Are you a bad parent if?

Question

I have this friend that, well she used to go out alot and leave her baby with her parents.I mean out to drink and party. The first time she did it her daughter was about 2 mths old. She used to do it nearly every weekend now it is just every once and awhile. What bothers me is not that she goes out and parties but that she leaves her overnight and sometimes goes to diff cities. She is a young parent and always makes the excuse that, her mom is okay with it and she is young and still has her life to live.
How do you feel about that?

Yes I am aparent our kids are 6monhs apart and she is always trying to get me to go out with her.

Answer 1

I don't think it is very responsible of her to go out like that. So what if her mother is OK with it. So what if she is a young mother, she's still a mother and needs to behave as such.

Answer 2

I had a friend that did the same thing, I could not understand it but her and her mother were fine with situation. Except a few times when the daughter left for 3 nights and 4 days with out calling, her mother got a little upset- mostly because she did not know where her daughter was. My mother has told me that being a grandparent is much funner than being a parent and loves to watch my kids, though when I first had them I did not let them stay the night until they were 6 month old. After my divorce though I pretty much had my kids live with my parents for 6 months while I went a partied it up, every week I made sure that they were still ok with it though. Part of me felt guilty, but part of me needed a lot of alone time with out my kids, reminded me too much of being a "family" with my ex, yet he was out of the picture. Anyway. It really depends on the people involved in the situation

Answer 3

Sorry to tell your friend that you give up the right to go out and party when you give birth - but you do. Even if her mother doesn't mind, the child is THIS GIRL'S responsibility - not her mom's. She needs to grow up and knock it off. Hopefully, since it sounds like she's slowed down partying some, she may be coming to terms with it.

Encourage your friend to do the right thing. Maybe hang out with her sometimes at her place with her and her baby.

At least she is making sure that someone responsible is looking after the baby, but this isn't what will be in the child's best interest in the long run. If she didn't want the responsibility, she should not have gotten pregnant. (Which brings up a different concern, if she's going out partying and getting tipsy, what will she do if she ends up preg with baby #2?)

Best of luck.

Answer 4

She may be young but her first priority should be her child. And I don't mean leaving the baby with her mother either. However, as long as her mother goes along with it your friend will continue to act like a person with no responsibilities. She's a good example of why a young, single woman has no business keeping a child. Why young women don't consider adoption anymore is beyond me. She certainly wasn't thinking of the needs of the child. There's lots of people out there who would have been more than happy to give that child what every child deserves to have - a loving, caring, at-home-in-the-evening type of parent who doesn't see it as an inconvenience.

Answer 5

as long as her parents are not feeling taken advantage of and the baby is safe she is fine to go out.People hire sitters all the time to go out and party or what ever. It is much better to leave the baby than to take her to the party right. As long as she isnt trying to pick the baby up after drinking to drive home I think she is okay to let the grandparents babysit

Answer 6

I think her mother is contributing to her being such an irresponsible parent. Unfortunatelly, some times people like her never grow up.
There's tons of fun things for us parents to do with our kids. I do know that a lot of moms lack the circuitry to be mothers and should not be. If grand'ma wants to take care of the kid, it might not be a bad idea if she does full time and with full parental rights.

Answer 7

Honestly? She has a problem...an addiction to partying. She needs to learn to direct her attention towards her child and away from the clubs. That is NO excuse that she is "young" and "still has her life to live". If she truly believed in that statement, she would've thought of that BEFORE having her child. When you become a parent, it is YOUR responsibility to cherish your child, watch her, and not expose to her the dangers the mother is getting into, not dump her at her mothers.

Answer 8

First of all she is a bad parent because she needs to be more home with that baby then parting if she did not want a child she should have kept her legs close if she was my friend I would have called child protection services because that is called negliet

Answer 9

Maybe you don't realize but having a child takes alot out of a parent we need breaks if the grand mom is watching the child while she is going out then it is not a problem. plenty of grandparents take there grandchildren for the weekend if the child is not hurt then mind your business.You must not have kids

Answer 10

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