I have seen quite a few questions abotu stay at home moms tonight when something had caught my attention. What is the point to staying home if your children are in school all day? If the whole reason of staying home is to care for your children, why wouldn't a woman go to work at least part time once their child is in school full time?
2006-12-29 16:22:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
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2006-12-29 16:24:21 · update #1
wouldn't you get bored though jim?
2006-12-29 16:26:52 · update #2
I have to agree with this one.
I saw a woman on tv saying how hard she worked. But her kids were in school all day. She worked hard in the mornings and again in the evenings but she wasn't doing much during the day. Also, a couple of her kids were teens and I didn't understand why she was doing so much for them in the mornings. They need to do things for themselves.
We homeschool our kids. But if we didn't then I'd be working. Sure, I'd still have to cook and clean but if there are no kids around that doesn't take that long. And if the kids are old enough to be in school then they can help around the house. I'd be at least working part time.
2006-12-29 16:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about it: even in our modern society, women are still the primary caregiver. I am NOT saying that men don't do anything. There are plenty of fathers who take an equal or greater role in their childrens' lives. But if a family can afford it there is no reason why one parent SHOULDN'T stay home if he or she chooses. Clearly there are many families who need both incomes. And of course there are some people who need that external socialization or personal growth that comes with earning a living.
When there is a parent to stay home, that parent can be more active in their childrens' lives. They can volunteer at school. They are always available to go on those field trips or to pick up Junior when he gets sick at school. Grocery shopping? House cleaning? It's hard to find time in my house and we don't have any children. Those things can be done during the day when there is no child or spouse at home. What about getting the bills paid? The car worked on?
I would have given ANYTHING to have had a parent at home when I was a kid. I wish there had been someone there who could have gone on more of my classroom outings or helped out more often with Girl Scouts or picked me up from school when I was sick without her being overworked and tired all the time. And in the summers it would have been nice to have a parent to take me swimming, to the park, or to do other fun things with me while I was out of school. Instead I stayed cooped up in the house all day and made my own lunches and watched a lot of TV.
Staying home isn't about childcare. It's about FAMILY care.
2006-12-29 19:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of reasons.
Emergencies - if Jennie wakes up sick, no need to get worried about care. Bob breaks his arm falling off the jungle gym and mom is there to pick him up.
Time issues - Mom can spend the day straightening the house so she can tend to the children when they are home instead of stressing about the house. She can also do dinner prep or other things like that.
Money - After buying work clothes, gas, care for the children after school and such would it really be worth having a job?
2006-12-29 17:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is plenty to keep you busy..houswork and errands. Kids have plenty of days off, half days, etc. ALso, I want to be there if my kids are sick or need a field trip chaperone. I want to be room mom and soccer mom, etc. I want to volunteer at the school and make my presence known. Right now my kids are still little and not in school yet, and I will probably go back to work once they are in school full time..but I am a teacher and will hopefully have the same or very similar schedule as they will. Just playing devil's advocate..because even now I do work part time. Some women just thrive being a stay at home mom.
2006-12-29 16:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by trevnme 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to be there to help out at school for your kids. They enjoy seeing you there and you get to know how well they are socializing when they are in the younger grades. Also, there is much less stress when one parent works and the other basically takes care of everything else. Some women do better working full time, some just working part time and some women are totally fulfilled taking care of their home/family full time. Everyone is different and each situation is as well.
2006-12-29 16:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by chatter 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a SAHM and my oldest is in 1st grade and my other in in preschool. Two things that prohibit a SAHM from working part time (if you mean outside of the home and not a work-at-home job)....1) very difficult to find a job that allows you "school" hours. If you want to take your kids to school AND pick them up, employers' part-time hours usually don't fit. 2) Once they are in school, you get busy helping in the classroom. There's a lot to do and at least at my daughter's school, they depend on parents' help immensely. Also, when they're in school, those few hours is time to get stuff done around the house because after school is full of kids' activities (sports, dance class...etc) and mom is busying driving everyone from place to place :)
2006-12-29 16:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by chnchita 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had already told my husband that when our girls are in school I am getting a part time job. Oh, that would be soo boring to sit around for 6 hours while my girls are in school. You can only clean the floors and toilets so many times. But my girls are young and we fill our days with playing outdoors, making crafts and reading. ^.^ My oldest starts school in a year and a half and my youngest in four years so until then it's paper cut outs of hand prints and paint on the walls. I loved working but after my first was born I didn't want to miss all her firsts.
2006-12-29 16:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys are in preschool Mon-Thurs from 8AM to 2PM and that's when I get the majority of my housework done. It's not the least bit boring because there's always something to do whether it be laundry or cleaning. If I have all that done, sometimes I tackle some bigger stuff like washing all the curtains or stripping the beds. Even shampooing the carpet if I think I will have the time. I have to be doing something all the time, I am a mover. I can find plenty to do when they aren't here.
2006-12-29 16:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is still little, so she's not in school. If I had several children that were all in school, I would probably get a part-time job. I see nothing wrong with that. But I would definitely not get a full-time job that would take me away from my family-- meals, picking up from school, plays, etc.
2006-12-29 18:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One reason would be incase their child gets sick, not all employers are nice about a parent leaving to take care of a sick child. And it's up to the family whether or not she goes back to work. Plus it's hard to get a job, especially if you are out of the work force for so long and/or don't have a specialized degree to get work working school types of hours.
2006-12-29 16:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by melashell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋