Well, I pretty much explained it on my title. Help me out with somethin. I've never had a girlfriend. I've never gone out on a date with a girl. Neither have I shown any attraction for them. I'm a novice when it comes to women. Sure, I value them, I respect them, I treat them like precious rubies, I share my feelings with ones that I know. Unfortunately, I've been overlooked, passed over, ignored, received no invitation of a date. I've seen too many girls end up with the kind of guy that gives them no value. Leaving nice, caring guys like me only to feel like an outcast. Ever since the 8th grade I've felt this way believing that I'm wasting my time with girls and things will never change. I've spent my days going to the mall, movies, bowling, restaurants, dances all on my own. I don't think that's all bad, but at times it gets really boring. I'm a single guy and I'm saving myself for marriage(if it happens). I'm try to decide rather to marry or keep my virtue 4 life
2006-12-29 16:07:41 · 21 answers · asked by tsunamiwavestorm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand your pain. All the guys think I am wierd and unattractive so they ignore me too. Here is my advice. Don't give up. Someday there will be a woman who will love you very much and will make you very happy. As for now, just live life and do the things you love to do. There is always a soulmate for everyone.
2006-12-29 16:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Erica L 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend didn't have a girlfriend until me. He was 20 when we started dating and now we live together.He got passed over, and was always the "friend". Just relax and don't put so much into it. Find something you are really passionate about, a hobby, volunteering whatever. Doing what you love is a natural girl attraction plan. And dating in high school is a joke. If anyone that young is looking for a lifetime commitment, they had better be very mature or able to handle heartbreak because its not likely that the first person you find will be "the one"
2006-12-30 00:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. Is or was there any feelings you felt for any girl in your entire life? Do you find that there is someone out there for you or do you feel that there isn't anyone who can satisfy what you want in a girl? I think you either, haven't found the right girl, or your looking in the wrong places. Assuming that you haven't found the right girl, I say try and date someone, get out there and have some experience in the dating world. Maybe you'll find someone that really appeals to you. Keep up with your morals, if you find the girl suited for you then you can get married. There are girls out there that want someone like you, you just have to look a little harder, and be a little more open. Believe me, most girls don't look for jerks, or for the really good looking ones, we want personality and commitment and we want to trust our significant other. Give them trust and the love they want and you've got it made. Good luck!
2006-12-30 00:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by J <3 J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I wish I could say the same thing...but I understand where you are coming from except we are on a different level...I'm a single mother and not alot of guys like to date women with a kid. Women and men these days are getting more selfish and disrespecting of each other and others. If I was you I would find a girl for only as a good friend, just someone to talk to. I wish you the best.
2006-12-30 00:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by tradeangel2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think abstinance until marriage is honorable. That includes abstaining from yourself by the way. You should try looking in a good church for a virtuous woman. Your odds of finding a woman whose price is far above rubies will greatly improve. Pray for your special mate to come into your life at just the right timing. Make sure you are mature enough to support a wife and family and live apart from mom and dad. The first commandment of marriage is to leave your father and mother. Sounds like you've had some good training. Keep making wise choices and God will direct your paths. (and please don't tell me you are hinting that you may have homosexual tendencies just because you haven't fallen in love with a woman yet!)
2006-12-30 00:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WOOWW...you are the guy version of me!! I am 21 years old, never had a bf, have been on a date once. I want to save myself until marriage because I believe it is sacred. We are definitely rare species... I am also a novice when it comes to men, guys are very intimidated by me, telling me that I am TOO perfect for them (that I deserve better). I also feel like an outcast...But I still hang on, praying everyday to God that someday he will have someone for me who is going to value me and respect me. Keep your virtues up, a good girl who is worth for you will come :)
2006-12-30 00:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great if that is true!! stay like that until marriage
but in the meantime just ask a girl out & if she rejects you ask another one later on
join a club or do volunteering work & chances are you will meet some nice girl at the same time you are doing good for your community
2006-12-30 00:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i had the same problem as you about 7 years ago I wanted a girl that understood the value of love and its possibilities. Waited a long time too. but they always come around . Its better to wait for the ones thaty understand and be really happy, than to accept less than what you want and be "kinda " happy. Im still with the girl and its always like we first met. I cherish her as she does me and the wait was well worth it
2006-12-30 00:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by lorneandtee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK if you can not have an urge to be all up on girls you are a really nice guy and don't worry you'll find the perfect girl cause for every man there is a woman
2006-12-30 00:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by Chi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have to be a little bit more outgoing and ask a girl if she wants to hang out with you, or go out on a date. You sound like a pretty good guy. Just get up the guts and ask one. what do you have to lose except facing a fear?
2006-12-30 00:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by justasking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋