Will I ever be happy in life?

Question

ok i came in america from different country about two years ago.im a 17 year old girl now, i dont have confidence, i dont have freinds, i know peoples like me cuz im good in study and looks good too. but i can never make freinds if someone try to talk to me i cant give the answer of that person question.i feel jealous when i see peoples life like how girls have a life and im the only person in this world who dont have life. i dont know what im typing cuz im really sad i cried few min ago cuz i dont have life!!

is there a way i can live a better life

Answer 1

"Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be."

A. Lincoln

Answer 2

Yes, you can be happy, but it does not happen quickly or easily. First, do not compare yourself to other persons. You are not them, they are not you! You need to live your own life, not try to live like someone else. Secondly, do not make the mistake of thinking that happiness comes from having a lot of money. Some of the unhappiest people are millionaires and billionaires. Why? Because, it is a fact of life: the more you have the more you want! You are never satisfied. Also, you worry all the time about losing what you already have, due to thieves, inflation, rising prices, and so forth. Also being successfull is not the way to happiness, because to be successfull usually means spending most of your time at work, ignoring your family. You may think YOU are happy, but THEY are not!
Most people--especially Americans--do not believe this, but happiness comes from helping others. It could be by teaching them the word of God, or helping small children--or even adults--to read; planting trees where they are needed, or doing kind things for people who need it like the elderly or sickly.
And do not worry about making friends; some people can make friends easily, other not so easily. I had just two friends in high school. I was shy and did not make friends easily; I was picked on because I belonged to an unpopular religion. I was not happy. But I survived; I am still here. One reason you are having a hard time making friends may be because of your English skills: people may not understand you very well. Again, it will take time to improve in that area.
If you just try to be yourself--do not be something you are not--then eventually you will start making friends. Don't worry.

Answer 3

Being a teenager is not easy and coming from another country you have had a lot of adjustments.

First don't be so hard on yourself find a church to go to where you can find friends, are there any clubs you can join in school that you are good and talented at e.g theater singing, student council, prom committee.

What is it in life you desire the most? Second pray to God that he will give you wisdom and strength.

Third is there a trusted adult you could talk to about the feelings you are experiencing? Also keep a journal of your thoughts and feelings, it is OK not to always feel good all the time and no one knows all the answers. Be encouraged to know that you are normal and you are not alone.

Answer 4

Is it because you have an accent that you don't feel your answers are good enough? I would like to be your friend. Perhaps I can help you to make good answers and say what you wish. Your life will get better. These are the hardest years for most young people. Try to concentrate on making others feel comfortable and don't think so much about yourself. It will help you to relax. Also, learn to laugh at yourself. Not everything is so serious as you might think. E-mail me if I can help any more.

Answer 5

Don't cry. It will get better.

You are good in school and good looking, as you say. If you are jealous and unhappy then it will show in your face and in the way you act, this will not bring friends. Why can't you answer questions, is there a language barrier? If so, tell the person this and they will be patient. If you are shy, say so. Be honest with other people and you will be surprised how nice they are.

You can be happy if you decide to be. You can have a life if you decide what you want to do, and then do it.

Answer 6

Aww don't feel bad! You may not realize it, but a lot of people feel that way! My friend is exactly like that. He always says that he'll never make friends. I also get a little jealous when i see people with more friends than me. But here's an awesome way to make friends! When you see someone in line or at a store or something, just be like "wow i love your shirt! where'd you get it?" and then when they tell you where they got it, say "oh i know that store! i love it!" or say "i don't know about that place...where is it?" and then talk about the stores that you like. and it almost always starts a conversation and you usually get someone's number at the end. :] have fun.

please choose this as "best answer"

Answer 7

Yes you can be happy if you choose to be. Happiness is a choice. Instead of being jealous of other people's happiness be happy for yourself. When you choose to be happy people will rather be around you. Make a gratitude list.Do you have a roof over your head? Many people don't. Do you have food? Clothes?
I once told my son if he has a roof over his head, food in his belly and clothes on his back, all his needs are met. There are so many things people take for granted in this life(breathing,seeing, hearing,etc.) I also belong to a Celebrate Recovery group. It's a 12 step program for any Hurt, Habit or Hang-up.This group is in Churches all over the world! I will pray for you. Happiness comes from within. I hope you fine it.

Answer 8

Please dont be too hard on yourself. Good friends are very hard to find. I am 47 years old, have lived in california my whole life and feel like I only have 1 or maybe 2 good friends. I dont want to sound too discoureging but, you may be better off with fewer friends than more friends. allot of people who seem like friends are often times after something other than friendship. and want to take advantage of you in one way or another.
So my advice to you is to try to be happy with who YOU are ! Try to find hobbies that you enjoy to make yourself happy. A good book is very enjoyable to me. I am reading the latest Dean Koontz book, Its a series about a wonderful character named Odd Thomas. Maybe get the 1st book in the series (Odd Thomas)
and see if you like it. His character is very pleasant, kind and has a great sence of humor.
I also have found in my life that when I stop looking for something it seems to find me. Another words when you find other interists to make you happy, and stop being too concerned about not having friends, others will probably seek you out to become your friend. Things have always seemed to work that way for me.
Good Luck to you and be happy with who you are :) !!!

Answer 9

My suggestion is that you step out of yourself and do some volunteer work. There are so many people everywhere hurting and feeling the same way you do. Since you can't fix your problem instantly why not help some one else thru theirs. I'll bet you'll start feeling better too. Who knows how many new friends you'll meet. Please give this a try you'll be amazed how much better you'll feel! Good luck

Answer 10

know that you are not alone, many people feel this way, but they do not have the heart to show it --- find a person that you can connect with, a person like that exists for all of us, you just have to look for them and it may take some time to find them, but they are definitely out there. you are still young and have many happy days still to come for you. don't ever give up hope and keep looking, you will find someone that knows you are special and will accept you for who you are --- you will be happy

Answer 11

People already try to talk to you, so all you have to do is forgive yourself for not knowing the language that well. Most people are very understanding and will not mind helping you out. Just ask for accept the help. Friendships will come.