My boyfriend broke up with me last April and I hadn't heard from him until a few weeks ago when he emailed me. His email was basically saying that he had some things to tell me, asking if I hated him, etc. I replied with a not-so-friendly response, and he replied saying saying how he's sorry, I was a great girlfriend, admits he treated me badly and I deserve better, he misses me, it hurts how he gave me up, etc.
Basically what I am wondering is why is he doing this. Do you think he's apologizing just to make himself feel less guilty for how he treated me, does he want a booty call, or does he want to get back together?
Basically we got along pretty well but he got himself into some problems (financially with moving, etc) and his life was messed up so I guess no grounds for a healthy relationship then. He says he has a new job is less stressed now, etc.
Thx for any replies :)
2006-12-29 15:41:32 · 4 answers · asked by Principessa 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are receptive to possibly working things out with him... which it sounds like you are then take it day by day with him. Do overly commit yourself back to him just from the words he is telling you right now.
Admittedly, I've learned over time that men say exactly what they mean. So, I don't necessarily think that he's being manipulative or anything from what you said that he wrote in his email. Men always realize what they had when its gone. Seriously, so sometimes they come back. The stubborn ones... half-a$$ come back. But anyway, like I said... take it day by day with him. Don't throw it in his face that he treated you wrong in the past! That's just gonna hurt and anger him. Essentially you've already won the battle... cause he has come running back to you.
I don't know about the booty call stuff... that will happen only if you let that happen. But getting back together... it sounds like he's wanting to rekindle something. Just stay calm, don't over-analzye too much of what he's saying because what he's saying is exactly what he means.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 15:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel girlfriend. To be honest, he could have explained the situation better than than he did. I think the reason why he broke up with you is, because he was probably interested in someone else. I don't understand, if you were a good woman to him, why break up with you? People in general ( I Think ), uses there personal problems to make it more easier to get out of relationships they no longer wants. I just feel that people need to keep it real at times and stop being phony!
2006-12-29 23:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mesha 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's on the rebound. Keep your distance. You don't know how many others he's tried to hook back up with. You could be number 7 or 8 on the list. He'll just keep going until someone gives in.
2006-12-29 23:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This looks like trouble to me. A guy who is really honest about getting back together would be on your door step, looking you in the face and willing to apologize in person.
2006-12-29 23:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋