i have not had a bf in 1.5 years. all of my girl friends that have bf's made the first move. they flirted until they got the guy to make a move and then they flirted some more. almost throwing themselves at them, being super nice and stuff. i am not like that. i want the guy to come to me. i am not fliratious. does that mean i will not find a guy? do i need to make the first move???
2006-12-29 16:28:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It always helps to make a move. EVERYONE wants the other person to come to them, even guys. Guys are extremely shy in general, and they appreciate women who make an approach. At the very least, you're going to have to talk to guys a lot. I mean, how is he to know that you want to have something to do with him? We have more than our share of rejection from girls we already know, much less girls that appear to not want to deal with us. I wouldn't say that you definitely will not find a guy if you keep doing as you're doing, but the odds seem very slim. I suggest you start talking to guys and/or asking them out. Good night!
2006-12-29 16:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what, you haven't had a bf in a while. You sound like to me that you've got a lot more going for yourself than your gf, even tho they do have bf and you don't. However, my advice to you would be to get out of the house and mix and mingle a whole lot more. Thats the most important thing. Get out of the house and go where people are. Not bars/clubs. Smile at everyone and especially when some really good-looking guy notices you. Light up like a christmas tree loaded with lights. Be happy; let it show. This will make you more appealing than a ton of make-up. Don't try to impress him, let him try to impress you. Just remember to smile like you're a contender in a beauty pagent; keep your 'heavy' opinions to yourself and say a lot of things like "Hey, I'm impressed!" "Wow, you're strong" Gasp!, I really liked the part in the movie when.........Smile, smile and smile. Nothing wrong with flirting, just be cute in a wholesome way. You want him to be captivated with you. You're not trying to seduce him.
2006-12-29 16:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known girls to make the first move. However, when I had a boyfriend, he made the first move. I'm a little old-fashioned and I felt that a girl was kind of aggresive being the one to make the first move. Its like when ur getting asked to be married, you dont expect the girl to do it. Its just old-fashioned for the guy to be the one to ask the "marry me" question.
So yeah, being the one to wait for the guy to ask you out if okay, but you could be a little flirtacious to pick up the pace if he's taking his good old time, but that doesnt mean you need to throw yourself at him. Be yourself
2006-12-29 16:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't make the first move. It sets a bad precedent for the relationship.
Try to get comfortable with flirting and flirt with the guy you want.
You may not like flirting but it's the best way to let a man know you're interested without throwing youself at him.
2006-12-29 16:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by grubblywrigglysquigglywitchety 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to make the first move... if you like someone, just talk to them like you would a friend, and see how they react. Guys generally make the first move for some reason, probably because of when guys were in charge over women. Let him come to you, you don't have to put yourself out there.
2006-12-29 16:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by zozo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I myself dont make the first "move" but usually flirt like you said all your friends do. Flirt a little and just go with the flow. Usually guys are just as scared as you might be. Be confident and hope for the best. Dont be too forward or they might call you a whore [this happened to my friend before.] Lol, my teacher said something like this before trying to teach a lesson: "Flirting is kinda like fishing. Reel them in..give a little..pull them in..push them back." Act as if to be unavailable but tempting...
2006-12-29 16:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I'm the same way!!!! I'm started to learn that you need to make the 1st move. I did and that's y i have a bf now.If you see someone you would want to come to you just try to go to them and see what happens. I think you should try it out. Ur friends did and look they have bf. If you try it and it dont work then you know you have been doing it right ......good luck
2006-12-29 16:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by star_punky2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends. if your not a flirt then its kinda hard to get the guy to make the first move. no tht doesnt mean u wont find a guy. u just be vrave and make the first move. u want something , u set your mind to it and go 4 it. u make the move. good luck !
2006-12-29 16:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need to make the first move but maybe you are one of the types of women who like to be in charge. I like to make the first move, actually, sometimes not, it really depends on what type of person your going for. I say make the first move if you must and don't worry about it. If a guy doesn't like it, it's his loss, not yours.
2006-12-29 16:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't. Guys will come to you, but if you feel something for a guy, don't let the opportunity pass just because you don't make the first move.
2006-12-29 16:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋