how can i stop cutting?

Question

im 13 and i cut my arms, i have cut over 75 times, i cant stop, its the only way i know how to deal with stuff, i know theres something wrong with my brain but i dont know how to fix it, cutting myself helps me, its like meds only it doesn't last as long, i guess i cut for lots of reasons but one of them is probably cause it makes me calmer because sometimes i get so hyper and unfocused on stuff that im off in my own world and i cant control the hyperness, i can never stop moveing, i am always moving or fidgeting, except for when i am cutting.
what can i do?

i do have a counselor, just started going, ive gone twice and i have a really hard time talking to her, i took the depression survey and lied on it saying that i wasnt that depressed when the real answers were way worse, and ive lied on some questions shes asked me, i dont want to lie to her, i just cant help it, the truth is to hard to handle. and thats not really helping me right now cause i dont go to see her again till january 11 and i need help now, because im getting pretty bad, i cant just exercise because i cant sleep at night but i cant exercise either because my room doesnt have any space to exercise in and i have to be quiet at night so i dont wake up my mom or her husband.

Answer 1

Try 1-800-DONT-CUT, it's a hotline for cutters.

Also, invite Jesus into your life and ask God to heal you.

Answer 2

I know what you're going through- I'm a cutter. I've been one for three years. In earlier years I'd bang my head hard against the wall, bite myself, and pull my hair. I always thought seeing a counselor was weak, but you know, it isn't. It's harder to sit there for an hour and tell the truth than not to go at all. Be strong and find a new psychologist you are comfortable with. You'll know if she/he is right, because your gut will let you know. Remember: they can't help you unless you are honest with them. I won't lie, they won't prevent you from cutting, only you can do that. But each time you resist cutting, the stronger and more proud you should be of yourself.
I found when times got bad I would watch a movie, write poetry, or sleep (mostly sleep). If you want to talk feel free to contact me: [e-mail] labeling with something that will tell me it's you. Only you can stop the cutting . . . Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Leslie,

It does not matter how many times you ask this question, the answers will always be the same. YOU NEED TO TELL YOU COUNSLER!!! Okay! It’s not going to be one day you wake up and wow every thing is better, no Leslie it’s going to take time and your going to have to want it. Some how you’re going to have to write down or find away to let people know why you are doing this to your self. You think that you have all these things wrong with you, but I think that you only think that because of people telling you, you have things wrong with you. You were fine until Jr. High. You gotta find out what happened because I think it was a bit more then your sister not helping you any more. Even if you do start some type of medicine it’s not going to help. Trust me I know. It really complicated but your going to have to stop running away from your self because sooner or latter it is going to catch up to you Leslie, you need to except the truth.

Good day!

Beaver

And for those of you that don’t know, me and Leslie are friends and go to the same school and stuff.

Answer 4

in the past couple years i have had a lot of friends that cut and i even did at one point and as a lot of people say it is a problem an addiction and you need help but i never thought it was that way because i belived you can change your own like so eventaully i stop and started talking to my friends about it and why they are doing it and they had no real good reasons the one said because he was mad at his parents cus they were devorced and stuff but he did not no why he did it he said it just felt good like he could just be alone for a wile and life would not be happening it was a good feeling so i was talking to him and i said what does this do for you other than make you feel good does it even acomplish anything shure it might temporarly stop thing make you feel good but that cant keep on happening cus to one point people can die from this and then every thing will be gone good bad and it all and the worst part is we had such a short time here and we dont no when were going to go so just take advantage of the time you have and dont messit up with stupid things like this to waste it and if it is a serious problem coming fro someone else that makes you feel this way ignore them or try to stop it even tough it is realy hard when it comes from your own parents but if it is just go to your friends the'll always be there for you to

hope this help's you it did for me

Answer 5

Well i see you have already found that the cutting gives you shorter and shorter times of releif, so you have to cut more and more. Well it is time you go and get some help for that before you cut one too many times. Yes cutting is something that you can hide at first, and you do not have to go and talk to some strange as a therapist, and talk about what is really bothering you. It is a copeing skill but a very poor one, i know, i can show you where i have done that for years on end. Known a lot of people that has done that. But the truth is it still gets to get to be less and less releif time from it , the more you do it. It leaves those nausty scares, and sometimes it is really a hard thing to try to explain to someone, who would not have any idea why anyone who do that and think they got releif from it. But you do. You need to seriously go and get hooked up with a good therapist that has worked with cutters , you are only 13 years old, and you have a whole life ahead of you, and you don't need to be worry about cutting all the time. There are much better, and healthier ways to cope, but you are going to have to quit stuffing a lot of that stuff you stuff all the time, and be honest, and truthful to your therapist, if you want her to help, or him. No beating around the bushes. You really need to stop, and get some good healthy copeing skills and they can help you. You may need to go into a mental hosptail, where you will be with other kids your age, that have the same problem, and are trying to learn to quit, and deal with life differently. That is usually quit helpful i have found. It sounds like you feel like you are like a lion locked in a small box, and don't have any room to move around, you need to run, but can't cause you are locked in that box. Well let the professionals help you with that. They can, and if you don't feel the person you are seeing is helpful you have the right to ask for another person, and they have to give you another therapist. So PLEASE GO AN SEEK SO PROFESSIONAL HELP AND DO IT NOW......the sooner the better. Then you can get back to a more normal life, what ever that may be, no one really knows what normal really is. So please go get some help, learn new copeing skills, and learn to relax so you don't feel like a caged up animal. I would really like you to call someone right away to get help with this, cause it is a serious problem, and i would really like to hear that you are ok, and have a healthy life ahead of you. so you take care now, and god bless and keep you safe, now and forever.....PLEASE DO NOT LIE TO YOUR THRAPIST. IT IS HARD FIRST TO TALK , BUT TRY REALLY HARD TOO, IT IS INPROTANT YOU DO THAT. OTHERWISE YOU WILL JUST KEEP ON THE ROAD YOU ARE ON. THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE PULLING FOR YOU AND HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM, SO PLEASE TELL YOUR THERAPIST THE TRUTH, AND DO NOT LIE ON THE DEPRESSION TEST THAT THEY GIVE YOU. THAT IS FOR THEM TO HELP YOU..............YOU can always call the crisis line, and they will get you help, even the police will come over and sit and talk to you, not all of them are asses. You can ask to be seen by someone else there while you are waiting to see her again. You can leave her messages, and let her know you really need to see her again before that. Bug the hell out of them, just make sure you get in to see someone, when you need too, now stay safe, and call someone, the crisis line, hospital, they all will be happy to help you. So please do that, thank you.... stay safe..............

Happy Hoildays

Answer 6

I started cutting when I was 12. I can relate to what you're saying.
First of all, you need to really focus on stopping!!! This will become (if it hasn't already) an addiction. Perhaps you could start by talking to your parents and maybe your doctor. Also, try keeping a journal and write down your thoughts and feelings. Instead of grabbing your razor, knife or other sharp object, grab your pen and paper and put your feelings into words.
It also helps to be able to call a friend when the urge (to cut) hits. I know it's difficult to talk to people about this but, you really need to. Perhaps you could try working out as well, or anything else you enjoy. Try to put your focus and energy into something positive.

If you don't get a grip on this now, it could continue even as an adult. I have an adult friend who started at 13, she's now 27 and STILL cuts. Try to control this now before it controls you. When you get older, you'll be ashamed of the scars.

Best of luck to you!!♥

Answer 7

I used to have a similar problem except instead of cutting, I would punch a brick wall repeatedly until I was bloody or had a broken knuckle or two. I was about 15 when it began. My parents didn't even notice this (shows how much they cared, huh?) and my broken knuckles never properly healed. I ended up turning to drugs to ease all the troubles going on in my life. In doing so, I ruined my life. Please seek help, if your problem is something that you can't talk to your parents about, go to the school nurse. Tell her that you're having troubles and you need help. The school nurse is not just for colds, flu and skinned knees, she is trained and can get you the proper help.

You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you, sweetie, please get help, so you don't turn out like me. A thirty year old convicted felon (because of the drugs) living with parents and working for minimum wage at mc donald's.

Whatever is wrong in your life will get better, I promise. When you are at the bottom, the only way to go is UP!!!

Answer 8

You should seek some psychiatric help, cutting is life threatining and shouldn't be taken lightly.
Try talking to your mum about this. If you can't talk to her then to another adult such as school nurse or guidence councellor, teacher, Your Local GP or another adult that you trust.
In the mean time, try putting a rubber band around your wrist, then everytime you get the urge to cut just snap the rubber band. That way you will still get pain, but not the life threatining risks.
PLEASE get help NOW.
Good Luck : )

Answer 9

you need to be comfortable with your counselor, so go to a new one. Are you taking any meds?? Because cutting is really bad and it shouldnt be used to "tranquilize" you. Put away your cutting instruments and go to a doctor. I know its hard but you really have to and once you stop, you will be soo glad you did. Also, think about what you are doing to your body and how not right it is. Cutting is really not a way to deal with your problems, it willl just make EVERYTHING worse, that i promise you. Just remember that everytime you feel like cutting. You are so much better off not doing that.

Answer 10

When you feel like cutting, get a red soft tip pen and write on your arm what you are feeling or thinking.

I know lots of people who start self injuring young and find it hard to stop - someone above compared it to an addiction, which seems fairly true. If you can find other ways of dealing with difficult feelings when you are young, you are saving yourself a world of hurt (literally).

Answer 11

Think about the people you love. That is what I did. Okay sometimes I still get the urge, but I get through it. I f you can deal with the pain of cutting I think you can deal with the urge of cutting. Why did you even start? I started becase my parents got divorced. Again just think about how every one you loved would feel if they found out you were cutting.