I met this really cute guy at my new workplace. And the problem is - he is attached! In the beginning, I was really shy and although he tried talking to me, I didn't respond to his attempts in making conversations. Then, I sort of gave in and we became friends and just as I was getting closer to him, I discovered he's attached. At this point, we went out for movies and long talks in the park (that sort of thing). I was quite sad but I knew he love his girlfriend very much. But his girlfriend doesn't love him as much as he do. I knew he treated our movie trips as just plain outings as friends but I couldn't help feeling attracted to him. I do not contact him but usually it is him asking me whether I want to catch a movie with him. I know I should just leave him alone, remain as friends and see how the situation goes. But I don't know whether I should wait. There's a guy going after me. Honestly, he's a nice guy but there is not much attraction between me and him like the first guy.HELP!
2006-12-29 15:31:53 · 17 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it go. Sounds like he is at least a potential cheater, and you know how that saying goes. Keep him as a friend at work and if he becomes single, then see what develops...but still sounds like a cheater.
2006-12-29 15:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try harder to stay away from this guy. He says that his girlfriend doesnt love him as much. But that is only his side of the story. Think about this, would you like it if you were his GF and he was going out to a movie with a "friend"? Dont become the other women, you are better then that. Move on, if his GF treats him so bad, why is he still with her?
2006-12-29 15:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy doesn't know what he wants but if it is just friendship from you why not just let it be that and enjoy your time with him. Maybe it will become more but in the meantime you might want to give the other guy a chance. If he is really interested in you he will understand that you are friends with a male and who knows the attraction may build. Good luck to you and have a happy year!
2006-12-29 15:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cynde L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable that you are attracted to this guy. He may not realize that you are having these feelings. If he is asking you to go see movies with him, you should probably tell him that you can't see him outside of work anymore and explain to him why. I would suggest that you spend time with this other guy. Take things slow. It will help you take your mind off the first guy, and you might grow to like him more.
2006-12-29 15:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by AK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON .. how would YOU feel if YOU were the girlfriend that he is supposedly attached to? You are BOTH skating on thin ice here. IF you were ever to become his girlfriend then just wait .. after a while he will find somebody else to tell how "his girlfriend doesn't love him as much as he do". You are wasting your life chasing a guy like this..MOVE ON..
2006-12-29 15:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be friends with him, who knows some day they might not be together, you never know. But don't push it because you could ultimately lose a really good friend. If it was meant to be, time will tell, but until then, enjoy the great friendship.
2006-12-29 15:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask yourself how you'd feel if you were in his girlfriend's position. I'd like to add that you don't know what's in his girlfriend's heart, so you don't really know if you love him more. Truly.. if you really loved him.. you wouldn't tempt him to cheat on his girlfriend. Love doesn't do that. I'd suggest you move on. If there is something to be had between the two of you, it will develop in its own time... not in your waiting time. You'll like yourself better, too.
2006-12-29 15:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Tara C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
toughy take the guy you like out for a drive and purposely run out of gas use the time to get aquainted and if he puts out you know the rest after you know get the full gas can out of the trunk and fill up the car remember to fill the can lol
2006-12-29 15:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by cliff c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are attracted to him. There is no pressure with someone who is attached. Stay away. You work with him, plus you will be doing something wrong if you try to break them up.
2006-12-29 15:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A girl attached to her phone is just oh so hot...
2016-03-29 00:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋