I've been together with my girlfiend for 7 months.We started with 6 intense weeks,but we live far away & she had to go back to her country.I went to visit her 3 times,then we decided to wait to meet until the end of Jan,when i can go to her for 7 months.We r very honest to each other.We decided to have an open relationship & she met one guy for sex 3times,i met a girl & had a onenightstand. We since then agreed not to meet others cause we both got hurt,but our love deepened since these things happened & we appreciate each other a lot more.Now we only have 20days left until we meet, but another guy popped up in her life & she broke our agreement & had sex with him.She tells me he is nice & funny & he want a serious relationship with her & she could imagine it too. She asks me to give her time,tells me she's confused,but that she loves me.She's worried about her freedom when i come.I'm hurt & i feel i do a great sacrifice for us,while she doesn't seem to apprecaiate it. What should i do?
2006-12-29 16:17:20 · 20 answers · asked by Instant Problemsolver 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you plan to be exclusive in your relationship and she is worried about her freedom, she isn't ready for the relationship you are looking for. Either she loves you or she doesn't. Tell her how you feel and ask her to make a choice. The other thing you should think about is that if she will cheat on you now, who is to say that she won't do the same thing later. Trust me on this one, it is better to be on your own that with somebody who has so little respect for you and your feelings that they cheat on you behind your back.
2006-12-29 16:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Gr8Av8or 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being in a relationship is supporting one another. Step back a bit and look at what you have written: i had a lot going on - my mom was sick - i still kissed her, held her hand, showed affection - we just weren't sleeping together all so much for a while Where was your girlfriends support and understanding in this? Every relationship goes through hard times and you have to support the one who is going through troubles. It didn't look as if she was doing this for you. Yes you may have done everything you could for your girlfriend, but she took it for granted and when the going got tough, she went. In all honesty, you are better off without her, however much it hurts at the moment. One day, you will meet someone new and then understand what a proper relationship means. I know you still care for her and worry about her, but she is a grown up and has to make her own mistakes. Getting her back will not solve anything. What happens when you have more life problems? Will she walk away again?
2016-03-29 00:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your own message as if it was someone elses. There are billions of people in the world. Move on and someday you'll look back and say "Whew, glad I got out of that one".
2006-12-29 16:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Carman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is move on. She isn't in love with you... and frankly, you're not in love with her either. When you're truly in love with someone, you don't want to have sex with other people. You don't spend time thinking about having a relationship with other people. Don't waste your time and money going to her.
2006-12-29 16:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she can't decide then she doesn't love you as much as you think. It sounds like she's just keping you on the back burner as an extra man...either that or she's cruel and making it all up to see how you react...
2006-12-29 16:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by monkeysgirl04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships suck. You've both prove unfaithful, but she's proven more unfaithful... drop her and get on with your life and meet someone that you don't want to cheat on b/c she's your whole world.
2006-12-29 16:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok my bf did something like that to me. except we're too young for sex and he didnt cheat. but they would flirt all the time and he liked her. and he left me and went to 3 days after so id say leave her b4 she hurts u. it may hurt u but itll be worth it.
2006-12-29 16:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a different girlfriend. One in the same country.
2006-12-29 16:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rams N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I think you both sound pretty young , so you both are pretty confused but does she live far from you?..if so maybe its not really love but lust so you both have to sit down and see what you want for your lives before both of you get hurt worst
2006-12-29 16:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by genesis r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from whut i see...shes not a woman tht u deserve...shes been messin with ur head.im sorry if my answer doesnt help u..but thts the true...face it,shes not serious with any of the guys..she just MEAN to confious her self..
so get a woman in ur country..thts better..
2006-12-29 16:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋