help, my mom remarryed after my real dad left for someone half his age. and the guy she married, she met on the internet and finally she met him in real life and he asked her to merry him on the second day, before she really got to know him. now, almost 4 years later they fight almost 5 times a day, (really) and i know my mom is nit-picky but my step dad is the real proberblem, he just keeps putting her down. he ever told her she should end it, (not fun) they've been to councling. and they've been to the pastor (the pastor made them get councling) anyway, my step dad goes in there to the pastor and acts like he's the one thats being hurt. and me and my brother and i see it all the time, and know what really goes on, not the lies my step dad tells. i really want to talk the our pastor, but i know he would tell my mom, and i really don't want that. and she says "if you would just hug me when we fight, i will shut up" i think get real, but what do i do? do i talk? or let it go?
2006-12-29 15:31:05 · 7 answers · asked by jenmatchmaker2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How do you know he would tell your mom? Talk to your pastor.
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2006-12-29 15:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem almost exactly but it was my real dad and instead of a pastor it was my grandfather..... really the only way to get peace is them to get away from each other my parents tried alot of things for YEARS to help thier marriage.... my mom would tell me the same thing that if i huged her or told her that the fighting was geting out of hand she would shut up but when the time came it never happened.....if they don't get away from each other the fighting will get ALOT worse... after my parents stopped thier marriage my mom became alot happier and so did I!
2006-12-29 23:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by cat-o-doom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh this is sad, your mum is acting like the child and you the mother. I would take your brother and go to the pastor you need help, sometimes parents do not know what they are putting their children through. Its not fair that you grow up in this enviroment, have you got auntys grandma or someone close you can also talk to.
2006-12-29 23:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's upsetting that your mom and step dad fight and I know you wish you could do something to stop them but you can't all you could do is pray about it. Getting married that soon in their relationship wasn't a good idea but it's their mistake not yours. No one can fix it but them. The only thing i can tell you to do is pray to God and ask him for guidance.
2006-12-29 23:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They need to work out the problems or seperate. Life is to short to argue all the time. The best you can do is make sure you give them nothing to fuss over.
2006-12-29 23:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your mom and let her know how much their fighting hurts you.
2006-12-29 23:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell DHR you do not need to live in all that bull
2006-12-29 23:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋