Have you chosen not to have children?

Question

Have you chosen not to have children? Why was this the best decicion for you? What are ways that God blessed you because you dont have any kids?

Answer 1

I've never been able to carry to term. My husband and I have had three miscarriages: two first trimester, one second trimester. We applied to be considered in a special circumstance adoption, but we weren't chosen. We are considering adopting through foster care, but I'm not sure whether we will or not.

We're getting old. :o) My husband will be 50 this coming year and I'll be 40 at the end of 2007.

I've mourned not having children. I've worried over it. I've prayed about it.

Right now I'm a CASA - court-appointed special advocate - and I'm going back to our local university and majoring in psychology. I hope to always work with children and advocate for them in some way, whether I ever have children or not.

(I do believe that I have three babies waiting for me in heaven, and I can't wait to meet them. Even though losing them has been sorrowful, they have been a blessing to me and they have changed me for the better.)

Answer 2

After much thought, I have decided that I probably do not want to have children. I use the word "probably" because that is not exactly written in stone. Though it is close to being so.

Honestly, I have never had a very strong desire to have kids. Yes, I have pictured myself with kids from time to time. But in the end, I just think I would be happier either on my own or with a spouse. And of those two options, I would much like for the second; but the first will do as well if that's how it has to be. I would like to find a woman who shares my values and get married. But if I don't, then such is life.

I know there are some people who would frown upon this decision, but oh well. I have learned that, regardless of how I am living my life, there will always be someone telling me I should be doing it differently. I try to just ignore those people and do what seems best for me.

Answer 3

I have absolutely no desire to have kids right now. I'm still in college so once I get my career off the ground and get some money in my pocket that may change. But right now that's the last thing that I want (and #3 on my list of fears right under me dying and my fiance dying). I think God has blessed me with a great job to give me stability while I go to school, 3 loving cats that light up my life, a wonderful fiance who loves me, etc. I feel I am doing the right thing by not having kids that I cannot afford to support without government assistance. I wish more people had the attitude I have.

Answer 4

I am never going to have children. I have a godson, whom I love dearly, and that's enough for me. I know that if I ever do have children, I wouldn't make a great mother because there are things I am going to do with my life and having children could ruin that. I'm not going to have kids just to end up resenting them later. I do love children, and I think other people who choose to have them are good people for wanting that, but I believe some people really shouldn't have children, and I am one of those people. God blessed me with the determination to fulfill my destiny WITHOUT children, and I'm very grateful for it.

Blessed be.

Answer 5

I did not have children partly because I did not find a good husband and partly because I was a liberated woman and did not want to be a slave to a husband and children. If I had it to do over again I would have tried harder to find a liberated man who would have helped or had enough money for a Nanny. Then I would have had a couple of kids so I would not be all alone in my old age.

Answer 6

Yes we have chosen not to have children; largely due to a desire from both of us at a young age that did not see children in our future. In addition unfortunately this has been reinforced because my wife has Menieres disease (debilitating ear problem) that will not allow us to have a quality of life that is suitable for raising children. My wife has seen many specialists, and has exhausted all options; at this time there is no cure for this affliction. Hence, we researched the power of pets on chronic illnesses and it resulted in the choice of a baby English Bulldog. Because of our dog Peanut we have been able to enjoy the gift of parenthood from God.

Answer 7

I chose a vasectomy after three kids. I now regret it. I did not know how much joy my kids would bring me. Such joy from what I thought would hinder and bring me poverty. Shameful! These are simply some of my reflections, take them with a grain of salt.

Answer 8

well i just want to say i'm a christian...and i'm going to have kids one day..i love god and he wants people to have kids just not in the way some people do, get married and he does not care u could have 5 kids.

Answer 9

We've chosen not to have children, for various reasons from economical to personal.

Answer 10

i am not old enough to have kids i am a teenager but when i am like over 20 and are married then yes i would like to have kids