Why do people get mad at someone else for being a stay at home mom?

Question

I do not mooch off of my husband F.Y.I it is both of our money. I chose to stay home and i see that i am not bothering anyone in no way of how our family lives. Why do people look down on us SAHM'S....?

Is it that people are mad because we have a MAN that will work and provide for their family? Or is it they think it is okay to stick their kid in daycare all day so they do not have to deal with their own kids?

How does a life of a stay at home mom affect those who work?
Why do some people think that all stay at home moms sits on the couch all day?

Answer 1

thier jealous because they have too work and come home being tired so that make them mad they think you stay at home and relax and lay back but what they dont understand is a stay at home mom is a lot of work too ...but people are just jealous like that

Answer 2

SLow downnn!! I was a stay at home mom also. For kiera's whole first year.. I found mostly that people just wish they could do it themselves. There are many reasons why people cant do it and or wont.. Most of them are jealous of the ones who can. So therefore they take it out on making you feel bad so they can feel better. Its really rude but really don't take it personal. Just know you are giving your kids the best!! YOU!! I miss being a sahm. The reason i can't is because I made a choice to work to give my daughter a better life. Like health Insurance i didn't like being on state help and stuff. If you have the gift of staying home and having someone that can provide for your family you are truly blessed. Don't worry about what people say because you should just feel so great about yourself all the time.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you have had to deal with this. The people I know and surround myself with know that I am a stay at home mom and that my husband has no problem providing for his family, the way a man should. I have never had to encounter this problem so I don't know how you feel but feel good about yourself. You are putting your children's needs ahead and being at home for them is healthy for them. It's nice to have a mom to go home to every day when getting home from school. A mom who is easily accessable when a problem arises, like a boo boo or the sniffles. Give yourself a pat on the back and don't take others negatives to heart. Have fun and enjoy your kids while they are young. They grow so fast.
But we do have to account for the mommies that work and raise their kids. Some mothers don't have a choice on staying home or not, they have too many bills and not enough income and they have to put their kids in daycare. It's not because they don't care and don't want to deal with their kids, it's because they need to work to put food on the table. Dads and moms sometimes have to both have jobs to keep the household going, they love their kids and when they are off work they devote their time to the kids. My mom and dad worked and I had to be watched by sitters and my grandma for a long time, I turned out fine. I knew when they were home that I was the center of attention and they loved me. Cut the working moms a little slack, most of the time they don't have a choice. I am lucky that my husband makes enough to give us the lifestyle where I can stay home, it used to not be that way. I had to work when my first daughter was little and 6 hours a day she was with her grandma.
But I thank my hubby for working so hard so I can stay home and raise our girls. God bless.

Answer 4

Sounds like someone just ticked you off. Try not to let it get to you too much. I think though that some women may be a little envious that they are not able to stay home and may really want to. They need to recognize though that being a SAHM is no walk in the park. It is tough, but a very special and wonderful opportunity that once missed can't be gotten again. I do plan to put my girls in daycare just a few times a week because I want them to interact with other children, but I am so glad that my husband and I are able to work together and I can stay home with my girls. Don't let anyones comments get to ya. Us SAHM's are doing a great thing, investing in our family. Take care!

Answer 5

Your premise is misguided Why are you questioning that in simple terms given which you do no longer artwork exterior the domicile you presently have not say in what your husband does whilst those movements impact your marriage Your value on your marriage and your voice could have not got any much less value now than it ever did-this relies on your place in the marriage no longer your financial contribution you haven't any longer without warning substitute right into a new child or a 2d class citizen- you're nonetheless the different 0.5 of the couple So- you and your husband ought to sit down down-without the toddlers around so as which you will communicate what the desires of the kin are-and the obstacles of the marriage. Then create a plan for assembly those desires and conserving those obstacles whilst exterior forces attempt to horn in and step over those obstacles additionally, bear in concepts that your husband could extremely be feeling a brilliant burden due on your earnings loss- so decrease him some slack and make a catalogue to instruct him how lots money you're unquestionably saving the family members by employing being a stay at domicile mom. (If there's no longer a huge decrease value expenditures-then you definately are no longer relaxing your area of the deal-as you could in simple terms approximately pay for your self in decrease value expenditures till you incredibly have been paid incredibly properly at your job) good success- this is a tricky factor to maintain on with via with yet very very precious you additionally can ought to get your priorities immediately whilst it includes your daughter. toddlers do no longer ought to take up your finished day- and relying on her age you could have the skill to establish a schedule that helps you lots of time to handle your examine and nonetheless locate how you would be a low in fee SAHM-protecting in concepts that your new plan has your hubby doing his area too

Answer 6

My mom has always been a SAHM, and I think that was a better choice. There are 4 kids in the family, and she has sucessfully taken care of each and every one. I hate when people assume SAHMs dont work at all, because I know for a fact that my mom had the jobs of carpooling, groceries, cooking, cleaning, driving kids to the doctor, ect. Maybe some working women are jealous, who knows? But if you have ever heard the song "mr mom" you will understand that being a SAHM isnt all that easy..

Answer 7

It's just a small group of people who get mad, basically because they aren't happy with their own lives. My mom stayed at home with us and she most certainly did not sit around and eat bon-bons. She took great care of us and would take us to the park, read with us, teach us our alphabet and counting, etc. I am so proud of her for doing that for us, and now I'm doing the same for my daughter (and second baby on the way). I've worked in day care, and there is no way that I would put my children in one of those. I understand there are single moms who have no choice and I feel for them, I really do. But there are women who claim they have to live off of two incomes and that I just don't understand. My husband does not make loads of money, but he is smart with the money he does have. I'm not going to worry about the negative people, I'm just going to be happy that I have no guilt or regrets about how I'm raising my kids :)

Answer 8

Hi, I am a SAHM. Call me what you like. This was my husband ideas. He wanted our children raised by us, not daycare, strangers or other family. I am sorry to be so blunt about this but you had time to make them, you should take time to raise them. Look around at our society today. I do understand that some one parent homes have to work and have no other options. But I see so many who choose to work. Just not willing to give up Gucci handbags for walmart. I have been truly blessed to have raised my children.If you can't raise them yourself, why would you have them. This is so unfair to the children. You brought them into this world, don't you think the least you could do is raise them.

Answer 9

well for some mothers we still have to work because our spending habits are not so good. I think it is GREAT that stay at home mom's exist. I wish I could but my hubby and I have too many bills. Although, I do go to college full time and raise my daughter and take care of my hubby. I work fri sat and sun 12 hour shifts so that I can be home when my daughter gets home from school. And when school is on break, my hubby takes care of her because he works third shift. I guess maybe jealousy takes a big part in what you are asking. But ya know, some of us moms that have to work do it because staying home all day is boring, especially if your kid is in school.

Answer 10

I think it's wonderful for a mother (or father) to stay home with their children. I don't have any kids yet, but when I do I will stay home with them. I'd be afraid I'd miss too much being at work all day. Your baby only has it's first step once!!! Do what you feel is right for you and your family!!