Grandmas not doing well : (?

Question

hi my grandma is getting ready to kick the bucket, and shes a realy good grandma and ill miss her so so so so much when shes gone (witch is in no more than a month), she had a good long life and she 84 so she running out of time any ways, and so any ways i was just wondering what are some good ways of copeing with it all? or ways to relax? or some ony who knows what i am talking about. thanks.

I USED THE TERM ''KICK THE BUCKET '' CUZ THATS THE TERM MY GRANDMA USED WHEN SHE TOLD ME ABOUT IT SMART @SS

Answer 1

lock yourself in your room with all the pictures/videos/items that has your grandma in it and ones with both of you in it and spend a whole day going through happy memories. it will be hard because you love her so much but she is gone and all you can do now is remember what a great granny she was. im sorry for what is going to happen and i hope you dont torture yourself over it for longer than you need to.

Answer 2

When you are with her, hold her hand. Talk to her about all the fun times you had with her and all the things she taught you. Tell her she was and is a good grandma and that you'll always remember her and will pass on to your children the things she taught you. Speak out loud to her. Even if she seems to be sleeping, still speak out loud to her. She will be able to hear you. Put on some soft music - especially the music she likes and just enjoy being with her. You sound like such a special girl yourself and you have obviously had a special bond.

Grieve for her - even now though she is still here. Utilize the Stages of Grieving codified by Dr. Marian Kubler-Ross:
Disbelief
Denial
Anger
Bargaining/Depression
Acceptance.

Write each heading on a paper , then write what that means to you. This will help you to deal with your feelings. Don't be surprised if you become angry at other people - called 'misplaced anger'. Know that you're not really angry at that person, you're angry because your beloved Grandma is going to leave.

I grieve with you.

Answer 3

Sounds like a pretty neat Gramma. Spend as much time with her as you can while she's alive, get her to tell you all her stories, you may not have heard them all and you may learn something that you'd otherwise never know. When her last day has come and gone, make sure you go to the funeral and any festivities held afterwords, An incredible amount of healing goes on at funerals, You'll need that.
In stead of dwelling on the fact that you are about to loose her, consider how incredibly lucky you are that of all the billions of people in the world, she was YOUR grandmother.

Answer 4

I know how it feels to lose a grandparent. It is sad to deal with it. Just know that she lived a fulfilling life and remember her memories. Cherish every moment that you still have with her. If possible spend as much time with her as possible if not at least keep the memories close. Don't get stressed out over everything. Know that her time on earth is almost over. Think of the positive and try to not think about the negative now.

Answer 5

You, there is no best way to cope with grief. Allow yourself all the time you need to get past it (in the event that it happens). Also if you have good friends, talk to them (especially the ones who have been through losing a loved one). All and all do not feel like you don't have to grieve!

I know how it feels....I lost a brother in 2005 and I still have grieving moments.

You are in my thoughts!

Answer 6

Think about ways to commemorate your grandmother's life. For me I love photographs when I lost my Mom I put together a scrapbook just of her life. At times it was difficult but now I am glad I did. I was able to show some of the things she loved and how she influenced my life. I am not saying your should scrapbook I am just saying find something to pay tribute to your Grandmother a little representation of what her life meant to you It also may help take your mind off of her being gone. I will be thinking of you and take care.

Answer 7

I had the best & when she was ready to "kick the bucket" she actually told me goodbye & she didn't want me to cry & grieve ; She told me she had a full life and all she wanted was for me to remember all the memories we shared & be happy & believe me I listened to her all my life & she never told me wrong .And I've never cried- I SMILE & REMEMBER & she will always be there as long as you hold her in your heart. ( she's been "gone" 11 yrs & I still have her. Be tough

Answer 8

If you could talk to her one last time, then that would be the best way to remember her. Just think about her in a positive way all the time. You should read "Good-by, Grandma" by Ray Bradbury. It really makes you think, you know? Best of luck to you and your family :)

Answer 9

That's sad. Just let yourself grieve. When people look for different ways to cope or relax they can sometimes be avoiding the pain. Just let yourself cry when you need to. When you're alone let the tears flow and cry your heart out. Some people avoid it because it's painful, but it's not dealing with it if it's avoided. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 10

Death is something that is harder on those of us left behind. You have to remember she has had a good long life and will be in a happier place and you want that for her. Maybe keep something of hers, no matter how small or monetary and send something with her of yours (bury her with it) so you know you will always be close to her and her you. When you say prayers talk to her also. Just keep her in your heart and it will help you through it.