 and have not had a serious relationship, maybe that is the case. Maybe you've been hurt before? I recommend reading relationship books to help you evaluate what you are looking for. I like the book How to be an Adult in a Relationship.
I agree that dating coworkers is risky. Also, the one you had the falling out with doesn't sound so promising. That leaves one--how easy was that?!
2006-12-30 00:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's very honorable of you. Maybe just try going for dinner with them (one at a time, lol) nothing needs to happen, just dinner so then you can have a one on one conversation with them and then see who interests you the most.
2006-12-30 00:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree. You don't have to be a typical guy. Make a Memoir about the girls. Figure out which one you like most.
2006-12-30 00:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by ClarissaKayeAnne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, relax. When you meet the one to keep your interest for an extended period of time, you'll jump right in with both feet. I submit that none ofo the 4 occupying your thought of late are what you're really interested in. So, just make yourself presentable & get out & about & (this is important) be AWARE of ladies around you, if you catch their eye, give 'em an honest open smile & let the good times roll. Good hunting, dear.
2006-12-30 00:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Clycs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should date them all and get to know them better. Make sure each one knows you're dating around though.
2006-12-30 00:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋