WHAT EXACTLY...do you stay at home moms do?

Question

Esp. those who only have one child and stay home.
I mean really now, all you do is mooch off your husband and spend all his money. Doing laundry in the real world wouldnt even make one months mortgage. I think stay at home moms are leeches and need to get the butts in a job, instead of livng off someone else paycheck. You stay homes get to drive around in your suvs that your husbands bought you,and go shopping or do some housework, which is way easier than having to go to a REAL job everyday. Does anyone see what I see?

Im so sick of seeing these non working moms at the malls buying whatever with their husbands money, not there own.
They drive new suv's and do dishes for it...wow thats hard...not.
I know of some and they live in these nice homes in the nicer end of this city and they dont work but stay home all day, wow that is so hard, living in a castle and mooching of their husbands.

Answer 1

The best thing I can say to you is exactly what my husband says to me: I'm highly underpaid and under appreciated! By the time paid professionals to do what a stay-at-home-mom does your husband would be BANKRUPT!! Let me break it down for you-
1. Personal Chef
2. Child Care Giver
3. Laundry Service
4. Full Time Maid
5. Personal Taxi Cab (for shuttling kids where they need to go)
6. Accountant
7. last but not least- A prostitute at least once a week (cuz we all know that men are horny little critters!!)

My husband thinks that I deserved every last penny that he has spent on my 2004 Ford Mustang 40th Anniversary Edition, my clothes, my jewelry, and anything else my little heart desires. He treats me like a princess for staying home with our 6 kids cuz he knows this house would fall apart without me!! AND he prefers that I stay home NOT sitting on my butt while hes out making his family a living like any REAL man would do!!!!!

Answer 2

I doubt you'd even read this after the amount of responses you've received, however, being a SAHM myself, I do feel obligated to say something.

Being a mother is a full time job whether you have a "full time job" or not. The difference, when you "work outside of the home" you get a break. You get to socialize with other adults for hours at a time before having to go home and deal with everything that parenting is. Stay at home mothers have a lot on their plates. Very few actually "have SUVs that their husbands bought and go shopping". None that I know have the luxury to do that.

I'm sorry that you are a bitter person because you have to work and are missing out on all of the wonderful things your children accomplish every day. If you even have children.. Which, by the sounds of your Question make me wonder.

I have nothing against working mothers - but I do have a problem with working mothers that think being a SAHM is a walk in the park. When is the last time you had to stay in the company of a child, or children, for a full week with no breaks, not even to go to the restroom or take a shower, to yourself?

Answer 3

I personally have been a stay-at-home Mom and a working Mom. Yes I missed our daughter while I was working but in no way was it harder than staying home with her. When you're at home you NEVER get a break. I forget what it's like to shower or go to the bathroom by myself. Atleast when I worked I could socialize with people over the age of 2 and take a pee by myself. Some days I even looked forward to going to work so I could get a break! Also, have you ever tried to clean a house or cook dinner with a 20 month old trying to "help"? It takes about twice as long that way. My husband works 12 hour days so when he gets home it's not like I get a break then either because he's so tired. I am in no way complaining because I love that I'm the one raising our daughter instead of throwing her in daycare where she'll just neglected. I'm not putting down the Moms that have to do it but why do it if you don't have to? Wouldn't you want the best for your child? I'm just so tired of people looking down at stay-at-home Moms! Why was is so acceptable 30 years ago but today it's considered being "lazy"? How about you stop putting down Moms that actually want what is best for their child?

Oh yeah... when you get married isn't it BOTH of the people in the relationship's money. Last time I checked my name was on that checking account as well, sweetie. When you get married nothing is just yours anymore. So I'm not out spending "my Husband's money"... I'm out spending OUR money- on diapers, groceries and clothes for our daughter!

Answer 4

Hubby and I used to work fulltime with three kids but the childcare was too much and wasn't worth spending time away from them. For three kids I was paying $90 a day for them to go into before and after school care. The holidays are terrible and they are the ones that cripple you. Fulltime childcare 5 days a week. So hub and i decided one of us would stay home and I didn't earn as much so that was that. We are so much more happy and relaxed. My husband comes home to happy kids, a lovely meal, nice fluffed up pillow, clean fluffy towels and an appreciative wife. I have worth!!! He appreciates what I do and we work together as a great team. When you are a good team you know that at any given moment the tables could turn. We are a family and we look after each other we don't mooch. I also make all executive decisions to do with money. I pick the house. I choose investments. I had a house before my husband and we made loads of money off it to buy another one 'together'. This is our house. Not mine. Experience would tell you that it is a mans purpose in life to please his partner and if the partner is happy then 9 times out of ten he is too. So when you next see a mummy out shopping for shoes or the like, playing her part by keeping the economy alive with 'their' money, she is happy and so is he. Lots of sahm's also volunteer their time to help charities, schoolgroups etc and without them this world would be a lot shittier. Don't be a hater girl!

Answer 5

Let me start with you really should never be a parent. You have no idea how exhausting it really can be.
I don't live in a castle. I live in a low rent 2 bedroom unit (roughly the size of a box). I have only one child and since she has no brothers or sisters I'm her playmate as well as her mum. I run the whole house I make all appointments and do all the housework. I run errands for several family members that are unable to do themselves as well. I get up really early (around 5.30-6am) and don't stop until 11pm. The nights my partner is home I get free time. (like now). I work just as hard if not harder than most people in payed employment.
I don't call myself a stay at home mum becasue I'm always out running errands and taking my daughter to activities and appointments. So the home part really doesn't suit any unpaid mum.
I call myself a residence general manager. My job at home is just as demanding as anyone in this position in the workforce.

Answer 6

You really think being a stay at home mom is easy??? OMG you haven't the first clue. First off, the work is NEVER finished. There's cooking all three meals and making snacks for the kids. Cleaning up every room in the house. Laundry is never ending. My husband might make all the money but I am the one who handles paying all the bills. I don't have the fancy SUV that you are talking about. I don't have a car at all at the moment. My husband has been taking me to the store and to make sure that all the bills are paid. He NOW sees what I have been going through. Being a stay at home mom IS a REAL job. To me, the best and most rewarding. I have been a working mother, as I also am an LPN and was doing private duty nursing with a vent patient. I do think it's harder to be a working mom and keep up with all the housework, because I have seen both sides. But I don't see us as leeches as you described. I work hard here at home. I make sure that everything is clean, all the laundry is done and that my kids are fed, bathed and well taken care of. I also have the privledge of getting plenty of one on one time with my kids ( I have 3) and get to play with them more and teach them, instead of sticking them in a daycare with 10-15 other kids, where they seemed to stay sick all the time. Yes, my husband is the "breadwinner" here but I treat him with the respect he deserves. I clean his clothes and cook him meals and I love him. I try and show it everyday by taking care of him and our children. In all honesty, it sounds as if someone is a little bit jealous of SAHM's...........or else you wouldn't be worried about it.

Answer 7

I have three children- one of them school aged. I have a disabled mother in law that requires being cared for. I have a 17 month old and a 3 month old.
Basically child care would cost more than I would make at a normal 9-5 job with the prices being $140 a week per child. Plus if I were not here to care for my mother in law she would have to go into a home which there are no funds for.
My day is cooking, cleaning, laundry, bathing, feeding babies and mother in law, changing babies and mother in law.
My husband is a 2nd shifter so I wait up for him to get home shortly after midnight and night time is my only time to myself.
I have no time to shop. Generally either my husband or I will go on the weekends to shop at Wal-Mart supercenter for groceries.
So in answer- I have many responsibilities and this is a financially appropriate situation for us. I enjoy being here most of the time but there are other times I'd kill to have a job and get out and see other people. But it's not possible. I'm sad that you categories and stereotype all Sam's because some of us are hard workers and have many responsibilities. It's not very fair when I know I work harder here than I ever did anywhere else and I don't ever ask for help from my husband.
I have no SUV- we cannot afford it. I have a Ford Taurus that my babies are squished into. And I was recently able to shop at Wal-mart for some pants that fit me after I had my last baby.

Answer 8

LOL I can see you right about now, stomping your feet and crossing your arms, while shouting "It's not FAIR!!!!" Get a freakin' grip already! WHY do you care what other people do or how they choose to live? WHAT makes you the authority on how others should live their lives? And HOW can you judge if you haven't walked in both pairs of shoes?
Honestly, you sound like a jealous little brat who can't find someone who's willing to take care of her... gee...wonder why? Could it be your sick attitude? Hmmmm.
Questions like this just make me laugh at the sheer ignorance they exude.
Good luck finding anyone that will deal with your twisted mentality for much longer than it takes to fart.
Btw, I am a stay at home mom who has also held fulltime jobs in the past and had my kids in daycare. The "benefit" of making money was not worth the time spent away from my children. And another thing, when you marry, it's not "his" money and "her" money... it's JOINT (unless agreed upon otherwise) and his is hers, and hers is his. If you were slightly intelligent, you would know this... and if you were married, you would know this... guess you are NEITHER.
Crawl back into your hole, loser.

Answer 9

Okay I am not a stay at home mom, but I wish I was. I hate to have to work I'm missing out on the most important part of my kids lives. I don't see it your way, my best friend is a stay at home mom, she has 4 kids, she cleans house, cooks runs errands, gosh I wish I had the energy she has. I get home from work and I don't want to do anything. I'm tired. Do you even have kids? Thats a job in itself.

Answer 10

i am a stay at home mom i have a 23 month old son and am expecting my second i have been a stay at home mom since my son was born i think you must be a ignorant person to have to ask this question apparently you must not have kids or even find someone dumb enough to marry you if you do have kids they are probably in a daycare and arent gettin the real attention they need no i dont drive an suv and i dont spend all my husbands money we live with my father who is disabled as well as my mother so on top of my kid i also have them i take care of i do laundry keep house clean and help give my son a better life he is a whole lot smarter and safer than at some daycare or babysitters and my husband for your information wants me home so his son isn't left with some random person before you go judging stay at home moms maybe you should get to know some of us first you might learn something