why r ppl so rude on here?

Question

i ask very serious question. i marry in 2 months. my parents pick man, i meet him two time only. i ask what i expect for wedding night and i get only mean answers. my mother say i should do what he want me to and i know what happen in sex but i am scarred and need advice from other ppl pls no mean answers

i know what sex is but am virgin there is difference between knowing what something is and knowing what it will be like.

Answer 1

When you met him did you like him? If there is some sort of attraction and if he is sweet it will all go smoothly. It's not like he's just going to jump on you. You will probably talk and laugh, then kiss, they lay down and kiss, and so on.

By all means though, if he's accidentally doing something that feels bad or hurts you need to gently let him know or he will continue to do it. But chances are that won't happen because most men care about women and are gentle and to be honest, he's probably just as nervous as you. :o)

Good luck!

Answer 2

We are rude because sometimes the questions are idiotic. Sometimes we are rude because it is fun and we just can't help ourselves. That's just the way it is and if you post here, it's best to get used to it and not complain because the more you complain, the more you will be victimized. Now on to your question. I feel sorry for you and cannot really relate to your question. If someone forced me to marry another person and I only met that person twice and possibly did not like the person either, then I would leave the house and never return. I sense that this will be hard for you to do, however. What's not clear is what, exactly, you are afraid of - sex or getting married to a stranger? I would be more frightened of getting married to a stranger and possibly getting stuck with a louse for the long term. You might want to look at the bright side because sometimes these arranged marriages actually do work. Good luck. I'm glad I'm not in your position.

Answer 3

Hi, OK first of all you will get rude answers from ignorant people who think all cultures should follow their way of thinking and cultural belief system, Americans I am looking in your direction. Is your marriage arranged? My sister in laws was (am a European married to an Asian) She didn't want to have sex on the wedding night so they didn't, ( no point if your too nervous or scared as then it just hurts) Get to know your husband better kissing touching etc which will help you relax and get you in the mood.
Don't listen to your Mother having sex when you don't want to is rape husband or no husband.. Hope that helps and good luck

Answer 4

Don't pay any attention to them. Sometimes people think some questions are silly, when they are perfectly reasonable.

The reason a lot of people probably got mean over your other question is because in America many women lose their virginity before they get married. I didn't look, but I would guess that they are jealous that you saved yourself for marriage when they did not. I think you have done a good thing.

Now . . . as for the question, I think you might have better luck searching the Internet instead of asking questions on Answers. There are websites run by people who actually care what they write. I would offer to help you myself, but my knowledge is limited because I am also a virgin. I'm sorry you had to tolerate so many mean answers. Good night!

Answer 5

The truth is nobody can tell you what to expect. We don't know the kind of man you are marrying, so to tell you whether he'll be romantic, loving, or just take you and then be done with you is another story. If you know about sex, then you know the mechanics of it. Expect that much. Honestly, it could very well be that you are both exhausted from such an exciting day that you'll just fall asleep. The relationship is new for you both, consider yourself friends until love develops, take the wedding night for what it is. Being scared is perfectly normal....hopefully your new husband will understand that (and he may be scared too)...just ask him to be kind and gentle and to go slow.

Answer 6

I agree with Hiromi, maybe you should tell him that you want to wait until you are more comfortable, or know him better, to be intimate with him. Just because it is your wedding night it doesn't mean you have to have sex with him, particularly since you don't know him very well. Maybe, if you have the opportunity, or if it's appropriate, you could ask him what he expects of the wedding night and express your fears about it.

Answer 7

You will probably get better advice from someone who has had a similar experience, in an arranged marriage. If you have sisters, friends, aunts, etc. you can talk to, they can give you a better understanding of what to expect. Those who have not been through the same thing, who are unmarried or who have a "love marriage", do not have the same perspective on what you are going to experience or why you might be nervous.

Answer 8

People are mean because they are bitter in their own lives and get joy out of others peoples pain, it's sad but true.
Now on your question.
Noone can tell you what your experience will be like, that is an experience that is unique for EVERYONE.
So there is no answer for you, just ask him to go gentle and it will most comfortable for you that way.
Good luck!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

go to a church and ask someone there. the problem on here is you cant tell genuine questions from fake ones and you leave yourself open. some people get off on descriptive details of what to expect on your wedding night. you will have sex then go to sleep hopefully