Does anyone ever feel getting distant away everyday from parents, brother, sister and everyone you knew before your marriage? I feel I am being unfair for giving too much attention to my wife and kids and less care to my parents. Whatever I do, it doesn't seem enough...
2006-12-29 15:35:49 · 12 answers · asked by Freddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your relationship w/your parents and siblings and friends is changing because your role in life is changing.
Your time and the way you want to use it is completely different than before you had a family.
You have entered a new season in your life--everyone with a family does. Devote yourself to your wife and children.
Everyone else's demands must take a back burner to them. Otherwise you could lose everything. One thing you could try is scheduling; schedule specific time with your parents and siblings, like dinners and get togethers at people's houses.
You are blessed to have an extended family around you; establish your boundaries. You'll be fine.
2006-12-29 15:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH yessssssss......even a little before I got married all my sisters were in different states far away as well as lots of relatives. And it can get very frusterating because a lot of my money goes on travel seeing them. Plus I don't get to see my family as often and feel sometimes guilty that I don't atleast phone more often. It's like everyone has so separate lives, you know? Too bad it's not like the olden golden days when most relatives lived closeby and everyone was able to gather together on all the holidays. I realize this could be a blessing too in some ways. But when you get married, they are your whole life. And your friends become a very important and special part of your life as well. After awhile you just get used to it.
We're only human. We can't do everything. Try not to expect too much of yourself. It's not worth the stress, take it from experience, believe me!
2006-12-29 15:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
soreness is an unusual difficulty. Burning a finger or stubbing a toe can harm all night, yet once I shattered my wrist into 20 products (bones protruding), i did not experience something in any respect. i assume i became basically into "operation mode," and that i found out that soreness could be a incapacity in getting mandatory scientific help. i don't think of the worst actual soreness can come on the factor of the psychological soreness many human beings have suffered. Merry Christmas, and each and all of the final to you and your loved ones. And be careful!
2016-10-19 04:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a very good person because you WANT to be close to everyone. It's not easy.
You're in the typical 'sandwich' generation. Being wedged in by parents & siblings on one hand and wife & children on the other. It's very common.
The hardest thing in life, I think, is balance. But it may take actually diarizing times/dates to see those that you want to see/talk to.
See if that helps.
2006-12-29 15:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them what they would like. I felt the same with my parents, and I asked my mom and she said to just spend more than 5 minutes a week with her (which is true, that is what I was doing) Now I spend an hour or two with her, just the two of us, and talk or just watch tv. I try to do that on Sundays. It takes a little planning but it's usually worth it. All relationships change, it's to be expected, but they arent going to be with you forever so it's worth it to try.
2006-12-29 16:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your new family are your wife and kids and your parents have to understand that. Just try to balance your time, like I call my mother everyday that makes her happy. Find out what would make them happy like a weekly or monthly meeting, like going to dinner or brunch.
2006-12-29 15:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by Alde228 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to be closer to your wife and children than your birth family. You should spend time with them but your first duty is to your wife and kids.
2006-12-29 15:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not marrid yet, but I stay distant for privacy reasons not to mention they're all critical and controlling.
2006-12-29 15:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...you have your own life now. You shouldn't feel guilty. Just drop them a message now and again to let them know that you are thinking of them. What more can they expect?
2006-12-29 15:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN YOU BOTH GET MARRIED, YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO GIVE UP YOUR PARENTS. IF YOU MAKE YOUR PARENTS FIRST, YOU ARE LOOKING AT A D-I-V-O-R-C-E. YOU PUT YOUR WIFE FIRST. IT IS IN THE B-I-B-L-E LOOK IT UP. CONCENTRATE ON YOUR FAMILY.
2006-12-29 16:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋