this guy i've been dating for 6 months now and we went through soo much drama because we work at the same place but it's died down and i don't work where he works anymore but it really hard for me to trust guys because of my past relationships he tells me how he feels but it's hard to believe so i never express my feelings because i'm scared........i don't want to lose him....how can i tell if he's being sincere when telling me how he feels?
2006-12-29 15:50:07 · 10 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are hundred and one way to manipulate a person!
Regardless, the last thing you should be worried about is if he manipulating you. Ask yourself, what do you mean by manipulating? Is it a manipulation if he is trying to get close to you and learn about you, just to see if you and him are compatible or not without opening too much and possibly hurting his feeling. If he is investing time, energy, thoughts in to you just to spend some time with you, is this a manipulation? If all he wants out of you is to have a great evening, to enjoy fantastic sex and possibly make a good friend, would that be a manipulation?
People are too paranoid about others, rather then simply enjoying things as they come and having fun along the way. If you worry to much, you would miss out on all the wonderful times. Ask yourself, would that guy really wants to be with a woman who is paranoid and insecure, or would he rather stick around with a woman who knows how to enjoy herself, has a great attitude towards life, open minded, adventures and a wonderful friend?
The point is, have a good time for what it worth, enjoy his company and the more fun you have the more he would want to stick around to be part of this fun and exciting life that you are living.
2006-12-29 16:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good way to tell is by his actions as well as in the little things that he does to show you how he feels.......the way he looks at you, smiles at you, etc.......It's natural for you to want to protect yourself after being hurt in the past, but don't be too hard on him if he is indeed sincere because then you'll let a good one get away. His words and actions should match. Keep in mind that it's important for you to give just a tiny bit, even if slowly or else he might not think you're that into him. The last thing you want him to think is that you're playing games and not serious about getting to know him better.
2006-12-29 16:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of drama at work? Ask yourself some questions... do you have any reasons not to trust him? Has he lied before? Are his words followed by actions (ie does he do what he says he will)? Does he treat you with respect?
I don't have too much to go on, but I think you need to slow it down and try to build trust with him. Try to express your feelings to him without leaving yourself completely open... a relationship takes 2 people and if you're being closed off to him why would he stay with you? Explain to him you're scared of getting hurt. A relationship is all about communication and sometimes making yourself vulnerable.
2006-12-29 16:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to trust him, look deeply in his heart and give him a chance. If he is playing games with you, you'll find out one day. But not every guy is the same, there are nice sincere guys out there. So, to really find out the truth, you just have to give him a chance. all the best.
2006-12-29 15:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Farah_Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive had the same problem..i think this guy likes me but he was my realy good friend before and since weve been dating hes acted the same...so what i would do is tell him how you feel and see what he thinks about it and if he has the guts to tel you how he feels then keep him! nd try to talk more or something
2006-12-29 16:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by j0<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only dated him for 6 months..and most are not themselves for the first few months of dating...so,,,guys are cunning and its hard to tell if he wouldnt play mind games
2006-12-29 15:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by blondie34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put him through a test!!! find a few girls that you know and he doesn't know you know them and have them try to get at him and if he accepts then he's a dog and if he blows them off then you know he's being real and tell him how you feel.
2006-12-29 15:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by ladyt1stunna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not sincere because guys are not, they use women....enjoy while you can today, it will be over soon
2006-12-29 15:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not ready for a relationship.
2006-12-29 16:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him
2006-12-29 15:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by toby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋